Why is my ex boyfriend active on a dating site only 3 days after break up?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend and I broke up a week ago.(I initiated the break up)...my best friend has always been active on this dating site and informed me with in 3 days after our break up he checked out her profile and had been active. And just recently he sent me a text stating how he's sorry about what he did to me and how much he loves me. ...I'm confused guys... Why would he be active on a dating site already only 3 days after break up? ? And why would he send me a text like that while he's on this dating site?

[Anonymous]

Because you don't want to be with him. I think that he really wants to be in a relationship, but since you no longer want that, he is going to go elsewhere to get it. I think that the dating site is mainly a back-up to be honest. I mean, what was you expecting for him to do? Did you want to crawl back to you. Just asking. Do you want him back, if not, him being on a dating site shouldn't really matter.

[Anonymous]

You broke up with him and are now concerned about his dating habits? Doesn't work that way...

[SüßeJäger]

That's what happens with us. Of course we hurt but we can hurt and look at the same time. If we find someone, we can move slow and in a while we will be ready to date again. If you initiated the break up, you shouldn't care though (unless maybe he cheated or something). Why is it not ok for him to look for someone that actually wants him? I don't get it.

[Asker]

I did want him ... But he continued to hurt me... He made me feel like he didn't love me for me changing me for his liking ...and got mad because a guy complimented me and insisted that he didn't trust me... So I broke up... Yet in 5 days I get a full book text of him saying how sorry he was and how much loves and trusts me?

[SüßeJäger]

Knowing more of the story now I see your point. I think you are right in being angery and sad. Also, I know this does not help at all right now but he wasn't worth being with anyway and apparently you seen this as well since you left him but I know that doesn't make you feel any better right now but one day, you will look back when you found a great guy and you will think to yourself thank God I got rid of him.

[thetundrawolf]

Because he misses the spiritual connection he shared with you. All relationships are spiritual, whether people admit it or not- that is why he feels lonely and empty inside- so instead of weathering the pain of being away from someone he used to care about, he needs to immediately find someone else to fill that gap.

It is called, "The rebound"

[Asker]

That makes sense... I can't imagine dating anyone right now lol

[thetundrawolf]

Yes, I know, but many women choose to do the same thing- to fill the void their former love took occupancy in.

[OverEasy]

do you still have feelings for him? if you don't then kick him to the curb and keep him there.

[TallyWho]

Because that is a mans way of dealing with a break up.. we aren't programmed the same way girls are

[Asker]

So why would he send a book of a text saying how sorry he is and that he loves me so much? This is so confusing

[TallyWho]

Because men cope with hurt by looking for reassurance. He probably does still love you.. I have done exactly the same x

[Strider90]

Why would he be active on a dating site...isn't it obvious? Life continues and he keeps his eyes open for another partner. Best way to forget you.

[Anonymous]

Only 3 days? I was on a dating site 3 minutes after a breakup. It's time to move on

[GoldCobra]

Maybe he's looking for a new girl? Just a thought...

[Le_Franglais]

Why should you care?

[Sex_Panther]

Define "active".