My boyfriend wants me to quit smoking?

[Anonymous]

Should I quit for him? He really hates it and thinks I'm going to die early.

[front2back]

You should quit for yourself.

The average smoker absorbs over 80 years worth of natural background radiation every year that they smoke, this is due to the radioactive Lead and Polonium in cigarettes that is absorbed into the lungs and stays there. Meanwhile, the maximum dosage a US radiation worker is allowed to absorb per year is just 30 years worth of natural background radiation per year.

So how does that make you feel? You're absorbing more than double the maximum radiation that someone who works with Uranium and hazardous waste does?

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

Smoking is much worse than drinking. One person drinking a beer isn't going to make anyone else drunk, whereas smoking affects all people in your general area. My grandfather on my mom's side smoked so much, I'd go to the basement and there was a haze of smoke.

[BumbleBee12]

It's nice he cares enough about you to want you to quit. He can't force you to do something you don't want to do so if you don't want to do it, then don't. I don't smoke but i think if a boyfriend i really liked asked me to give up a habit i would consider it. Maybe ask him to quit something he likes and make it a challenge to do together so you are both involved! Good Luck

[Mekkalyn]

You should quit smoking.
Not because he wants you to, but because it's really bad for you.
It's also really expensive, especially over time.
Think about all the things you could have better used that money on?

My partner and I have never smoked and will never smoke. We'd rather have good health and extra money to spend, but that's just us.

[AzureGirl]

Quit smoking, it's a terrible habit and second hand smoke is gross and just as harmful to those around you.

[ThisAndThat]

Smoking isn't a habit, it's an addition like heroin, it's a drug.

[AzureGirl]

@ThisAndThat true

[ichot]

YES, quit for everyone's sake.

You would take the risk of accumulated damage while also putting your boyfriend at risk for second hand smoke? Just because your Dad is "very healthy" right now doesn't dismiss the certainty that damage is being accumulated. No smoker should be considered "very healthy", they are just fine for the moment.

Thinking for the long term is difficult but you have to.

[PrincessLex13]

You should def quit.. not just for him but for yourself. It's a bad, unhealthy habit. Also, people around you can suffer from second hand smoke. I look at it this way.. it's expensive and only will harm you. Don't be fooled that just because you're okay now, it won't harm you down the road. There's absolutey no benefits from smoking.

[EasyForYouToSay]

You know you should quit. It's bad for you, and is super expensive.

I personally would never date a smoker. It ruins your teeth, skin, and makes you smell revolting. It also often makes you taste terrible when your partner gives you oral.

[Applefan1]

Smoking ruins everything. It even ruins the environment and causes major environmental problems when smokers litter their cigarette butts to which most smokers don't realise or want to realise.

[EasyForYouToSay]

@Applefan1 This is very true.

[Applefan1]

Yeah, I was talking to someone in England and she was saying how at her local beach in England it is so disgusting to be there because smokers where she lives in England have left so many cigarette butts in the sand you pick up one handful of sand and also pick up about 5 or 6 cigarette butts to.

[EasyForYouToSay]

@Applefan1 That is revolting :/

[Applefan1]

Yup, that is because a cigarette butt can take up to 15 years to biodegrade and even then the filter can never biodegrade. If you combine that with 4.6 trillion cigarette butts littered every single year around the world you can see it is a massive problem.

[EasyForYouToSay]

@Applefan1 Absolutely. Even if they're not dropped at beaches, or in streets, they're gonna be packing landfill like crazy. That's just disgusting. I will never understand why people even start smoking now, when we know all these things.

[Applefan1]

Yeah, well when littered cigarette butts wash down storm water drains and into the sea which then leak lots of nasty chemicals into the water like cadmium. It is said one butt can pollute up to 500 litters of water. Fish also mistake them for food, eat them and die and they also block the storm water drains. If it does not rain birds eat cigarette butts and die. They also look nasty and sometimes you can smell them to. So combining that with 4.6 trillion littered every year makes you able to see the problem littered cigarette butts are.

[stubbsy]

To give up should be your decision otherwise you will fail. Your boyfriend should accept you and your habits. Changing you is surely changing the very thing that attracted him to you anyway. YOU. Give up for you not because others want you to. x

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

She should quit for her own health and the health of everyone who has to be near her ass breath.

[stubbsy]

@Logic_Hammer_Bear ASS BREATH? sounds like a foul mouth needs attention here first.

