Boyfriend says he feels "numb", what can I do?

[Anonymous]

He says I'm the only one that can distress him but he says he feels numb - what can I do to help? He works 7 days a week and is pretty stressed.

i want to just kidnap him and take him to a beach for the arvo so he can relax but he's always got work! Or I could just cook him dinner one night? I don't know

[jman46241]

Did he say that he feels numb because of working every day or is that why you feel he said that? Just curious but either way it's going to be difficult because he's always got work!

[Asker]

That's just how I took it because after he said it he said I'm the only one that helps. This conversation started because I felt he was ignoring me but he went on to say that he's super busy at work

[jman46241]

Well I don't think there's much more you can do. i think it's awful the way you're being treated based on your reply, seems like he's using work as an excuse.

[Asker]

It's hard I'll admit but he's working towards his dream and I admire that

[jman46241]

And what would that be? Nothing wrong with admiring someone for hard work

[Asker]

He wants to be a pilot

[jman46241]

Well an aspiring pilot can't feel numb and shouldn't be stressed. I still don't understand why that requires him to work every single day, but just offer your support and in the meantime slowly suggest a little getaway.

[Asker]

Flights are expensive so he works 3 jobs - on top of studying. Rent, other bills and family stresses it's a lot

[jman46241]

It's too bad that you only responded to one part of my response.. I really did my best to offer a couple suggestions. Whether you liked or not, a mention would have been nice. Anyway when you say flights are expensive are you talking about flight training? Otherwise yes, trying to juggle many things at once can be very stressful, which is why I hope you can help take some of that stress out.

[Asker]

Do you think if I went over one night and just cooked him simple spag and meatballs and make some mapel bacon cupcakes would be a good idea?

[jman46241]

Yes, you are right:)

[TadCurious]

If you're the only one who can distress him I'm not sure how you're going to be able to help.

[Anonymous]

Cook him dinner and give him a relaxing massage.

[hifromkai]

Shoot him in the balls with a paintball gun.

If he screams, it means he's cured!!!