Should an ugly guy approach girls?

[Anonymous]

It seems that girls don't like being approached by guys they're attracted to but expect a guy she's attracted to to approach her.
So as an ugly guy, do you just sit back and wait for them to approach you? (which will never happen, unless she was really down or needed your help)

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* I meant "It seems that girls don't like being approached by guys they're NOT attracted to"

[MrScTi]

Of course you should approach girls. Forget about the balance of the universe and keeping things "fair". It's not your job to bring justice to dating scene. You have to want to get pussy for yourself and nobody else.

Now as for being ugly, here's the deal. While there are certain guys that are clearly handsome studs, most of us don't have a firm grasp on what it is girls look for in a partner. My guy friends think I'm HANDSOME. That's a guy's scale. When it comes to girl's opinions, I'm REPULSIVE, because my features are not "masculine" and I'm mostly an introvert.

There's a disconnect between what girls want and what guys THINK girls want. Girls look at features like height, hands, shoulders, chest, and other features that exude power. They also want a confident personality, one that serves as a beacon of stability and reason amidst her madness. He must also be able to provide for and protect her. Money provides. If you make good money, you're a provider. If you have all of the features and characteristics listed above, you can protect her.

Now, you were saying you're ugly? Even if your face was slightly askew, all of those characteristics listed above make up for it.

I see "ugly" guys get some of the most attractive girls I've ever seen. Literally, one of the hottest girls I ever saw at the gym met up with her 6'4'' athletic/lanky boyfriend with goofy face and a huge bulge in his shorts. Guys would never go for the "female" version of that guy. You really have to give yourself a chance and see whether or not you're ugly, because you can't decide that for yourself.

[ThisDudeHere]

There will be some people who will say, "There's no such thing as ugly. Every one can be beautiful on the inside!". Which is total BS.
Then there will be those who will say, "Yes, you have to pursue women and deal with rejection all of the time because it's a man's duty to be the dog that pursues". That last part they of course will not admit.

The main thing is to just not care if you're ugly or not. If you don't want to approach women at the moment, then don't. If you do then go ahead. And if you get rejected, so what? Not your problem anymore, move on and, again, do whatever you deem necessary. Just make sure you do things because YOU want them, not because it's socially expected of you.

[Bozikins]

You know the expression "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? As corny as it may sound, there is some validity in that statement. What one person considers "ugly" may be attractive to someone else. You know what else plays into that? Personality and attitude. Attitude makes all the difference. There have been average or even unattractive guys that I have found myself attracted to over the years because their personality made me think, "Hmm, there may be something here." Some of the most physically beautiful individuals have marred themselves with ugly attitudes, and some that are not conventionally beautiful adopt the attitude, "Hey, I may not be cute, but dammit, I'm awesome!" Which one are you more likely to gravitate towards? Bottom line, if you think you're physically unattractive, and you let it show through your behaviors and attitude, you're SOL. If you own it, you never know who might be interested.

[xxRedxx12]

Go for it. What matters is the heart and i don't believe there is an ugly guy, you are just exaggerating. It might take some time, but you should accept your self and be confident about yourself and in that way, people's word won't affect you in any way xx

[abundantlyrich]

No don't bother. I notice girls will do anything to manipulate guys in University when they need help. These guys are not pretty looking.

[Chloe-Price]

no. ugly guys should not approach girls. girls don't want them anyway...

that's what you want to hear, isn't it?

[Asker]

You got any better ideas?

[kheserthorpe]

He's going to need to do the approaching.

One of two broad approaches:
- hit on lots of girls and take rejection in stride.

- chat with everyone around you. Get in the habit of just being an outgoing guy. If a girl you find at all interesting is carrying conversation with you well try flirting a little if she doesn't back away then ask her out.

Do whichever of the above is more appealing to you.

[Tractorbeam]

Here's the best short course I know. You could do well to get a copy.
www.amazon.com/Superdate-Tracey-Cox/dp/0756607558
It explains body language and how to notice hidden indications of attraction.

Still, if you see no sign of interest, just move on and try elsewhere.

[doireallyneedone]

Even good looking guys don't often get approached by women, let alone ugly/normal people. You have to approach (this is true for 95% of guys), but be real with your expectations

[Asker]

Not true. Good looking guys get approached, or at least receive signals ALL the time.

[Asker]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75aX9mlipiY
See what I mean?