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

Ah you must be a smoker, to not realize that smoking fucking stinks to non-smokers.

[kaylaS91]

Quit for yourself. Smoking is a horrible habit to have, negatively affecting everything from your health, sex-life, appearance (teeth, skin, hair, etc., all down the shitter).

[ThisAndThat]

This answer is incorrect because smoking is not a habit, it's an addition like heroin it's a drug.

[kaylaS91]

@ThisAndThat smoking can be a habitual addiction just the same as physical. Almost always physical if at all, but there's a component of being a nasty habit as well. If you hang with the same crowd who happens to all smoke together often, how likely are you to remain clean?

[ThisAndThat]

Being in the presents of other smokers can causes apprehension which causes the physical withdraws which is related directly to the addiction. If the physical part is missing the addiction has not yet formed and that person should consider them selves very lucky at that point. There are very few that mess around with cigarettes that could say they are that lucky. For that few at that point they could say because luck was on their said that long that it's only a habit. For the rest it is a very strong addiction.

[Mekkalyn]

@ThisAndThat I've known people that only smoke every now and then. I'd consider that a habit.

[ThisAndThat]

@Mekkalyn And I've known a few people like that too, however those people for whatever reason, they were able to dodge the bullet and they shouldn't be factored in when it comes to smoking addiction because they haven't been truly addicted to tobacco and it's not a fair assessment to those who are.

[Mekkalyn]

@ThisAndThat I'm just saying that she's not incorrect for saying it's a habit. Obviously for a lot of people it can be a habit, and for others it's an addiction. I feel like it starts out has a habit and then once you're hooked it turns into an addiction.

[ThisAndThat]

@Mekkalyn Once thing about tobacco is that it's super addictive and I would have to say probably about ninety nine percent of those messing with cigarettes are addicted because most people with any amount of common sense at all would just put them down and not continue to temp fate if they had that chance. Tobacco is known to be so addictive that a none addicted person could try one single cigarette and start having cravings and withdraws a week later. I can tell you from where I stood the addiction came very quickly and we near impossible to stop it. And had it not been for ecigs I wouldn't have been able to stop.

[Applefan1]

Yes. I think you should quit smoking. Not only for him but it also has advantages for you to mainly around the areas of your health and not trowing money away on cigarettes.

[Mesonfielde]

Well I know I wouldn't date a smoker. Smoking is expensive, and actually a really silly thing to do. Do you know how bad it is for your cardiovascular system and your respiratory system?

[M_A_X]

Did you know that going out for a beer on thursdays is a bad thing to do? It's bad for your liver and cardiovascular system

[Mesonfielde]

@M_A_X Yeah. I don't do that. In fact, I don't even like beer.

[M_A_X]

My point is I don't hear you attacking drinking lol

[Mesonfielde]

@M_A_X Smoking is worse, but excessive drinking is pretty bad too. I also would prefer not to date someone who drinks themselves to oblivion every weekend.

[Mekkalyn]

@M_A_X Maybe because this post isn't about drinking?
It's not like she said she has a drinking and smoking problem... just a smoking, so why wouldn't he target the thing she's... you know.. asking the question about? His preference on drinking is beside the point.

[Dandeus]

@M_A_X alcohol in moderation is not harmful and red wine is good for you. It's a legitimate culinary element both for pairing with food and cooking with food.

There's no comparison to smoking.

[KRIEL55]

well do whatever you want to do its your decision, but i personally think it would be a good idea to stop because smoking is nothing but a bad habit.

[ThisAndThat]

Smoking isn't a habit, smoking is an addiction like heroin it's a drug.

[KRIEL55]

@ThisAndThat ok. it starts out as a bad habit and some people can still stop if they want to. i used to smoke and then one day i decided to stop, so i just did. never smoked again after that. it was nothing but a habit.

[GirlsLie]

You should quit for yourself.

Have you ever tried e-cigs? I know a couple of people who have quit using those.

[ThisAndThat]

Ecigs do work. To the smoker they are exactly like smoking cigarettes.

[TheSwedishGuy]

Yes you should quit. Not only for but also for your own sake. :)

[TheSwedishGuy]

for him*

[Anonymous]

Do you want to quit smoking? Is that something you want for yourself? If not, you'll probably have to end the relationship, since it will be a deal-breaker. I'm a non-smoker, and I would never date a smoker.

