I'm in my mid-20s and I've suffered from depression and social anxiety disorder for a long time. Considering that I fantasized about this day happening I thought I would be ecstatic that I lost my virginity.
But, in fact, I feel almost worse. The woman I was with is not looking for a real relationship which is fine with me, but my performance in the bedroom was pretty weak in my opinion. I helped make her come, so we both got some satisfaction, and she seemed relatively happy about having me over. Even though I did all these things, I don't really feel different about myself. Did anyone else have these same sort of feelings? Am I too hard on myself?
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Nobody is great their first time, it takes a bit of practice and experience, so don't be too hard on yourself! If your partner had an orgasm then you did just fine ;) As for not feeling any different, men get a rap for being purely physical beings, whereas women are the ones with an emotional mentality, but maybe it would have felt more momentous to you if you had an emotion connection to your partner. Regardless of your gender, sex is always a bigger deal when its with someone you truly care about. When I lost my virginity, it was with a boy I didn't care much for, and I didn't really feel any different either. But my first time with a boy I loved was life changing. Sex is often more than physical, its a connection. But that doesn't mean purely physical sex can't be gratifying as well. The more you have it, the more you learn, and the better the partner, the more "ecstatic" you'll feel :)0