[doireallyneedone]

Signals =/ Approached. You still have to approach after receiving signals. Even if they get approached, the guy still has to take control of the conversation or she will lose interest. How do I know this? Because I've been approached by girls on the street a couple times, and especially when I was younger I had no game, I had nothing interesting to say and they would lose interest or the conversation would get too awkward. Now I have some game, it doesn't matter if they approach or I approach. Its basically the same thing to me.

*Of course these rules don't apply if you're a celebrity or a 10/10 male model.

[doireallyneedone]

Lol there was 1 actual approach, and got hit on 3 times by gay dudes. He's a pretty good looking guy too, can you imagine an equally attractive girl with heals, a tight dress walking around NYC for 3 hrs? WAYYY more attention.

Not denying that being good looking helps. But if you're ugly, just gotta do the best you can.

[Jager66]

if he desires to be in a relationship or to sleep with women then yes he should. He should work very hard to be the best him he can be and though it will be hard let go of the negativity women direct at him simply for not being their type.

[bananatossing]

Ugly or not. We don't have a choice man, if you wait for them to approach you...

https://cdn.meme.am/instances/52197964.jpg

[hardcoeur]

Ahh darn this length restrictions... I just wanted to say... NO.

[hardcoeur]

And of course I'm trolling, but you make yourself an easy target. If you're "ugly" then personality will win them over. I guess you just gotta be a tad persistent, but know when to back off. Also, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[StickStickity13]

Don't listen to the girls who say. That, they're wrong. Approach who you want, with confidence

[Krushhbrownies]

Apparently some girls gets offended being approached by ugly guys.

[Rocky96]

All girls not see how the guy attractive is, if he is nice one and really they will like him.

[aficionado]

Nobody is 'ugly'. Period.

[Chloe-Price]

are you trippin? ofcourse some people are ugly.

[aficionado]

Can't believe 3 superficial guys downvoted me. And as for @Chloe-Price, ugly or good looking is individual perception. The same person may look ugly to some and good to others.

[doireallyneedone]

Pretty sure there is such a thing as universal beauty. Pretty sure 99.99999999999% of females do not find a fat, hairy, balding short man physically attractive.

[Chloe-Price]

i wonder who thinks rocky dennis looks good. don't say his girlfriend cuz she was blind.

[aficionado]

@doireallyneedone

Do you mind citing the source of that 99.999999999% statistic? Or is it just your opinion, and not really a statistic?

[doireallyneedone]

Don't be a retard. Lets take your first comment as an example. "Period" as I take it means 100% of the time, no exceptions. Can you cite me the source that statistically proves that "Nobody is ugly, 100% of the time?". No you can't. You are a fool if you really believe there isn't good and bad looking in this world.

[abundantlyrich]

I believe in your statement, aficionado :)

Don't listen to these pot heads.

Doireallyneedone slept with a 16 yo hahahha He's a pedo. Don't take him seriously.

[aficionado]

@doireallyneedone
Yeah, I stand by what I said. No one, and I repeat NO ONE, is ugly, or for that matter good looking in the world. It is all individual perception. There are men who find even Megan Fox unattractive. Some people may appear attractive or unattractive to the majority of the population than others, but no one can be universally good looking or ugly.

And you're calling me a retard and a fool for having an opinion different from others? Fine, suit yourself. Call me what you will, I stand my ground.

[aficionado]

@abundantlyrich

Thank you! And I appreciate you educating me about this guy who supposedly called me a 'retard', that he is a pedo!

[abundantlyrich]

Funny , he called you a RETARD cos downsyndrome people used to be labelled as mongoloids. Asians like myself get called downsyndrome hahahha... hahahha SELF HATER.

[abundantlyrich]

Beautiful people are fantasies but an unattainable goal, they do get used for sex and get dumped rather than say a normal average looking person do. They look good on the outside but mentally off inside.

[aficionado]

@abundantlyrich

Yeah right! Just see the number of downvotes now! And ALL of them from men! Haters will keep hating, I suppose. :P

[abundantlyrich]

AFicionado, in China, I have seen some good looking ones with the older men who are not good looking at all. Often in their fifties, bald and sometimes thin...

[abundantlyrich]

It's the money, not how ugly, that speak for getting a girl. Good looking brats don't score big time.

[aficionado]

@abundantlyrich

Yeah! These 'retards' don't understand that attractiveness need not always be physical, because it can be emotional or intellectual as well.

[doireallyneedone]

And I stand my ground. Don't be a retard.

