maybe she is really busy right now. However, but i can only speak for myself, if and when I am interested in a person I can ALWAYS find at least time for coffee. After all, she does have to have a day off, or has to eat sometime no?
If I where you, I would be very clear that, yes you understand that she is crazy busy right now, but that you would like to meet up at least for a quick lunch or coffee or something because you enjoy her company. Ask if there is something you can help out in any way to take some weight off her shoulders.
This way you literally leave her no wiggle room to talk herself out of a date. If she still keeps being hard to pin down and won't give you a "yes I want a date" or "No date ever again" answer, she might be simply keeping you on the hook for a rainy day...
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Honestly it could be either case. Between school or work she might really be stretched thin. Is there anyway you can be vulnerable and honest? "Hey we had fun the other day and I would like to see you again soon. I enjoy our texting, but I'm honestly looking for more. Do you think you can make some time for me to take you out again in the next couple weeks or would you prefer not to?" If she doesn't give you a straight answer after that move on.
She might just be doing the minimum to keep her options open or to kill boredom. But it's too soon to say for sure. If 2 weeks pass and she still can't find the time to hang out, even just for a hour, then move on.
My guess is that she isn't really interested. Even if she was busy, if she really does like you then she would fit you in her schedule anyway bc she likes you that much. Obviously its not at that level. Kinda confusing tho why she keeps texting you. Maybe she is just flaky and you need to be more assertive. And the time you spend with her, make it count. Everyone is busy nowadays so the time you spend with her is valuable and you need to make a good impression on her quickly.
Be patient, keep pressuring. You could be missing out on some good stuff.
Maybe she really is busy.
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Do you know anything about her job? I know with my job I can sometimes get my shifts very last minute so it is really hard to plan in advance, maybe she doesn't want to make a date then let you down?
I'd keep texting her for a while, it's a good sign she isn't just totally blanking you :)
Then if she still hasn't set a date in 2/3 weeks ask her outright, do you want another date or not, then at least you know!It means "fuck off" in a nice way
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