10 Active First Date Ideas

[SensualScribe]

Your typical first date probably most often involves dinner and a movie. This could very possibly be the worst environment for a first date. You go to dinner and through nerves and tension try to get to know each other, but often times conversation can end up feeling more like an interview. Then you sit in a dark theater where you are forced into silence... not the most conducive setting to make a true connection. Why not try something different? Be creative. Be active.

Doing something active on a date allows you to observe each other in a more natural environment. You get a better idea of how the other person reacts to different situations. Conversation tends to be a lot more casual and laid-back when the setting reflects that mood. There is a greater potential for more physical contact, playfulness, laughter and flirtation. You have the opportunity to either show off doing something you are skilled at or learn something new together.

Also, studies show that the release of adrenaline when you are active on a date causes a phenomenon called misattribution arousal. Epinephrine (also called adrenaline) is a hormone that is released when you are active. This causes increased heart and respiratory rate. This heightened state of physical arousal that is actually caused by you being active can subconsciously make you feel a greater attraction to your date as well as your date feeling the same towards you. This initial attraction can make for a greater emotional connection as well.

So, here are some great active first date ideas and you do not have to be a star athlete in order to take part in all of them!

10. Bowling

9. Shooting Pool

8. Hit the Batting Cages

7. Shoot some Hoops

6. Hit the Tennis Court

5. Go-Cart Racing

4. Mini Golf

3. Row Boating

2. Horseback Riding

1. Take a Walk

So, next time you ask someone out on a first date, get creative, be fun and stay active!

[Grace_Rdz]

Ooh I'd be down for all of those!
What about laser tag/paint balling though?
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Maybe a little soccer match?

[SensualScribe]

I thought about Laser tag and paint ball, but wanted to keep it down to 10. :)

[Grace_Rdz]

I see, it was a really awesome take anyway! :)

[SensualScribe]

Thank you!

[Tarvold]

Seems like you really like guys getting handsy from behind!

[howardque]

Really great mytake!

1. For bowling, how do you flirtily and smoothly do the whole show your date how to bowl? What exactly is the move and where to touch?
2. If you are bowling in a group of friends, and one female friend is the object of your desire and she asks, how to touch and flirt?
3. What else can you do in a city that can be coupled with a meal?
4. How to be intimate in terms of a date after a group meet earlier in the day?

[SensualScribe]

Thank you for reading. I will get back to your questions a bit later. I'm about to head out!

[rocyurworld]

1) Uh you don't... but you can high-five each other which leads to more later in the day, like sitting next to her. It is a first date so you are basically "friend" category until further notice.
2) Flirting can be done mentally with minimal touching... this is the best.
3) Walk around, see the shops, Comedy shows, Karaoke... there's lots.
4) You will just have to see if she reciprocates to your earlier overtures. If you want to break apart then suggest you and her grab dessert or something separate from the group.

[SensualScribe]

@rocyurworld Thank you for answering his questions. Haha. :)

[rocyurworld]

Hey, my pleasure!

[howardque]

@rocyurworld appreciate. Mytakeowner what do you think to them pls?

1. Can you not show her how to bowl? If she asks for instance?
2. What if she asks you on a group meet how to do it?
3. When you say sit next to her, when and how - do you mean later on?
4. How do you convey you think she is hot? Say this is someone you have known for a bit, met her at uni when she had a boyfriend, and thus didn't say anything (since u respected that). can't help seeing her all the time, since you're on the same course, and u became friends, cos she is really nice. Now she is single.

[SensualScribe]

Why so many questions?

1. If she asks you to show her... and you didn't want to? I guess just tell her to watch you...
2. What do you mean how to do a group meet? Go with her... I don't know what you are getting at...
3. I never said anything about sitting next to her...
4. Tell her you think she looks nice or that she is beautiful, rather than hot.

[howardque]

Cos I like this girl lol!

1. As in last time, I wasn't sure of her status and hesistated to touch (even tho I wanted to). I think she did have a boyfriend then. She is now definitely single. So how do you touch her and show her?
2. As in, if it's not just the two of us, but others are present. Can I still do the move to show her how?
3. Ok, how to generally flirt/touch to create extra attraction rather than too friendly?
4. Any other example? Is it too nice to use those words? Some women and men here advise using sexual language so she sees you as something more?

