what stories and experiences can you share...and was this boy a good friend before you dated him?
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It depends on the person really, but I fell in love with someone who used to be into meth and did a lot of other heavy drugs.
He was an amazing person and I loved him for his wonderful personality and his kind soul. Although the drugs worried me I always knew he would be ok and he eventually slowed down to just marijuana, which I was fine with. He was also my best friend before we started dating.
Now I myself am not perfect, I've done my fair share of drugs and I haven't had an easy life and I have my own issues but we understood each other and had a very positive relationship and we helped each other grow and mature as people.
In our case I considered it to be a mutually positive relationship but it may not always be like that. I still love him and we are still happy but I've seen a lot of situations like ours go bad. I was lucky I got myself a good man who had a kind heart but watch out, some people can be extremely aggressive when they take drugs. My dad was an abusive alcoholic and for most of my life I witnessed a relationship wrecked by substance abuse and experienced the hurt that comes from it. It's awful and I'm still recovering from the 19 years of emotional damage and it pains me to know that other people have to go through the same situation.
I can't tell you whether you should follow through with it or not. . . but I will say follow your heart and do what feels right. But make sure to really asses the situation, take it slow, and if anything makes you uncomfortable or if there starts to be warning signs of a potentially abusive relationship get out of there as soon as you can. If something makes you uncomfortable don't be able to stand up for yourself, you don't want to be stuck in an abusive relationship.
Sorry for the super long post but I hope I helped?0