If you are going to argue that there is a % of people who think an ugly (on average) person is attractive then you are talking about a very small minority. I'm sure there are guys that believe overweight/obese women are attractive. Does that mean generally speaking, overweight and obese women are attractive to most guys? NO. Don't be a retard.

[aficionado]

@doireallyneedone

Fine, call me whatever you wish. Doesn't make me a retard. My IQ is over 140. Just letting you know, because retards usually have a much lower IQ.

[doireallyneedone]

Haha. You have an IQ of 140? My pigs have wings mate. Pull the IQ card when you know you're wrong and can't reason with logic.

[doireallyneedone]

Yet a 'serial pedo' has more logic and can formulate better arguments than a guy with 140 IQ and a 25 yr old 'Guru' who hasn't contributed anything of note to this discussion thus far.

[aficionado]

@doireallyneedone

Oh yeah? Do you even KNOW what 'retard' means? Of course you don't! You're too busy labeling people as retards, fools, ugly etc. to even know what is meant by the words you use. There is NO logic in whatever you said, so I don't see any incentive to reason with you. And I'm not 'pulling' any IQ card. Just educating you about how my IQ doesn't qualify me as a 'retard'.

[doireallyneedone]

Also, might I add. Calling people in Asia, 'yellow people' would be considered racist by most people of Asian descent. So correction, you are a 25yr old racist guru.

[abundantlyrich]

Yo, do do bird.
You're too busy perving on pussies in the gyno area all day. Of course you say sstupid shit.

[aficionado]

@doireallyneedone

I don't see how someone calling you 'yellow' is racist, when you use adjectives like 'retard' to refer to people. Hypocrisy of the highest order.

[abundantlyrich]

Not everyone sees one guy as ugly.
Ugly is a subjective opinion. To write off everyone as ugly is kinda mind boggling. I'm sure there are people who think are you are hell ugly too. A down syndrome person has more merits than you. More heart and grace. You're just a numbers guy going after fake paper money and dreams that are made of floss.

[doireallyneedone]

And if I said I have a 12inch penis on the internet that means it true? You can claim whatever IQ you want. I'm not saying that 140 IQ = a retard. I'm saying you're a retard - not literally, but that you are a real idiot if you truly believe there aren't what MOST people would consider attractive/unattractive people.

[abundantlyrich]

Aficionado... I think he's lying about studying to be a doctor... instead he comes here to perve on hot girls in GAG.

[doireallyneedone]

"To write off everyone as ugly is kinda mind boggling" and where did I say that? Lol. Please.

I think even aficionado is talking more sense than you. I'm sorry I will only be responding to aficionado's messages. I don't think you have much to contribute to this discussion.

[aficionado]

@abundantlyrich

So he's studying to be a doctor? Then I suppose he'll refuse to treat patients who HE believes are ugly, since all his statements indicate that physical appearance is all he cares about.

[abundantlyrich]

Someone's hell ugly and won't admit... too much mirror in the dinning room.

[doireallyneedone]

Lets examine your logic. I said I believe there are certain people who MOST would consider as attractive or unattractive and THEREFORE, and I quote "he'll refuse to treat patients who HE believes are ugly". Please don't retard to another level.

[abundantlyrich]

Um sorry to tell you this, chinese, viet whatever.. they're about appearances... They often go after a young girl because it makes them feel young but they're FUGLY. It compensates for the small dick syndrome.

[abundantlyrich]

So uglies still win in some way or another.

[aficionado]

@doireallyneedone

Since you seem to be hell bent on proving that people CAN be universally ugly, why haven't you used your own picture for your profile? What exactly are you trying to hide?

'Ugly' is a very offensive term to use, and it is on par with racist words such as 'yellow men', 'nigger' etc. And it is just the media which has created 'stereotypes' of attractive men and women, so we tend to perceive people who don't fit into these stereotypes as 'ugly'. If you open up your mind a bit, I'm sure you'll find beauty within the person whom you initially dismissed as 'ugly'.

[doireallyneedone]

Ok 2 more flaws with your statement. You are saying that 'ugly' and 'nigger' has the same level of degradation? Go to a black guy and say those two words to him and then ask which he finds more offensive.

And ok, lets assume I am ugly. But what has this got to do with the discussion? When was the last time you've raised a logical argument against anything of the points I raised? My patience is running thin Mr 140 IQ.

[abundantlyrich]

I'm a yellow person... and call myself one. Why would i object to it as being RACIST? Do white people get angry about called white? :P

[Bethanycats]

Yeah not every girl will find you ugly.

[mmm122]

Yes, ugly girls