I rejected this guy and he ended up becoming a hot athlete at a great university?

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I feel really... horrible I guess and stupid.

I was never really into him because I thought he was a player so he kept asking me out and I rejected him to the point that I started to ignore him.

He just kept getting hotter and hotter and now is attending one of the best universities and is an athlete there.

How do I get over this feeling of regret?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't want a hot famous athlete.
I think testosterone driven alpha males are typically always the same. Yeah they are nice to look at, but in reality, they are usually not as bright and often cheat. I assume (and may be wrong) but are you into the Kardashian life ideology. The one where you are famous for being famous. You have an active instagram account, and constantly want the praise of others. You feel that having a shallow trophy relationship would make others admire you more and you actually don't care if they like you for who you are as long as they like you? I am not trying to attack you here, I am curious if this is accurate.

If you had gotten with this guy when he was after you, I am fairly certain he would have been done with you by now for many reasons and if you were to see him now and made it known you were interested... He will more than likely use you for the lay and toss you aside.

I am not judging you for being shallow. But I have to state, it is not a path you should try and travel, WE don't look great forever, and if you only care for the shallow shit now, you will be alone and miserable when your looks fade (AND they will!). You need to have some depth of character and something other than your body to offer the world.

kangy · Accepted Answer

When we are not into a person, we definitely won't date him/her. It is the same for all people.
As for mistaken him for a player, Take this as a lesson that next time when u meet another guy, know him on a deeper level before you strike him off. and dont believe everything u hear or read from someone else. i know rumours spread like wildfire in school campus, however also be on guard against fakes.
Sometimes when we missed an opportunity, we just missed it, we can beat our chest but life goes on...

SuperMommie13 · Accepted Answer

Just randomly message him on FB or something and say you were sorry for the way you treated him before. If he writes back you can talk more about things and work up I maybe getting with him. But who knows what'll happen in the future.

Jo_Bunny · Accepted Answer

LOL. You're too late and I think it's pretty sad that you feel regret because of his new status. Sad as fuck. What happened to liking a person for who them, not because of their social status? Wow! He dodged a bulled here.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I hope it eats at you for a very long time. its girls like you that make the average guy feel like shit earlier on, and then ruin them for the future. making them insecure and thinking something is wrong with them. now this guy decided to give you the bird and make something out of himself and here you are now, regretting. meanwhile, you had first dibs. well you lost your chance. thats something you are going to live with forever. I don't care if i get down voted, its snakes like you that ruin guys, always trying to go where the grass is greener. Im glad you ignored him, saved him a bunch of heartache in the future.

ilovesexyfeet · Accepted Answer

Real girls want real guys they don't have to be sports stars or anything like that they just have to have a good heart be a good person and treat them right. The girls that only go for looks or status will, in most cases, end up sad and lonely and even the short average guy wouldn't look twice at them. If u had gone out with him at the time he asked then he would still be in a good uni as an athlete but u wouldn't be with him now he'd have already moved on to the cheerleaders and fans that will be offering themselves on a plate to him and you would be one of those unhappy girls that only go for stars!!

SomeoneImportant · Answer

Well seems like you only like him now because of his new high status as an athlete, and his looks lol. So, probably shouldn't have been so judgemental. But chances are he's a player anyway, if I was some stud athlete I know for damn sure I'd stay single.

rjroy3 · Answer

You can't really, outside of focusing on your life and dating other people. You "messed up", but not really. You're just feeling that way because things are going well for him now, so you feel jealous of the exciting life another girl might have with him. I doubt you miss him now. It's more the idea of being with a hot successful man and he is one that slipped through the cracks.
Time will take care of the emotions. I don't mean to laugh at all, but his life is going well so all of the girls who turned him down while growing up are likely going through what you are now. Good for him. You can always try contacting him to see if it goes anywhere, but I can tell you now. He's got alooot of girls doing that already. Maybe he'll have a soft spot in his heart for you tho

TripleAce · Answer

HAHAA amazing and very entertaining. Very funny

You should of got it right the first time, this is a man's world. Now your useless as a sack of potatoes with lipstick. while he's making his way to the top rich, sexy, healthy and probably going to find a sweet wife to marry for the rest of his life. So he can give her everything she deserves, especially his body and money

she's going to feel like a princess. Too bad you didn't believe in him ;) life and learn my young padawan

AleDeEurope · Answer

"You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo"

Take this as a lesson. Instead of killing yourself about it, learn from it. Next time, give it a shot, who knows what may come out from it; if you don't try it, you'll never know, and maybe one day you'll regret it (like in this case).

Aud_Queen · Answer

Move on. You live and you learn i guess. There isn't much you can do. Just think of it as a life lesson.

Alexei_Ustinov · Answer

So in other words when he became the next Tom Brady you kicked yourself in the ass for turning him away? *shakes head* Very shallow my dear, very shallow indeed. Here, console yourself with this:

koko124 · Answer

"I've got enough money I'm not a gold digger trust me. But do I want a guy whose a celebrity and all the girls want? hell yes. Don't act like you're any different we all want what we can't have."

Actually, no.

Men are pretty different. You're projecting your own modes of attraction onto the opposite gender.

It's been corroborated in sociological studies that women prefer men whom they know are desired by other women. This preference does not exist in men.

Women, by nature, tend to like men that they "can't have". Men tend to just like what they like.

witchprincess · Answer

Date a different hot guy? There are so many guys out here for you to be fretting over any particular shmoe.

