There’s this girl i met on a dating app, and we’re now talking on instagram. About 6 days ago, I told her I like her, and now she didn’t respond to me for 6 days so today finally i asked if I did something wrong and she said nothing and that she was busy. She sounded annoyed, I could tell even tho it was just on text. Like was she busy for 6 days? She was pretty available before. Before I said I like her. I don't know what to do, I’m worried. I feel like i always scare girls off no matter what i do
What does it mean when a girl says she’s busy?, please read the details clearly?
Based on how she’s responding, I’d say she’s just being rude. I don’t think you would have done anything wrong. If she was truly interested in you then she would make time for you, or at least try to make conversation with you when she’s not “busy”. Her responses are dry AF and she’s killing the conversation. Cut your losses and move on.
@petitedollbee I met her on a dating app, we swiped right on each other, she seemed interested but I don't know anymore, ever since i said i liked her, it’s just been dry responses. I’ve been trying to find a girlfriend but i suck at talking to girls and no girl has ever been interested in me in my life. I don't know what to do anymore.
@petitedollbabee It’s just every girl i’ve met they’re always dry, i try to be really nice and funny but still it’s dry, i get ghosted, they never text me first like ever, I’m like thinking “My god am i that bad at this?”
It means she’s not finding time for you because it doesn’t matter to her. If you haven’t met her (which is what I think happened here) then you sure as heck cannot ‘like her’ in the conventional aspect of the term. She probably got spooked and decided to move on. You should too. Reserve emotional revelations and statements about feeling for after a personal meeting/date and even then, after a few of them.
@Flatmanlewis So what do you think happens when you ask a girl out in public? Do people just ask out people they don’t like? Like what? So Wdym spooked? We met on a social dating app!
I think the point I’m offering is that if you haven’t even met somebody yet it’s very difficult to decide you “like them” in the way most people intend it when they say they like the opposite sex. If you give too much too soon people who are accustomed to getting to know people a little before they start recognizing, or sharing, feeling like that can be scared off. I’ve heard more than a few female friends say a guy liking them, or developing feelings too quickly, can be a uncomfortable experience. I could elaborate more, if so desired.
A girl telling you she’s busy is her way of avoiding telling you she’s not interested because she doesn’t want to feel mean.
You haven’t done anything wrong, she’s just not into you in that way.
Don’t be scared or worried. Rejection sucks but if you ever want to get anywhere with women, you have to just accept it and move on to the next one. There’s plenty more pussy in the sea.
@VictorMachiavelli “Pussy” ? I think you mean fish. Cuz I’m not that type of guy. I’m not sexual at all, i want a genuine real relationship not something based off of superficial views or sexual views. Also I have a hard time moving on cuz i get attached easily and i don’t have luck with girls, i never been in a relationship before, no girl has ever been interested in me, liked me.
That can often be the problem, especially in the modern dating scene. I was once like you, back when I was like 18. Very idealistic, almost child-like views on relationships. While women might say that they wish they could find a guy who thinks that way, in reality today see that as naivety, and naivety is a turn off for them.
There’s the problem of being too sexual, but there’s also the problem of not being sexual enough. You say that you don’t want a relationship based on sexual views, but what’s the difference between a good female friend and a girlfriend? Sex/sexual attraction.
Unless you have some medical condition which leads to severely low testosterone levels, you have a sex drive and you’re turned on by hot women just like any other guy - you are sexual.
@ProbablyClueless i’m a asocial person and it doesn’t help that i have nowhere to go to meet people and i have no reason to go out for that matter. I don’t have a job, go to school, or even do any social activities community wise.
Realize that.. girls on tinder are getting like 100-200 messages per day.. every man will swipe right even on 3/10 girl that have both legs and less than 90kg ( for some even that is not s problem) .. i find out myself, i wanted to know how is it to be a girl on tinder because i was getting just like one match per day.. i didn't even upload picture, just vine bottle.. no info about me.. just that i am a girl. I got 130 matches in 1 day and 100+ messages when i return to check that profile in one week ,!!! Try that by yourself... You need to be 9/10 king with unlimited money for them to get their attention... Obviously, most mens are 5/10 and struggle with money, so she swiped right in your case.. but it does not change the fact, that this week you are probably number 100+ in her dm's.. go find a girl in real life, its way eazier.. .
One word answers. She's not too pressed to talk to you. If it mattered over those six days you would have reached out to see what's what. It didn't matter to you then, you don't matter to her now.
When in doubt, pick up the phone and call. She doesn't want to talk to you, move along.
Well you haven't even met her, you don't know if you actually like her or not. She obviously wants you to take a hike and leave her alone. Just delete her number, unfollow her in dumb social media, whatever else you use to communicate. Just leave her alone.
@Staximus Fyi This was on instagram, i never even got her number. She’s really pretty so i do like her. Also She seemed interested before, we liked each other on a meeting people app. Also you are being very rude.
She's refusing to be direct and tell you she isn't interested, but she isn't interested. Stop messaging her. Sounds like you could do better than her anyway. Find a woman (not an immature girl) who knows how to communicate like an adult.
That’s impossible cuz I can’t even find a girl who’s interested in me. I never had a girlfriend before.
It’s just every girl i’ve met they’re always dry, i try to be really nice and funny but still it’s dry, i get ghosted, they never text me first like ever, I’m like thinking “My god am i that bad at this?”
