Girls cheat as much as guys cheat, it would be fair to say the blame can be equal on this. Guys will talk about how many times a girl has lied to them, cheated on them etc.. and girls can counter it with just as many guys that have done the same thing.
So really the question is how do you want to be treated? Would you like it if a guy controlled every thing you did? That you had to 'ask' for permission to go out with your female friends or even just male friends? Should your boyfriend be jealous or trust you until you give him a reason not to? Do you want to be judged off of past experiences that you had absolutely no control over? I know for me the answer is no.
I know I am not a guy but I have been with my husband over 20yrs. I remember once one of his friends came up to me when he wasn't home asking me if it was okay for him to go fishing with him on my husbands next day off. I looked at him confused and asked if he had talked to my husband about it and what did he say? The friend looked at me and said "Well I wanted to clear it with you first and make sure it was okay". I just laughed at him and told him I am not my husbands keeper, he can make decisions for himself, if he wants to go fishing he can go fishing and he would have to talk to my husband about that not me.
A little bit of jealousy is actually good in a relationship for both people it lets the other person know there is still an attraction there and desire to keep that person happy. However when it becomes all consuming and you are thinking ever time they go to the store they are 'hooking up' or something not right is happening that is when it is no longer healthy and a person should take a long hard look at their relationship and whether or not they should continue in it.
I think nagging him is what makes him want to cheat more. If a guy has given you real reason not to trust him you need to have a mature talk and then break up. If you truly can't trust someone your relationship is dead because you will always be worrying and it will cause you to hate each other and argue. Guys prefer to have their space. The bottom line is you have to be smart-a guy will cheat if he wants to and there are a million ways to cheat. You can't check it, you can't prevent it. If he is an honorable man who is happy with you and truly committed to your relationship he won't cheat.
I'm an easy going partner, and like to have separate social circles from my SO. I know thats something he really appreciates too, and has mentioned on various occasions that the controlling, paranoid nature of his ex was a factor in their breakup.
Men aren't dogs. You can't try and leash them. If you can't trust your partner, you're the problem. That or you just shouldn't be with them.
Yeah that's great. Honestly I'd like us to keep in touch at least once a day just to see how things are going. It's fine if she's asking me what I'm doing when I'm hanging out with my friends. That's cool just as long as she doesn't blow up my phone when I'm trying to hang out. I have a friend that has a gf that does that and I think that's the main reason we don't hang out anymore. In fact, when we do hang out it's not like we are really hanging out cause he's too busy texting his gf since she's so insecure.
Of course we want the freedom. If we're going to cheat we're going to cheat no matter how many dumb controlling cockblocks you try to put up. Cheating's not hard, honestly.
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Yes, I love it when I have an independent type of girl that likes to give me space. I like to know that she is just as much into me as much as she wants to give me space though. It's good to see signs of texting and sweet messages, a little bit of clingyness is okay, because even though most guys will not admit it, we like seeing messages like "I miss you", and things of that nature. Keep your guy on a hook, send him flirty text messages randomly when you've been giving him some space, sexily suggestive text messages or when you call, put that little extra push of sweetness into your voice just for him and keep him tantalized and enticed.
It is a fine line really. A girl should not be constricting and controlling to the point he has no freedom or he will lose all of his friends and may start resenting that. However if you never seem to care what he does and dont say something some of the time he will start to think you dont care at all and find someone who does. So not being upset if he goes out withhis friends is a good thing but not caring if he does it all the time is another issue all together.
In my relationship, "It's full trust, or no trust at all." My S/O is big on spending family time together, so I knew before hand what her needs and expectations were. Regardless, though, she uncontestedly gives me sufficient space to sustain my individuality, as I do her.
In response to your title question, I have two words for you, of course. In regards to cheating, as my man @yaddayaddayadda02 stated, "cheating is not hard, honestly.
No one gives me my freedom. It's just a matter of not being a nagging bitch while I do whatever I want. No I'm not going to go and cheat because my girlfriend isn't constantly hovering, if that's really something you feel the need to do to avoid infidelity you've got some issues
To be honest with you just like other guys and women have said it already its an equal situation. Guys and women will always have those opportunities to cheat it is up to them to cheat or not. But if one of them cheats there will be consequences. I cheated on my ex girlfriend and she never noticed ever. But I cheated not because I wanted to but because she wouldn't try new things and do the things I wanted to do. After I cheated things started going downhill because I started thinking about the things I did and how she could be doing the same thing. One of the main reasons was freedom.
In my opinion I think filling each others needs and wants and having a healthy relationship won't make any of them cheat. Its good to have freedom to a certain point because if you dont show that you care then she won't feel wanted or loved and she will start to get attention from other guys so it all depends on how you guys treat each other
Tbh, if I had to cheat on a girlfriend it would jealous all the time and thinks I am cheating on her when I am out with friends rather than the one who would give me freedom. I like my free time with my guy friends and I would appreciate it. But I understand I can't do it all the time.
Jealousy is just a sign of distrust. If your girlfriend isn't comfortable with you having freedom, then there's something wrong with the relationship. Either she has unresolved issues, or you're not doing a good job as a boyfriend. Either way that is a real problem, and I wouldn't want it.
Girls don't "give" freedom. A guy takes it. The only thing the girl can do, is get pissy about it, or not.
Obviously we prefer it when they don't. Pissy girls get dumped anyway.
"do you believe you would take advantage of the freedom and do something stupid? Such as cheating."
That is a dumb question. Only a properly insecure borderline crazy girl would even come up with that. The sort of girl who thinks men need to be kept on a leash like a dog, and never let out of their sight.
Somewhere inbetween. I don't to be blackmailed into not spending time with my friends, but at the same time I do want someone who really loves spending time with me and wants me around them as much as possible. Like a really attatched person, but we spend time apart because we know it's healthier that way, if you get me.
Of course freedom is preferred to a nagging jealous girlfriend. The funny thing is I know just as many women that have cheated as I do guys that have cheated. Being a jealous controlling girlfriend will not guarantee a man won't cheat. I've never cheated and to have a woman try to control who, when, where, and what I do is a huge red flag.
Honestly, I prefer an over-attached gf who grants me less freedom. She caring about my whereabouts is a sincere sign of concern and missing me when I am not there with her.
am with you... i agree... some guys they take the advantage... i think there should not be personal... between each other... sometimes space could give disaster future to a relationship...
am with you...
alif, bangladesh
I want the freedom but that doesn't mean the girl should never be jealous. Occasional jealousy is fine. Would I cheat? Nope. I would most likely cheat if the girl acts like I should have a chain on my neck attached to her wrist.
all guy want freedom to do thing but I prefer to do thing as a couple more as far as cheating goes that up to the guy or girl and for me cheating is WRONG and have no sympathy for cheaters and no respect for them
This is gay freedom. No straight man would choose his male friends over his woman.
Yes I enjoy my freedom and also alone time as I have a lot if hobbies that require no interruptions quiet.
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