[SensualScribe]

I am no expert and everybody is different, but in general I suggest...
When touching start out slow. If she knows how to bowl and is fairly good at it, you really don't have much of a shot there. She's not going to need your help, but you could start out giving each other a high-five when you get strikes if you are really good at bowling and she is not, you could ask her to show her some tips and then come up behind her and guide the placement of her arm, but do not follow-through and let the ball go, step back and let her do that herself. I would not let the presence of anyone else influence showing her. They know you are on a date and if you like her, you are going to want to touch her a little. No big deal! Just don't make-out in front of them or anything. Personally, I wouldn't mind if a guy told me I looked hot or sexy, but like I said, all women are different.

[howardque]

That's really solid thanks! last time (when I wasn't sure of her status) I hesitated around other people who were part of the night out. I hope not to be nervous next time now that she is single whether it's a group or not?

As for touching, it's just I'm not sure how to you know, move from sitting next to or opposite them to touching them in a caring/sexy way rather than friendly just sitting there and not touching?

As for compliments, so if u hadn't seen each other for a while, and you're old uni friends, now both single, can u go, u look hot? Examples pls?

[SensualScribe]

I personally wouldn't use hot, but that is just me. I just don't like the words. It sounds immature. Beautiful, gorgeous and sexy sound a lot better.
As far as touching, slow and steady. Start out holding her hand, while you are doing so, stroke her skin a bit with your thumb, if she allows that then try putting your arm around her.

[howardque]

Ok but how would you greet her after a long time and use the words you suggest?

And how do you touch her hand or arm naturally?

[SensualScribe]

I'm not going to write a dialogue for you. Sorry. I think I have been more than patient and helpful answering your questions.

[meatballs21]

I think the first date should be short and sweet, to determine if you even want to spend another moment with this person or not. If so, THEN you can pull this cool stuff out for future dates. You don't want to go all the way to a ranch to go horseback riding with someone you quickly discover that you hate.

[SensualScribe]

I suppose you have a point, but short and sweet doesn't have to be boring.

[meatballs21]

I still think that it's better spent focused on conversation than with a distraction you can retreat to any time.

[Dan2287]

For me the first date should just be a 1-3 hour conversation over some drinks. If it's going well getting to 3 hours is easy. I don't see the first date as a date, it's more just getting to know them and seeing what they are like. If you can see yourself spending more time with that person, I'd go date number two with something in this list :)

[Charliedj]

Back in college I was invited to an ice rink with a girl I liked and some of her friends. I did not know how to ice skate and I did not pick it up very quickly but I wanted to try and impress her somehow. Well I hugged the wall the whole time and made a fool of myself. The highlight was when I saw a flash of light as I fell in front of a group of people. Turns out I had fallen right at the moment someone took a picture so my failure was immortalized forever. She took me back to my apartment and ended the relationship before it began.

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[SensualScribe]

I'm sorry you had a bad experience.

[Dargil]

All excellent ideas but I suggest them for the secondo date. The first date in more of an interview over drinks or dinner.

[SensualScribe]

I don't like feeling like I am being interviewed. If he can carry a nice conversation without making it feel like that, then so be it. I hate all the typical questions, but then again... perhaps it is because I have been friends first with everyone I have ever dated, so by the time we had our first date, we didn't need it to be so traditional. I think a more active date for a first date would help loosen things up so that for a second date conversation and getting to know each other better would be a little more natural.

[Dargil]

Sure. If "the talk" has already occurred in a more casual setting, then the first date is not the first encounter.

[mooky06]

Nice Mytake! I think those are very lovely date ideas (*^_^*) I guess my favourite would be.. ALL OF THEM lol

[SensualScribe]

Thank you!

[CrazynKinky]

Just make sure you don't take a competitive date to most of these

[SensualScribe]

A little competition doesn't hurt, but yeah... I can see how someone who is super competitive would make for a bad date.

[CrazynKinky]

Me. Right There. I've been on all these dates they're awesome loved every second. Just learned boys don't like to lose when they don't let you. :)

[chrisbigman]

Okay. Other than bowling and pool, there isn't any other activities for those that live in the very cold climates during the winter. Any other suggestions?