[Cmasterson]

Well you should only quit for yourself because if you do it for him, you'll find yourself resenting him for being angry etc haha

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

Indirectly harming others isn't a reason to quit?

[Cmasterson]

No, because she isn't the only one "harming" others, if it's not her its some one else and for fourth. Even if that was a reason to quit, she wouldn't be doing it for herself therefor she will relapse. @Logic_Hammer_Bear

[slatyb]

You should quit for yourself and him. My mother was a heavy smoker. She was beautiful at 25 and wretchedly old at 45.

[SYCONSULTING]

you most likely will. almost 70 percent of smokers do die early and an higher number get sick from it eventually.

[Lyndsielee666]

Why don't you quit for yourself...
Smoking is so bad for you.

[Jamia_69]

Tbh you should quit anyway. I'm sorry but I'm really against smoking it kills you from the inside out

[RedThread]

You shouldn't quit for anyone else but yourself. If you want to quit and make a move for a healthier lifestyle then go for it. If you don't then do you.

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

So harming others with her death breath and second hand ass is okay?

[gwail]

the fact he is asking you to live longer and healthier... only means he cares.

[Jaden69]

Well you should be quitting anyways. Although, if him saying that persuades you more then listen to him

[Frost_Byt3]

You should quit whether he is asking you to or not.

[abc3643]

Well, you should quit although, I have to admit, it is a bit of a turn on.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

yes. it's an expensive, gross and disgusting habit. i don't get why you would want to smoke in the 1st place. just pick up a spliff instead.

[Anonymous]

MY GRANDMA SMOKES AND SHE LOOKS 90.
SHE HACKS ALL THE TIME
SHE WHEEZES ALL THE TIME
ITS HORRIBLE
YOU SHOULD QUIT BEFORE IT RUINS YOU TOO
(my grandma is only 70 this year)

[ThisAndThat]

If I were your grandma I would give ecigs a try. Electronic cigarettes to the smoker is exactly like smoking only without all the poisons that come from smoking.

[Stein]

Yes not only is he helping u but if u ever seen a smoker lungs u be thanking him for tell u to stop... trust me I have there all black and terrible looking thanks adv bio

[jmmmfi2]

Of course smokers are disgusting. I don't know he even touches you.

[Anonymous]

If he knows you smoke, why is he with you, if he doesn't like it

[thewanderingme]

you should quit for you.

[AmandaLynn1930]

If u think he's worth it, then yes :)

[ElizabethBiersack]

Don't do it for him. Do it for yourself

[ElizabethBiersack]

Also my dad is 50 and has been smoking for more than 16 years and he is not dead. He's actually very healthy

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

You should quit for everybody.

[ThisAndThat]

Something you should know about smoking, smoking does a great majority of its damage silently and usually the results will show up very suddenly all at once. If I were your dad I would try transitioning to electronic cigarettes if he doesn't plan on quitting smoking.

[ElizabethBiersack]

@ThisAndThat he tried electric smokes and he didn't like them.

[ThisAndThat]

He probably tried the wrong type of ecig. He should give something like Vuse or Vcigs a try. And also it depends on his level of nicotine how many cigarettes he smokes a day. Some people will require a higher level of nicotine to stop. Some are able to quit with 18 ml or 1.8 nicotine. The levels go all the way up to 30 something or 3? Also the steam from the cigarettes can take some time to get use to probably a day or so. I was able to quit smoking in one day and I've smoked over 40 years.

[ElizabethBiersack]

@ThisAndThat he smokes at least a pack everyday sometimes more

[ThisAndThat]

If he smokes a pack a day or more he'll probably requires something like 2.4 also referred to as 24 ml. If I were him I would give something like Vuse a try. I'm not a fan of Vuse because their cartridges don't equal a pack like they say they do. But at least they are smooth exactly like a cigarette and he'll know for sure they work. Then from there all he would have to do is find something that's equal to Vuse. It's a lot cheaper to vape than smoking to. Usually a refill bottle will cost anywhere from $5.00 on up depending where get the bottle and they'll last in most cases two weeks. Compare that to regular cigarettes.

[SlightlyCrazy]

Yes you should for both of you

[apple24]

Yeah or try to smoke less.

[Maxemeister]

Don't do it for him. Do it for you.

[Anonymous]

You should quit for you not him

[Logic_Hammer_Bear]

She should quit for everybody.

[singlebee]

Yes you should

[SmokeDope]

Smoking what?

[Anonymous]

He is right