My ex boyfriend and I just broke up a week ago..

[Anonymous]

He won't talk to me and when he does he's really mean..he used to be so nice and now he says I can never make him happy again..

yesterday he texted me telling me he had a dream I was sleeping with other guys, then he went on to tell me that he can't text me because it makes it too hard for him to let me go, and that he does care a lot he just can't see me because he sees how sad I am, and that only one girl has his heart and that's me..and I was begging him to give me another chance and he kept saying "i don't want to be tougher" but he was also saying he loved me..i called him after we texted crying asking why he was doing this and he said "i don't love you and I don't want to see you" He's already hooked up with other girls like just a day or two after we had broken up..i want him back so bad but he won't talk to me and he acts like he's completely over me to my friends..I'm so confused why is he acting like this and what should I do to get the love of my life back..:(

[zhens]

i don't know is this help

but I was crazy enough to surf about this.

but I am pretty over my ex right now and so far I haven't try it

someone who want to help told me to

0. just accept the break up end it nicely. try to remain friend.

1. stop acting needy (crying texting calling confessing my un dieing love)

2. stop contacting him for at least around 1 month (this one I did and doing hahaha still stop contacting untill now hahahahaha^^ this is going to make you feel better about the situation and have time to reconsider a lot of thing that happened. and during this period of time if you can really stop contacting him in anyway. he sure feel missing you)

3. don't stay still. going out have fun.act like this isn't a big deal in ur life! just pretent it I know you can do that right now maybe. but do it. just feel it when he don't care about you, do you feel that you want him to care? it's how human instinct work.

4. go dating. not telling you to move onor playing with anybody feeling. take it like you are making friend (this will have you feel lottttt better. because it help you realize that you are attractive.guys out there have interest in you! and at this point he might realise it too)

5. when you feel much much better after 1 month or when so ever. ask him out for a coffee(***meet him not more than 30 mins***) be cool. don't talk anything about the break up or problem oranything serious. just happily talking in any non sense topic. and be happy and see how it's go.if up 30mins just go say that you have got something on. if he bring up the break up topic. just let him speak. and say that that is the past you want to enjoy the time now. be friendly. don't flirt him.

6.see if he call you back within 2-3 days and asking you out after . if not iether just move on from now. or just call him back asking him going out to PLAY something.

PS. don't have sex with him untill you guys got back together offically not you thought you got back with him already okay.

hope this is helping.

but as I said I haven't try that I choice to move on within that 1 month.so good luck !^O^

[Anonymous]

Ah come on already, wake up missy! He's not worth your time anymore! He has moved on and so you have to do the same because if he wants you back he will ask you back. If he truly loved you, he will not in any way trying to hurt your feelings. Break ups suck but you just have to deal with that in life. Anyway, it takes time for people who were together for sometime to get over each other. Give it a time, I am sure in the next few months you will feel a lot better. Stop begging him to come back because he won't and you'd rather use that time for something else like studying perhaps. Cry a lot (if that will make you feel better) but you don't have to cry infront of him or letting him know that you cry because of him as he won't care anymore and that will hurt you even deeper. So there's no use of doing all that.

I am pretty sure that your ex was just trying to tell you in a nice way that he wants a break up that's y he said he loves you althou you guys are not together, hard to let you go etc. However, you got confused and all tangled up because you still loves him so you just want to believe that. He on the other hand, has already moved on. That's y in the end when you push harder for him to come back, he has to be tough to you since he wants to get away from this relationship. This means, you should respect his decision.

You just need to get away from him, NO CONTACT always work to get over someone meaning if he calls you perhaps later on you should not pick it up or pick it up but casually and brief. What you really need right now is to move on, being friends or getting back together later on is another issue that you don't need to think about because what you need now is to move on. To be honest with you, you don't need to do anything to get him back. It's already done (what you did in the course of the rel. is what makes him want you back). Well it's not important, what's important is for you to move on. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be.

[shadowlegend]

Ok he's hooking up with others because he can't stand to be alone and this is probly because he misses you like freaking hell! But you do have to leave him alone for a bit. Msg him every few days just to say "hey what's up?" If he doesn't reply then leave it. If he says he still loves you then take that as a very good sign. But do not push him. Do your own thing. He needs space to do his own stuff now. Guys take the chance when they have it to do whatever they want. You should to. Don't worry about everything he's doing. Do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel better. I was in that situation about 6 months ago. Me and my ex had our time alone and then...we somehow sorted things out...and we are now living together! There is nothing stronger than faith...really!

[Nitney]

He is being a complete ass hole.

you deserve soooo much better then a dude that will treat you like sh*t.

My advice to you is, when your around him act like "hey I'm over you too" "I can do wayyyy better then you"

act like your happy as can be, if he is saying rude things to your friends like you said just be like "thank god I'm not with that jack ass anymore" make him realize you may "want" him but sure as hell don't "need" him.

I'm sorry your hurting, I have been there too. It feels like someone ripped your heart out of your chest but remember it happens too all of us. Its going to be okay.

"It may be storming now, but it can't rain forever"

[Asker]

Hey thanks..we got back toughter but he's doing it again..if I just stop talking to him do you think hell come back

[Nitney]

He may or may not, he is sounds just like one of those guys that's only going to hurt you. I'm not trying to pop your bubble or anything. trust me you deserve better then that!

[highfive123]

Ok, this is what you have to do. As much as it will suck, you must just believe and act as if you don't care either. Go out with YOUR friends, enjoy life, start a new hobby, go exercise do EVERYTHING you always wanted to do, but for some reason didn't. Don't call him, text him, don't initiate ANY contact with him at all. I would actually go as far as deleting his phone number from your phone just in case a little alcohol comes in play, and you get all emotional and call him, which will be a big NO NO! First you need to agree with the break up, as crazy as it sounds, he has to realize that he lost you in order to want you back. The next time he contacts you, tell him that the you agree with the breakup and it was the best thing for both of you.

