Guys, Why do some men do this?

[Anonymous]

3 months ago on Tinder I sent a super like to this guy I used to go to high school with. (A friend of mine told me he had a crush on me in High school but I never pursued it at that time because we both hungout with different crowds) So when I super liked him, I told him let's get a cup of coffee and he responded saying that sounds amazing. As I tried to plan when and where to meet for coffee, he said he had work. Which I understand everyone works, but he didn't tell me his schedule or when he is free so we can plan to meet up. Since he didn't tell me what his schedule, I unmatched with him because I thought he wasn't interested in me or just wasn't interested in going on a date with me. So I unmatched and moved on. 2 months later, he matched with me on Bumble. I had premium which showed that HE liked me. Which I thought "Okay... maybe he wants to hangout now" so I sent him a simple "Hey✌️" and he didn't respond to my message. At all. For 11 hours he didn't respond so I'm like "okay he's wasting my time." So I unmatched him again. But I keep overthinking that maybe I'm judging him too harshly and maybe he's just really busy with work. So as a week passed by since I unmatched with him, I thought maybe I should make an FB or IG to try and reach out to him though FB of IG. So I made a profile. When I looked up his profile, it said he was set for private. In order for me to message him, I have to ask for permission to follow him then send him a message. As soon as I hit "Follow", within 3 minutes, he accepted my follow and I sent him a message saying "Look I think you're really cute and my intentions are to just take you out and treat you to a coffee or drink or whatever. I hope to hear a response from you" and HE hasn't RESPOND FOR 4 HOURS NOW. WHICH I DONT UNDERSTAND BECAUSE IF HE RESPONDED TO MY FOLLOW WITHIN 3 MINUTES WHY IS NOT RESPONDING TO MY MESSAGES? Does he want validation? What does he want? Guys help me out please because I don't know what to do.

[ohsheeT]

I think you've done everything you can I would leave the ball in his court there's no reason for you to go through ups and downs highs and lows if he wants to go out and have a cup of coffee he'll ask you if it's that simple I think about you I'd move on to bigger and better things

[JamesDiaz11]

Get off you damn phone, stop counting down the minutes, and give this guy some actual time. You're acting like a psycho.

[judebaru]

He made the time to reply he can make the time to show up. Id say he’s wasting your time. Whether he is a working man or not he’s not communicating very well. But if he ends saying he wants to make plans w you again, you need some kind guarantee that he’ll show up

[spartan55]

You girls are always hyper worried about appearing desperate... so not sure what happened here.