How can I end a booty call relationship?

[Anonymous]

This girl and I met a while ago and we started dating. We hooked up right away and over the past 4 months, we've been seeing each other about once every two weeks. The problem is that the girl has lots of daddy issues and I wanted to help her take get her pride back up. The Problem is, that she is bring her negativity into my life. I like her, but only as a friend. Sparks don't fly when we have sex. We've both been trying to be friends without sex but very time we hangout, we end up having sex anyways. And she feels bad because her dad wasn't their for her while she was younger and I feel bad because she feels bad and also I want to graduate from college. My question is, how can I be her friend without sleeping with her? She is a really nice person, and I'm usually friends with all my ex. Is there anything I can do to permanently stop this of and on booty call. I don't want it and it's not healthy for the both of us.

Please help.

thanks

Damon

[Simple-Simonette]

You can't always be the nice guy in life, especially if it keeps you from what doing what you want.

Yes, it's nice that you're taking her issues into consideration. Yes, it's nice that you don't want to hurt her feelings. But if she is affecting your life in a negative way - then you have to do what you have to do.

I don't think it matters how you put it, she's going to take your "rejection" personally. Her issues aren't her fault, but neither are they yours. It obvious that you have done what you can to help her - but most situations like hers, nothing short of professional counseling will really help.

The easiest thing to do would be to take all the blame. Sure she will still be hurt, but she can walk away in righteous indignation. But it won't help her realize that she's driving away potential relationships with her negativity.

The best thing to do is to be honest. Sit her down and explain how you feel, and the reasons you don't want to continue being with her sexually. That gives her a chance to be honest to herself about her behavior. I know that when life hurts you, it's hard to get over, but that is no excuse not to change. Honesty will give her something to work with so she can avoid making the same mistakes in the future.

We both know she isn't going to see it immediately - her first response will be pain and blame (true for most women). Hopefully in the future she can look at what you said objectively make the necessary changes in order to have a viable, healthy relationship. The truth can hurt - but it can also set you free.

Don't waste anymore time feeling guilty for her past which you had no control over. Yes, oyu are a nice guy - and being honest won't change that.

Good luck.

BTW - I think it's funny that you chose to be anonymous but signed your name. Lol.

[Asker]

Hey

i wanted to let you know thanks for the comment. I've just talked to her the other day and things I think are going to be cool. When I'm horny, I want to hangout with her, is there anything I can do to not have those feelings towards her?

[Simple-Simonette]

Basically you want to stop using her for sex.

Dude, mind over matter. You know what you're doing wrong, but you still give into your selfish compulsions. Just don't do it - you can't control the way you feel, but you have ultimate control over your actions. Give her a break and let her go.

[Asker]

Your right! thanks for your help. I will find something else to use my energy.

thanks a lot for your help.