Girls never show me any interest? what gives?

[WiLLiZ_001]

So I started college about a month ago, and I just feel like girls never show me interest. Whether it is outside of school of inside of it, I feel like no girl likes me. i get no attention, no looks, no questions, absolutely nothing. And to make things worse, I have my dad telling me that I'm great looking and this and that. If I am so good looking, then y don't girl like me? If I have such a good personality, why don't they talk to me? I don't believe I am ugly, but I don't believe I'm "hot" either. I am average looking, at least in the location I live in. It just annoys me to no end, and it kinda depresses me. I see dudes that have bigger issues with insecurity and life in general and they get girls and girlfriends but me I don't get shit. And I understand that it might not be my time yet, but why does it have to feel like this? It doesn't make sense to me.

by the way I'm an 18yo heterosexual male who has never had a girlfriend. You were correct if you assumed I'm a virgin too.

I just want a girl to give me an opportunity, if indeed there's one out there that likes me. At least look at me a few times so I could approach you first. I got no problems approaching girls if I feel like they are interested. However, on the other hand, I refuse to approach a girl that I won't be able to gauge interest (or lack thereof) from.

[Belgie]

"I refuse to approach a girl that I won't be able to gauge interest (or lack thereof) from."

That's you problem right there. You have imposed this gateway that blocks your progress. A gate way of your own making. Which is built of your own fear, and a desire to never face rejection.

But that's the thing guy, EVERYONE faces rejection. And we learn to deal with it, because it doesn't hurt as much as the fearful think it will.

You need to get over that, and approach and flirt with girls you like the look of. Because that is how you will judge their response and see what they think of you too.

[WiLLiZ_001]

Well. I have tried before. I have been rejected 6 times in the last year. That's why I won't go up to a girl I like because there's no point if she doesn't feel the same way.

[Belgie]

There is EVERY point.
Rejected 6 times in a year? I get rejected 6 times a week on a good week. It's a numbers game. You talk to a lot of girls, you get a few.

[DarkHumorRUs]

See OP, this is where you'll end up if you don't get a girlfriend in college (or at least in your 20's). Do you really wanna be 43 and still waiting?
Be afraid. Be very afraid. But be brave, and daring, and risky, and find a girl.

[Belgie]

@DarkHumorRUs - Actually, I'm quite happy with my life. When I think it's time for me to settle down, I will.

[WiLLiZ_001]

Good for you man. I like that you can do that. But what if you try talking to a girl on some friendly shit and then they treat you bad? What about those situations. I have zero luck with girls. I will probably die a virgin, cuz no girl will ever see me through anyway.

[WiLLiZ_001]

@DarkHumorRUs you are funny. Whenever I talk to a girl with no intentions of dating it goes bad. And when I have had intentions of dating it has turned out even worse. It's just fucked up. I know it works for you but for me it doesn't work.

[Belgie]

"what if you try talking to a girl on some friendly shit and then they treat you bad"

It's rarely happened, but if it happens, I thank my lucky stars that she revealed what a bitch she was before I got emotionally invested in her.

I have several female friends, and I've rarely had trouble finding a date. I'll admit I have two could-have-been-wives relationships in the past, but they failed for completely different reasons.

If all the women you've spoken to turned out to be cunts, then maybe you're attracted to the wrong kind of women, I don't know. But you still have to get over it and approach the ones you like, to see if they like you back.

You didn't stop learning how to walk just because you fell on your ass 6 times.

[DarkHumorRUs]

it doesn't work for me

[WiLLiZ_001]

I agree with you on the heartbreak shit, but remember there is always different perspectives you must consider

This same girl who gave me an attitude the other day is friendly with some other two guys that are cool guys but they are irresponsible and lazy and they do hard drugs. As for me, I take care of my shit and I am cool to. I drink a little bit of alcohol and I know that might not be the best but it's not like I down drinks every day, much less every week. I usually have a drink every 2-3 weeks. But anyway off topic.

What I'm trying to say is that I got more potential than those guys and even on some friendly conversation shit this girl gives me an attitude (btw I don't like here and I never have from a potential girlfriend standpoint), ESPECIALLY when you see her talking to these two other dudes and smiling and laughing that she doesn't know much about (like me).

That's the type of shit that makes me wonder, am I gonna be alone forever? Along with other stuff.

[Belgie]

You obviously don't want to hear this, but your odds of being alone forever are vastly reduced when you take more risks and open yourself up to the possibility of being hurt.

Find the girls you like, not the ones stupid enough to be into drug taking frat boys. And talk to them. That's all. Put them at easy. Talk to them. If you can, make them laugh.

For right now, in the early days of you learning how to flirt, consider a good natured laugh, a win.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Not sure, I'm in the same boat. I just determined that I have no game. I'm pretty sure girls would rather have me as a friend still.
I just don't get how to convert a girl from a friend into a girlfriend.

[IzzyB55]

Hey you're 19.. it's all good :)... I mean I don't know you or your personality so I can't give my two cents. Are u outgoing? Shy? Maybe make eye contact with a cute girl in class or something, you don't even have to talk if you're shy but that will make her feel comfortable approaching you if she likes you. Be confident but not cocky.. that's always a good one. Nothing is a bigger turn off than arrogance for me at least. Just be yourself. I didn't have my first real love till I was 18 & in college. It's all good! :)

[WiLLiZ_001]

I actually 18 I don't know y it says 19 on my profile I probably put 97 instead of 98 for birth year

[MarieAce]

You just have to find a girl with similar interest. It takes a while but you'll find someone. Most girls aren't very genuine, you have to find one that seems true. Also no girl will seem interested until you show interest in them. Don't be afraid of getting shit down either. YOu never know if you have a chance with someone until you talk to them.

[MarieAce]

*shot

[DarkHumorRUs]

You say you "just" have to find a girl... it's fucking hard for those of us who aren't players.

[spoons]

if there is one thing i learned in life its that if you want something, you have to work to get it

you can sit around waiting for girls to come to you and you may be sitting around waiting a very long time

[DarkHumorRUs]

if there's one thing I've learned in life its that some people are luckier than others.
There is no god damn way most guys who have girlfriends had to work at it as much as guys like me and OP have tried to work at it and failed.

[spoons]

@DarkHumorRUs you say "failed" like its the end of your life
every guy gets rejected. failure is how you learn to be better next time

[WiLLiZ_001]

The funny thing is I'm not expecting a girl to come up to me. That's unrealistic in today's society tbh. However, I need to be able to gauge interest. And if there's no interest, what's the pint in approaching them? At least look at me. Girls don't even look at me, it's horrible. Even if they looked at me by accident and I approach and she rejects me it's fine but if I got NOTHING to work with, I'm not gonna play with it.

[WiLLiZ_001]

@DarkHumorRUs they don't really try at all. And girls are attracted to guys that get girls. This feels like a fuckin caste social status system. If that's how getting a girlfriend is then I might as well just bust a nut instead. Don't got time for those high maintenance pretty girls.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Alright then

[Anonymous]

its because you are nice to them. Treat them like shit and ignore them. You will have girls swarm over you. Then you can f#$% them and go to town with them. Women are meant to be used anyway

[WiLLiZ_001]

Tbh I'm not even "nice" to them. I treat them like if they aren't special, unless they are my friend.

[Roxasthekid]

How is your self esteem?