Should I reach out to this guy from high school?

[desperatelyhungry]

I met him in high school. I had a crush and we were friends but he didn’t seem interested. Then suddenly, randomly one day he did, I don't know what happened. He invited me to his prom, he was super chivalrous. We went on a few dates (this started towards the end of us being in high school and carried on into the first year of being in college) he treated me well but I didn’t feel a spark. He paid for our food or whatever we did, and I enjoyed his company but didn’t see it going anywhere. I didn’t wanna hurt his feelings but I couldn’t keep seeing him, especially with him paying I wouldn’t wanna take advantage of him. Anyways I got to the point I just made excuses when he asked to do something cause I was afraid to hurt his feelings even though I probably did regardless. Eventually he stopped messaging me and we haven’t talked since. I’m s few years wiser now. I can look back and see he treated me MUCH better than the guys I’ve been with since. I knew at the time he was such a good guy and I was so mad at myself for not being in love with him, I should be. Any girl would be lucky to be with him. Anyways, I wanna reach out and at least apologize and maybe give it a another chance, if he would even give me the time of day. I’m nervous too though, and I’m nervous to give it another shot and still just not feel any thing and potentially hurt him again, although this time around I would give him an explanation instead of just ghosting. Should I give it a shot or leave it alien?

Yes, reach out

Do not reach out

[virtue2332]

The fact that you want to reach out to him means there was something there. The problem is you already have had that experience and it wasn't what you needed then. If your the same person deep down it still won't be what you need. If you have changed and focus on everything you are attracted to it may be enough to tip the odds of it working. There may be aspects of his personality that you haven't seen that make the spark more appealing. Example he was nervous around you and now is more confident. Not sure if there was a sexual relationship and if there was not and he hit all the buttons in that area had confidence and maintained being a sweet guy. Personally I would move on but I'm sure most will say this so I'm just trying to give you another viewpoint but if you do decide to call you have to be open and honest and willing to communicate vs ghosting. It's not impossible but the odds are you will focus on the things that you don't like ca the the things that you do like

[JacobJordan]

honestly no. you left when he was likely very into you and spent many years making poor choices and now that you are older and wiser you want to go back to him because he is the safe choice you didn't want to make then. regardless of the outcome of you reaching out it would destroy his life and he deserves better than that

[desperatelyhungry]

Damn I done sent the message after the majority was saying yes 💀

[JacobJordan]

well lets hope for your sake he is still single, been thinking about you as the girl that got away and doesn't care about your past

[desperatelyhungry]

And if he don’t have nothing to do with me, I’m gonna live. This really isn’t as dramatic as you’re trying to make it; however, i do appreciate your input

[JacobJordan]

no one is saying you shouldn't. I am simply stating he doesn't deserve to have his life ruined because you made several bad choices and now decide you want a good man

[desperatelyhungry]

You don’t know me to say and say and say I made several bad decisions.

[JacobJordan]

you are right I don't know you. but you know you and you admitted to having made poor choices exhibit A

"I can look back and see he treated me MUCH better than the guys I’ve been with since."

the reality is he deserves far better and I personally hope he has found someone who appreciates him for the man he is because I would feel quite bad for any man like that to be rejected only to end up being settled for years later by the girl who rejected him

[desperatelyhungry]

That still isn’t saying I made poor choices. You just wanna say, without saying, I’m a slut. How other guys treated me is not my poor choice but there’s. I get a feeling if I was a man saying this same thing you wouldn’t have the same bs coming our

[desperatelyhungry]

Also he has been single the whole time.

[JacobJordan]

actually I would be telling you the exact same thing and I am not saying you are a slut. if I wanted to say that I would. I don't care that much about your feelings. also if you dated multiple guys that didn't treat you right it most certainly is saying you made poor choices. why? because if you had done it once and then learned from that and it hadn't happened again then you made a great choice. if you did it twice but not again then you made a good choice. as maybe you fell victim to it twice but learned fair enough. but multiple implies more than 2 meaning you made a habit of picking guys that treated you poorly meaning you made a habit of making bad choices. and with you I am being far nicer than I would with a guy. if a guy had asked this I would be questioning if he is mentally challenged because guys are more rational so he should have been able to see that what he was doing was really damn stupid.

[desperatelyhungry]

Been with two guys since 💀 so not even been with enough guys to say I made several bad choices. You saying guys are more rational does confirm you would not be giving a guy the same spiel. You’re ignorant and bias, I am done with this conversation. Have the day you deserve, prick

[JacobJordan]

guys would be able to handle hearing the truth without getting emotional. so yeah it would be far worse than what I said to you because with you I am not being as blunt as I could be because you don't have the emotional strength to handle that. have the day I deserve? you mean enjoying my life with my wife and 3 kids? fair enough it is date night after all think I'll take the wife somewhere fancy she'll be thrilled you wanted us to have the day we deserve. you take care now young lady.

[Anonymous]

you can apologize, you should. but do not give it another chance. this dude didn't deserve you being uninterested and you playing along. and then giving him no closure at all. just silence. and then going for other guys, seeing how crappy they were, and then trying to get back to him as a backup plan/scapegoat. just be single or find someone new. don't disrupt his life and what he is now.

[exitseven]

No, leave the poor guy alone. Just because you dated a bunch of losers does not mean you will feel differently towards him.

[Alex-Snow]

You won't know till you try. Just be honest and be aware that he may have a girlfriend now and may not be interested. Were you two fooling around sexually at all?

[bowenw]

Reach out so you can see where it goes. If you don't you will probably regret it forever.

[Drumlin2001]

Seems like your settling which isn't fair on him. Leave him be

[Twalli]

Tell him that you want to see if you feel a spark with him because he's a catch for any girl based on how he treats them.

[DreamLife7]

He's not searching for you. So what does that tell you?

[CaptainSmartass]

You could always try.

Simples...

[whistlingwh0res]

Do you have big breasts? Then yes otherwise there is no game

[Sasha0426]

I still can’t believe you’re 40 and still talk like this.

[Anonymous]

Noo, reach for me I want to feel your juices

[molonski2]

Message him ! What is there to loose.

[Anonymous]

Yes and give him an old fashioned

[Jerre]

Reach out and give it a try.

[FenixG45]

Yes, guys LOVE to be pursued.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Nothing to lose 🙂