Questions: Break Up & Divorce

I don't get it... I love my ex-boyfriend (we broke up over 4 months ago) but we don't work as a couple & it breaks my heart because that means someone else is going to get this great guy. I really do want him to find someone that makes him happy but I don't want to watch it happen.

When we broke it off, I said goodbye. He said, "No, we'll be friends." He knows I'm not an advocate of being friends with my ex's. I told him I didn't bring that kind of baggage into our relationship and I don't plan on bringing it in to the next one. Anyway he's totally disregarded my attempts to cut him out of my life and says he refuses to disappear.

I tried to explain that it hurts me to talk to him because I still love him and I need time to get over it. He said, "that's dumb, we can still chat about a basketball game..." I feel myself giving in but think I may be doing myself a disservice.

I miss being able to call him up and tell him about my day. He was my best friend! But how do you move on if you fill that void with the person who left it?

I would really like to know people's take on how it works being friends with the ex.

Every guy I have ever dated has never said they wanted to break up or end the relationship. Each has tried to be mean or ignore me instead of just telling me. I'd really rather the guy just say, "I'm not into you," "I don't have feelings for you" or something. I think I'd probably thank the guy if he told me this! It's ok that it's not working for you. It happens that way sometimes. By making a girl wonder, worry, and not giving her closure you just make her feel foolish and thereby a little angry. I wouldn't feel anger if the person just told me straight up what they want or don't want. Please answer, why do guys avoid telling a girl when they want to end the relationship?

I'm a pretty calm person and rarely get into arguments with people, so it can't be that they think I will "make a scene" or yell at them. I've never even yelled at a boyfriend!