This will allow two things to happen. 1: He will begin to realize you can live your life just as good without him which will cause him to wonder how you're taking the breakup so good, and not worried about it at all. This will get him worried as if though you moved on, which is a GOOD THING, because then he will start to worry. People want what they can't have!

2. When all of this is happening, start going out and hanging out with other guys as well, don't try to force it and do it on purpose as if though your trying to get him jealous, but do it enough to just show your moving on and your doing just fine without him.

Things will completely start turning around after this, as he will begin to chase you! This will be the HARDEST thing to do ever, not contacting him and following all this, but you MUST do it in order to get him to realize what he's missing! Hope it helps!

[Asker]

But why all of a sudden is he acting like he dosnt care about me at all,,he was CRAZY about me..now he's like hooking up with other girls already, and he's like mean..like after he said all of that stuff to me he like turned it around and was like..i don't care about you..ughh I'm so annoyed:(

please like tell me your point of view on all of this

[highfive123]

He's doing this for one or more of these reasons: get your attention, make you jealous, keep chasing him, etc. This allows him to think that he's the BEST, and he can get away with whatever he wants, even with you still wanting him! DO NOT LET HIM DO THIS, watch this whole situation turn around when you turn the tables by acting like you don't care, you're going out and having a great time, going out on dates, etc...he will CRAP HIS PANTS! trust me!

[Asker]

Really? because he knows I went on a date and went out last night, and today I got an e-mail with a picture of us on it saying"i still look at this every day" and he told me he still loves me but he dosnt want to get back toughter..should I still avoid him?

[highfive123]

YES! You need to get your life straightened out and become attractive again. And by being needy, crying and desperate, you will only not drive him away, but everyone else. Trust me, this is the honest truth, think about it..when you see a needy bum on the street, you try to get away right? How does he "know" you went on a date? Don't talk to him, don't tell him anything, this is going to be SUPER HARD, but if you want him back you must do this. Focus on yourself and become attractive again

[Asker]

Ok..ill try..but a friend of mine told me he was kindove talking to some girl and she's stayed at his house twice..he told me he was hooking up with other girls to get over be..but I don't want him to start liking her I want him to want to be with me again..he told a friend of his yesterday he missed me..

[jfromchicago]

Hook up with his best friend! And act like he is better than your ex.

[forever]

Actually it just comes to my mind, what's so great about him until you want him back so badly? I don't think he's that great from what you told us here.

[tatata]

he is just being a jackass...trust me. this is exacly what he is doing to you. by doing thins like that, he has your mind. its like he is "winning the battle". because you guys have broken up, he doesn't want to see you happy. the more you keep crying and begging him to come back. the more he gets comfortable and making you more sad. that's why he is hooking up with other girls.

now you shouldnt go and hook up with other boys at all because that would just not work. it will appear that you are trying to make him jealous and that would probably work but the best thing to do is to be over him. just don't call him at all. hang out with friends, exercise, just do regular stuff that you normally do and you never know you might even find another guy you like but seriously, don't call that ex of urs because right now he feels like he has power over you with all those mind and emotional games that he is playing. just be cool and don't sweat it. it may be hard at first but its worth it. just hang out around with friends and talk to ur friends (who you trust) about it. its better when you talk to people who you trust about things like this because they will help you overcome what you are going through and just talking to someone about it just relieves you of stress.

[Reeses-pieces777]

the guys hooked up with two other girls... you mean slept with them? if that's the case, I would move on quick. there's no time to waste on a guy who's made his decision. the longer you dwell on this guy, I mean it seems like a waste of time.

if he was really into you, he wouldn't have hooked up with these other girls. he's done what he's done. he's moved on fast. and just one or two days? that's pretty quick. he sounds confused himself but whatever, he's hooked up/ slept with these other girls? so what do you want with him? idk, but that's what I would do.

i'm sure you can find a guy who is better and deserves you and he won't just break up with you to hook up with these random girls 1 to 2 days after break up

[itsxnancy]

He sounds like one of those jerks who treats a girl right when they go out, but when you make one teeny tiny dent with his heart/feelings, he'll be a complete ass. Lots of my ex's act like this. And him hooking up with girls just a day or two after breaking up, shows that he's moving on, or he never cared about your relationship.

Yes, I know it's hard to hear from someone online, but men are just as complicated as women.

You're going to move on at your own pace, and I know you'll get better, but don't feel so bad about a jerk like him. Just remember the quote 'If you love someone, let them go. If it's meant to be, he'll come back'.

Hope I helped, get better soon xo

[Anonymous]

Did you break up with him or did he break up with you? Did you cheat or did he? Was the break up out of the blue, or has it been a long time coming? Have you dated for a year or more, or just a few weeks/months?

[Asker]

Out of the blue..and we dated for a year

[liver]

Find someone else, make him jealous. I guarntee that he will suddenly be interested in you again.

[TaurusFemmeFatale]

Why did the two of you break up in the 1st place?

[GizzleBizzle12]

Ok thsi guy sounds like an ass.

I'd say leave him and his stupidity .

Find a guy who loves you and doesn't hurt you.

Tell hi mto stop texting you.

[Anonymous]

Question is...who broke up with who?

If you broke up with him then either he's using other girls to make you jealous or he really is trying to be over with you.

If he broke up with you then maybe he wants you back or he's just a hook up buddy.

[gamboo369]

booyaaah so agree with 'tatata' didn't even have to read other people's comments. that one answers your question clearly.