I have always only dated men older than me. Sometimes as much as 10 years older. This is the first time something like this has happened to me.
It was actually kinda by accident, cos I met this guy totally at random in NYC, while on holiday. We ended up going out, and only realised by the third date that he was 8 years younger than me. I was rather uncomfortable, but then I thought it to just be a vacation romance and let it be. But we ended up falling for each other. And now that we are on the brink of something serious, I am getting cold feet.
I am not sure if this could ever work. I mean barring the distance (I live in Singapore), the age is difference I think is just too significant.
I am in a phase of my life where I am ready to get married and start a family. He is only just starting his career... Plus to be honest, I have my insecurities about whether he would remain interested in me for Long. I mean I am only going to grow older...
I am in a real dilemma, cos I've not been as happy in a really Long time. We have an amazing connection, and I hate the thought of throwing it all away.
What do you all think? Have you ever been on this situation, or know any such couples? Has it worked out for them?
Most Helpful Guy
I'll give you two examples to give some hope.
First in terms of the age difference, 8 years is not at all weird. I personally know two people that are together that are TWENTY-TWO (!!!) years apart. Personally I find that really weird, when he was 22 she was just being born. If you think in those terms it almost seems creepy, but the fact is its becoming more common. They seem happy together and that's all that really matters. The moral of example one is 8 years is not at all too big an age difference.
Also I have an example of the woman being older. On one side of my family my grandma was about 8 years older than my grandpa. With tradition and all that people may judge the fact that you are older than your man, but the truth is it had to be really weird back in the 60s when they got married and they made it work for almost 50 years. So moral of story two is don't let others tradition or judgement affect your relationship.
Overall moral of my post: if you two are happy and can make the distance work work, don't worry about anything else. Personally, I would predict that the distance would be your biggest problem, not the age gap or the fact that you, as the woman, are older.
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Most Helpful Girl
I think if you're happy & having fun together then something is working. You don't have to think long term. Just enjoy it for what it is.
There was six years between my ex partner and I. We got together when I was 17 and we spent close to a year sneaking around because of his fear of what other people would think... but at the end of the day, it's not their relationship.
It's not something you can judge from the outside. Only the two of you know how you both feel
He and I didn't break up over the age difference. Something happened, but had it not come up, we'd still be together. Absolutely.
Also, My friend's mother is 13 years older than her dad and they've been together for 25 + years and I have another friend my age who's girlfriend is 28 and he's crazy about her.
Right or wrong is a matter of opinion. Like I said, If you're both happy, that's all that matters.1