Why do some guys do this?

[Anonymous]

1. Never plan dates on own and want the girl to plan them. His excuse is that he is bad at it. I mean he pays for them so I can’t complain too much on that.
2. Wants 50/50 at times. I thought man were supposed to be providers.
He booked a place and wanted sex that night.
3. He wants me to booked the next hotel for us to stay the night at whenever we see each other again.
We live about 2 hours away from each other.

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4 mo

What do you guys think is too much for a man to do almost three months in? Because my ex was doing more than my current but he turned off to be bsing me. Guys are so confusing. This is the second guy I’m dating by the way. So I’m still new in the dating field. I like the honesty tho. Like this current guy is the polar opposite of my ex except for acting broke to me. He has two jobs by the way. I don’t care about his money at all because I work myself and I support myself.

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4 mo

But if he wants long term which he said he wants at the beginning of us talking. He needs to step up big time. Should I pop the question to him to clarify what are we? Lol

[236color]

Ok, generally I think the other commenter are right, this guy is expecting a lot without offering enough. That said, also comment on the planning dates thing. What often happens is the man's says " Let's go out for Mexican food". The woman replies " No I don't feel like Mexican", not I don't like Mexican, I'm allergic to tortillas or whatever, just doesn't feel like it. So you end up doing what the woman wants, you ALWAYS end up doing what the woman wants. If you go through this often enough, you might just get frustrated and say okay just tell me what you want. Stop pretending you want him to plan the date if you never do what he plans. This is not to say you can't say no to skydiving if you're afraid of heights or seafood dinner if you're allergic or that sort of thing, but if you want the man to plan, at least some of the time, let him plan. Now as for the "provider" thing, Husbands provide, boyfriends pay what they can. In the current society, we're all kinda broke and if you want to go out more often he may need help. I will say him expecting you to pay for a room to have sex in this early in the relationship is presumptive.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like a loser, to me!! Whatever happened to just expecting a hug or maybe a kiss at the end of the first few dates? Why is it EVERY date HAS to end with fucking? It's SUPPOSED TO BE something you work up to over a few months!!!

[Asker]

It only been 2 months of knowing each other. Plus we were drinking that night.

[Asker]

I had a long day at work before we meet up

[SueShe]

Wow, what a huge red flag that guy is.

lets you do all the organizing but wants fornication afterwards. What a nice reward for him and a cheapo.

So, assuming a dinner out costs $40 for 2 at a cheap restaurant, he wants to have sex for free. Obviously, that is going to be much cheaper for him than to book an escort girl which is going to charge him several $ for 5 minutes of hard labor.

Next time he wants you to book a hotel, find one that costs at least $400 a night and let him settle the bill. That will teach him a lesson of being stingy.

Oh, as to the why he does that? He knows he is going to be able to copulate for not much money. That is the only reason.

[Asker]

I literally just want to text him and tell him how I feel about this. If he gets mad that’s his problem. He told me to always tell if something is bothering me. That is a red flag to me of course. He shows green flags too tho. But I can’t tell if he is just doing the nice guy act. His behaviors are so confusing. He paid for the last hotel and he assume that means we can have sex. I was in the mood and we were drinking so why not? But if he wants to be in a relationship with me he needs to understand that I need a man that can provide for me and not a boy that I need to guide through life. I don’t need anyone if I have to deal with that.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO.

Hope you can solve that issue

[Anonymous]

Yeah I don't blame women for being picky when there's better fish in the sea 🙂🤭

[Asker]

I just want to send him a whole paragraph right now 😭

[Anonymous]

It s about gender equality. Western society has made this

[Asker]

Straight bs.

[Opinion Owner]

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