Why do I feel disgust for one night stands?

[Anonymous]

Because you are asexual/have low drive

Because you are a germophobe

Other

[EricMontreal]

because you find sex without attachment, or sex without shared feeling with the person your having the act with as fade...
Everyone have their own vision of sex, some see it as appart from love and attachment as some other see it to be a whole al together and that they cannot be split.

But it is true that for a lot of people to the y generation are thiking as to be relly appart.
They want the fun from it, but not the commitment since they can see the commmitment as something heavy and not something that make the sex a lot better.

If you don't like, do not do it and push away people that try to make you try it.

[Asker]

But one night stands are gross. What is fun in gross things?

[EricMontreal]

It all depend of people perception, you see it gross but the people who do it may see it otherwise, i guess.

I just never tried and will never since for me, i don't like to not feel attachment with someone.
You cannot feel attachment in a one night stand, you just meet her barelly or him.

I don't have judment about doing that, since i like more to not judge people for some of their habbit, just their personnality, though it is sure they don't have personnality that match mine.

It all depend of people perception, for you it is gross for other it is fun, for me it is fade, empty, stupid to do, but not gross.

[Asker]

To me it is both gross and empty

[EricMontreal]

Are you very religious, it may be a factor. why... and others may be atheist...

[Asker]

No I am not

[EricMontreal]

Oh, I just though about it, maybe you have some minus form of AUTISM, I know someone who had some form and relly hated to be touched or to feel intimate.

[Asker]

I crave to be touched by my beloved man

[EricMontreal]

Well, by thiking a little i guess because it is because one night stand is like the sex that animal have between themselve, no shared of feeling and no deep though sharing when doing it with someone your are not in a relationship with, so it is just like bestial in a way, but I'm not the kind to judge people action since, we can start to judge like everything, since we human are doing so many wrong thing.

Bullying for no meaning, lack of respect to other without reason, been selfish and not caring enough to others in our professionnal life or in our relationship.

Well, you feel disgust and It is your right, some nobody have the right to force you, but you have unfortunatelly to tolerate others who do it.
Everyone is normal, everyone should try not to hurt the feeling of the people they hang out with by forcing what they want on others.

[EricMontreal]

I may be that the sweating that you can have is to personnal since it is like an invasion on your body that you will only like with someone you love.

In one night stand, that body invasion from other people body who may touch yours is to much to hold in you inconsciousness maybe...
You have physical reaction.

So the feeling of disgust, may be a would feel to, i don't know i never did, it may be my problem.

Sometime for people you have to experience to fully know when others you already knows since it is deep in yourself.

[EricMontreal]

Don't totally trow the possibility of some minus form of autism, a lot of people have some minus form without knowing it, since feeling physical agression to just casual shake hand or something like it, is something to look upon. It is minus as i said if you think you could relly get very intimate with someone you feel in love with.

Nothing wrong in seeing a neuro doctor just to be sure. You can have a little somthing and it still make you ''normal''. Normal been to often categorized. Like me a suffer from dysgraphy and a little sub form of guinon desease and i'm just like someone goffy at time for no logical reason. But i am relly aware of it, i just feel strongly like doing it.
I often been told that i a creepy or weird, and it hurt. I can tell you.

Good luck, I wish it help in some way since i put effort in this and i think i have spent far enough time on the site today.

Take care.

[supernerd99]

because you have a healthy consciousness and aren't decensitised or corrupted to that point yet.

[supernerd99]

but if your disgust is too strong there might be some underlying pathology in your side. some germophobia or phobia of physical contact or even deeper, a form of jealousy or abnormal hatred for the women that can practice it without qualms.

[Asker]

I do feel disgust for women who have one night stands. but this is not moral disgust. this is physical disgust

[supernerd99]

yeah maybe the physical/hygienic is a manifestation/excuse of the subtle moral repulsion, or maybe you indeed have some germophobia thing or childhood trauma. or it is some deep, complex disturbance of the psyche that we can't detect or rationalize so easily. maybe its just your "perversion". everyone has some of those. a unique idiosyncracy.

[supernerd99]

i believe that its possible, under the hygienic pretence there is probably an underlying subtle judgment. whenever we have judgment in our hearts for others, we have some pathologies of our own to settle down. its usually an ego thing... .

[Jxpxtxr]

I'm like that, too, and I can't really explain why I feel that way, either. Taking a guess I'd say it's probably just the thought of being so physically intimate with a total stranger that disgusts me.

[BubbleBoy69]

Is it because it makes you feel like a hooker?

[Jxpxtxr]

@BubbleBoy69 not really I just find any kind of physical contact with people I don't even know gross, I even find it gross when my actual friends offer my snacks and touch them before they give them to me. Maybe it's really to do with germs I don't know

[SarahsSummer]

Other. Because you believe in a connection to someone before surrendering your body.

[Asker]

Yes but I feel pyhsical disgust for strangers bodies. they are gross to me to touch

[SarahsSummer]

I agree.

[Asker]

You think ons are disgusting too?

[SarahsSummer]

I don't really have any interest to get naked and touch a naked guy I don't know. besides I have e a boyfriend and hope to not be in that situation ever.

[Asker]

Do you want your boyfriend be your last man?

[SarahsSummer]

That would be the best possibility

[openthedoors]

Because you're a normal person. Normal people are disgusted by that shit.

[Anonymous]

Because, despite what the media insists on telling us, sex is a very emotionally bonding experience. It is natural to feel closer to someone you had sex with, and develop feelings for them. I mean look around, we do not live in a culture that "brainwashes" people that ONS are "wrong" it is natural to feel that way. It is natural to feel and want to be loved and close to people. The truth is that our society is trying to brainwash people into thinking ONS are the natural way.

[Asker]

I do feel PHYSICAL disgust

[Opinion Owner]

That is normal. I feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Because the idea of having sex with someone you don't know is just that abhorrent to you. Personally I would never do them but I don't find them to be "disgusting" per se. I get that some people are have no problem with casual sex and that's fine too.

[John_Lion_84]

Because it is disgusting. Can go on and on about it but it makes me feel sick just the thought of it, where others have the opposite thought. You want not like it nor do it and that's good.

[Dimmu]

I never met anyone has higher sexual drive than me

And I feel disgusted from ons cause sex without feeling is torture
And I'm also picky when it comes to preversion

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Because you're conditioned to think one night stands are 'trashy' even though sex is perfectly natural.

[Asker]

Genitals are gross

[AleDeEurope]

Like if some strangers are gonna have the answer for that xD

[jacquesvol]

Because you were educated by people telling you an ONS is wrong

[Asker]

I feel physical disgust for ONS

[RexCatholicissimus]

Scholarly answer. Advice like this is always helpful.

[Jnerdy97]

Some people prefer it while others don't. Don't feel bad.

[Tomsta]

Because of your morals and upbringing, i'm the same i can't stand ONS's never had one, never will

[Yumix]

no clue, but no need to do one night stands and you shouldn't care about what other people do in bed

[Asker]

yes cause that makes me feel digust for those who do

[sp33d]

You probably don't know anything about that life and/or your priorities are different.

[Anonymous]

Because you have standards

[datgirl]

Because it is truly disgusting.

[Elarra]

Because they're disgusting and trashy.

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Because that is against you

[Princeofanons]

Because of cooties

[93stepsawayfromhome]

Possibly demisexual.