Shpongolia · Answer

Don't worry about it. A guy with that much fame and prestige would have most likely been tempted by all sorts of groupie girls and swimsuit models to sleep around with and cheat on you. Most young male athletes are real meat-heads who are tempted by sex, drugs, and rock'n'roll. And usually blow away all their earnings faster than they earn them. Many of them don't last long as pros anyway.

asker999 · Answer

Haha, this at least comes across really shallow. And if looks and fame are all you are after, then it is shallow. But I will give you the benefit of the doubt.

You rejected him for the person he was then. Because he was a player. And yet in all likelihood, he is still probably a player. So you do not have anything to regret.

I think what you are feeling is an infatuation with a lifestyle you don't have.

GamerArtNerd · Answer

"Back then they didn't want me, now I'm hot they all on me" but yea seriously of I were you I'd just talk to the guy and kinda do some "what ifs" and see how he feels. I've been in a similar situating before but I only rejected her because she was only 11 and I was 16 lmao. Now she's 18 and super sexy. Just kinda let him know what you think of him now vs then and I'm sure you might feel better.

Jakesusername · Answer

I know how you feel. You missed out and it sucks!

decemberxblue · Answer

I love a good "I made him/her regret rejecting me" stories.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't really feel horrible. You only feel horrible and guilty, because your shallowness made you miss out on a potentially good guy. That's why you feel horrible and guilty.

If he never became a superstar athlete, you wouldn't feel that way.

He isn't even thinking about you, so you might as well bury it in the past.

KillerZombieHunter · Answer

You never were into him and now you regret because he's some big thing now? Sounds wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

Back then they didn't want me, fuck them I'm getting money, drop top and its looking sunny , now I got them looking funny.

Insaan · Answer

Your excuse... makes me laugh.

Jonny_ · Answer

Point being? When he hits 80 he'll have no looks and will be doing well to walk without shitting himself... 'status' means nothing, 'looks' means nothing, 'money' means nothing, deal with it.

NovemberJoseph · Answer

A hahahhahaha sucks for you. I'm gonna do this too.

LastGirlScout · Answer

I'd be more concerned about how shallow you're being, you didn't like his personality but now he's physically attractive you want him? Very shallow.

AnnaTBY88 · Answer

Hmmm, tell yourself you don't want to date someone because of superficial reasons. Don't regret your decision. You didn't like him before and if he didn't have the personality to capture your attention then what's so great about him?

Cheekkky · Answer

You don't like him enough to be with him. You only like him now because he is hot and popular, he deserves more.

Anonymous · Answer

Has to be.

kheserthorpe · Answer

You haven't mentioned the part where he became less of a player.  Or are we just assuming that when he became hotter and more in demand he immediately decided to settle down?

evenlift · Answer

LOL. Well, you can console yourself with the fact that he might not have become a hot athlete if you had not rejected him.

TheYellowBear · Answer

You had your reasons for rejecting him and it's no good having any regrets. What's done is done and cannot be undone. Just accept that he's changed for the better and move on. There will be other guys, there always is.

djjohnsen13 · Answer

You don't. You're shallow, and you're passed up a great opportunity that you can't redo. Have fun living your life with that.

Eternallylucky · Answer

I don't feel you do. You are just jealous of his progress.

AsianGirlLover21 · Answer

Karma is a... P. S. You deserved this. Maybe you should start looking into people instead of being materialistic.

Kshppatel · Answer

Back then they didn't know me now I'm hot they all on me.

WhySoComplicated · Answer

Seriously? You are probably the most shallow women I have ever heard of... But what goes around comes around...

front2back · Answer

Yes, because whether a got treats you right or not doesn't matter. Only how hot and good at sports he is.

Anonymous · Answer

My boyfriend is a famous hot guy at the college. I'm always in doubt if he's a player or not and with so many chicks around him I'm always worried and paranoid :/ So yeah that's the unattractive side of having a hot boyfriend.

blondfrog · Answer

That's what you get for being shallow too bad he is better than you now.

oldtom188 · Answer

Wait so girls not settling for average guys is the equivalent of guys not settling for whales. That sounds like female logic.

Anonymous · Answer

Men usually get more attractive as they grow older. Women are the opposite. Enjoy your few years of good looks :)

Martinhelper · Answer

You just want him now cause he is good looking and an athlete.

PLLFan21 · Answer

Awww, welll that's too bad  Guess you'll have to find another hot guy

Pink2000 · Answer

I feel your regret but just don't think about him you'll find someone new

HappyToBeAlive · Answer

Move on. Time doesn't only work in one direction. So you saying no means that maybe he is flawed and those flaws will be on display in the future. Everything happens for a reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Hot famous athletes have a very short time-frame for being in that limelight. NFL players are a dime a dozen. One sold me a car at Carmax.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow... this is sad. The karma is going to be spinning off the charts in tines to come

Anonymous · Answer

Lmao that's what you get for rejecting him. Move on, you had your chance

Anonymous · Answer

Could you be any more shallow? All of a sudden you find him worth dating because he became hot all of a sudden. And yet girls say looks don't matter.

Anonymous · Answer

You did him a favor. Shallow women like yourself always reject good guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Classic case of judging a book by it's cover

Dragonblood21 · Answer

9/10 Solid troll, very solid indeed.

Newtown · Answer

Awww you poor baby, maybe one day you'll grow up

badger25 · Answer

Skater boy- Avril Lavine

Klaatu51 · Answer

try to forget him it'll be better for you

p0rtis26 · Answer

Who is it? What sport and what school?

Byakko77 · Answer

I always wanted to say this... mad or nah

Cómoestás · Answer

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't. We live and learn.

Arthurred · Answer

By never letting happen again.

Anonymous · Answer

First world problems?

I rejected this guy and he ended up becoming a hot athlete at a great university?

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