[yuyu30002]

Ice fishing
Skiing
Taking a walk

[chrisbigman]

@yuyu30002 Not a lot of chicks like ice fishing. Skiing? Yeah, I suppose that's good. Taking a walk? Where?

[yuyu30002]

Well I guess the ice fishing was a dumb sorry about that, well if you know a nice place that's good for a walk like near a freezing lake or in the woods she might like that. You could also go on ice skating

[SensualScribe]

Sledding, Building a snowman, Ice Skating
That's all I can think of at the moment.

[chrisbigman]

Yeah, I suppose those can be fun. They are rather childish activities, but I think I can enjoy being a child for a day.

[SensualScribe]

They are a bit, but they can be fun once in a while.

[Punkin45]

I like museums and visiting historic sites in cold months. Local wineries and breweries will often have tours. I think the point is to have something to do that will get conversation flowing.

[chrisbigman]

@Punkin45 I could do museums and visiting historic sites. Wouldn't we need a designated driver for the wine/beer tours?

[Punkin45]

You don't have to get drunk. They just do tastings... they're not giving enough free wine/beer to get intoxicated. ;)

[chrisbigman]

@Punkin45 Okay.

[Yellow_]

Ah perfect!
All of them are on my "bucket list" .. well aside from walking and basketball.

[SensualScribe]

Yeah, not a fan of basketball myself, even though as a kid I used to shoot hoops with my sister and dad.
Thanks for reading and commenting! :)

[Yellow_]

Hehe, I meant I already walk and play basketball. :D

[SensualScribe]

Oh, I see. :)

[Dylanguest1989]

I almost exclusively go on walks lol

its free and a good way to just talk.

[SensualScribe]

Thank you for reading. :)

[Dylanguest1989]

Welcome. I love an active date. Pool. Bowling. Walking.

[WeeGeeTheSecond]

Why is the black couple playing basketball? RACIST!!

(jk)

[SensualScribe]

Haha! It's actually the only good pic of a couple playing basketball I could find that was not watermarked.

[WeeGeeTheSecond]

Ahh, the watermarked pictures... the horror

[Feels]

Why white couple playing tennis? RACIST !!

(Jk)

[WeeGeeTheSecond]

Why is the man in the golf couple touching his crotch in her ass? MYSOGENISTIC POST!! DELETE!! IM TOTALY IN FAVOR OF FREEDOM OF SPEECH GUYS!!

[SensualScribe]

LOL! You guys are funny.

[Anonymous]

#10, 9 & 4 are great because she bends over a lot. So even if you screw up on the date at least you got a nice view.

[SensualScribe]

Haha! Very true!

[Titanic1912]

The one that looks the most romantic is row boating because how else can we be alone than those other nine? I can't think of any better way than to be alone with my girlfriend than that!

[Titanic1912]

Another way is going to Six Flags and riding the Ferris Wheel. I can't think of another way to be alone than stuck up in the air, kissing, hugging, and smooching!

[rocyurworld]

Oh yes good suggestions! Also Fairs, Comedy Club... I am a big fan of doing something interactive. especially on a first date :)

[LovelyComputerVirus]

I love horseback riding 😍 I would absolutely die if my boyfriend asked me to ride horses with him

[Saudigirl]

Car racing 💙 Bowling 💙 Boating 💙 Horseback 💙
Great Take 💙

[ironzhouzi]

What about hiking/mountain climbing?　:D

[SensualScribe]

Yeah, that's a good one. Didn't want to make the list too long. ;)

[Anonymous]

Ok I've always heard and not trying to be nasty here but what about sex? doesn't that burn the most calories?

[SensualScribe]

Probably not the most, no... but this is about first dates, and seeing as it is My Take and I do not have sex on the first date, I left that out.

[Opinion Owner]

My brother bagged a girl within the first date

[SensualScribe]

Good for him.

[Opinion Owner]

I was like the first date really? Only knew her for like 2 hours

[SensualScribe]

Some women will do that. I'm not one of them, but have nothing against those that choose to do that.

[doctorwhofan23]

Lots of these sound fun.

[SensualScribe]

Yes, they do. Definitely something different. :)

[doctorwhofan23]

Just need a date, I'd like mini-golf a lot.

[Bea123]

I absolutely love the idea of the last 3 :D