I had a one night stand and regretted it?

[Anonymous]

My ex broke up with me a good few months ago. I’ve been really hurting since. I’ve begged him for months for him to be with me I’ve tried everything I could to make him want me. But nothing I did could make him change.
He’s been using and abusing me. Only contacts me when he’s bored and only sees me to hook up. I’ve watched him party every weekend and see how he’s doing just fine without me.

So last night I had a one night stand. I feel so down about it and even when I had the one night stand all I thought about was him. I told my ex that I slept with another guy he says he’s hurt but I explained to him that he had broken up with me that it meant nothing to me. I just couldn’t take the way he was treating me and I wanted to feel good but I feel so down about it. Should I feel this way or am I mad?

[kylee2437]

Why are you telling your ex your business and why are you staying in contact with him? Staying in contact with him is only going to make the process of getting over him longer. You have a right to feel regret for the one night stand but seriously, drop contact with you ex.

[Asker]

I know I shouldn’t tell him but I feel so guilty even though I shouldn’t and have no reason too. Tbh I don’t know why I stay in contact with him it does nothing but only get me hurt by him. I just find it hard letting him go and even when he gives me as much as a text it makes me a little bit happier which isn’t okay

[kylee2437]

You have a codependency to him. You need to come to terms that you two are no longer dating and you have nothing to prove to him. Seems like to me you regret it because it hurt him when in reality what you choose to do with your time is none of his business. He most likely wasn’t going to give you another chance whether your one night stand hurt him or not.

[Asker]

I know I need to start realising that. All he was offering me was baby steps but I just couldn’t do baby steps with him for me it’s all or nothing

[Tina19]

I did the same hookup because i was lonely now i regret it

[Asker]

It’s such a horrible feeling.

[Tina19]

Yes it is
Just take some time you will get over it

[Guy13]

At least you have decided never to do that again. It is an unnecessary risk with all the diseases. It seems that you have a disjointed idea of what sex is and is to be used for? What is sex to you please?

[Asker]

I know what it is but now a days it’s not like that anymore sadly and I just wanted to feel good because I’m hurt

[Guy13]

Perhaps it is the company you are keeping? im your age and the people I hang out with do not condone or behave in the way you say is normal 🤷🏻‍♂️
Obviously, it did not make you feel better but yet you continually do it. This will desensitize you and I believe it already has. It negatively affects ability to form intimate and long-term commuted relationships. Your brain 🧠 rewires.

[Asker]

Well fair play to the people you hang with that’s amazing! N ah look it is what it is now no point dwelling on things I just need to get over my ex and my life will be better

[Guy13]

Yes you do but do you have a Plan? Are you a dating app person❓ Hang out with lady friends for support❓ Clearly, swearing off men for 6 months woukd be a good idea, right⁉️ I don’t think you have anything to offer…woukd be worth a damn in another immediate relationship. And, a man trusts the judgment of a woman who takes 6 months to get her 💩 back in order before jumping into another relationship. Make sense ⁉️

[boggboss]

U thought it would make your feelings vanish it won't u told him because u thought he would really care he do t need to start moving on

[Asker]

I knew it wasn’t going to make my feeling vanish as that’s hard to do. But I told my ex because he annoyed me by ignoring my feelings and just talking about hooking up. So I just came out straight with it and he got mad and ignored me for awhile said he was hurt and wanted space but I apologised and blocked him and he emailed me thanks for blocking me

[boggboss]

Meh either way seems u need to keep him blocked and move on with your life that situation just seems toxic

[Asker]

True it is very toxic

[noohair]

You must learn this, you can't make an other person like you or love you.

[Asker]

I know I really need to learn this