Why would someone befriend their crush's friends?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Why not? Especially if they are fun, or just other girls to know in case nothing happens between him and you. Maybe he is attracted to them or maybe not. If you asked him to hang out with you and your friends then he should he able to make connections with them.

[Opinion Owner]

He could also be showing you that he respects your choice of friends or is cool with other people, or can just be sociable

[Asker]

He has been befriending bunch of my friends from different friend groups. He wasn't part of any of the groups earlier. They are both girls and guys. And he's making a big deal out of it in social media. Liking and commenting everything they post etc. And he doesn't really do that to anyone else. And they really are not as close as one might think if you only saw the social media posts. And he's befriending more and more of my friends all the time and I find all of this very confusing.

[Opinion Owner]

Does sound kind of weird, like maybe he's trying too hard to be a part of something that he isn't. Is he is he looking everything they post, or is it liking pics of girls in bikinis or whatever?

[Asker]

No girls in bikini stuff, just random everyday posts. People hanging out together, going to events, food pics, landscapes and everything that's at least a little funny. And everytime he rans to any of them irl he remembers to post pics of it, even if it was just a 5min meeting. And he doesn't post a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

That's weird. How old is he?

[Asker]

Closer to 30 than 20

[Opinion Owner]

Is he an attention seeker? Like, he needs to be liked and known by everybody?

[Asker]

I don't know. Might just as well be! I just know that he has a huuuge crush on me and he's pretty shy and indirect about it. And now those friends he has been befriending have started to notice it too and I'm put to a very uncomfortable place.

He does work in a field where a lot of people know him..

[Opinion Owner]

So what are you going to do? Are you going to ask him

[Asker]

At the moment, when just about everybody is trying to drag me in middle of their stupid relationship dramas, I'd just want to forget about all the people around me and let them do what ever the **** they want and live my own life.

Sorry, just a bit pissed off by the latest trick one of my pals pulled.

[Opinion Owner]

That's a good idea. Are you going to confront that friend that just pissed you off?

[Asker]

After calming down a little. Not a good idea to just go and rant about something. Better to have an actual conversation.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO!!

[bizzz]

To obviously get closer to their crush. To be part of group activities/hangouts. And so their friends can tell you stuff that the crush is keeping from you

[karennn]

To get closer to their crush? lol.

[Asker]

As in see them more often or getting to know more about them or what? I'm sorry I'm a little lost on the subject 'cause this is not something I could see myself doing 😅

[karennn]

Will give you an example.

A has a huge crush on B. So A associates herself with B's friends C&D to be able to
1) Get to know a little more about B
2) Show B that she can get along with his friends.
3) Be around B more often

[Asker]

Ok. Thought it might be something like that. Thank you for your answer! 😊

[zorro8888]

To get closer to the crush

[Anonymous]

To get to know their crush through their friends.

[Asker]

We already know each other, and waaay better than he knows any of my friends. Or do you mean know more about them or how they behave when they are with their friends or something like that?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, either that or something shady like trying to get with the friends.

[Alex88F]

to fuck em when you're not looking