Will he ever regret leaving me?

[Anonymous]

We had a connection he was very sweet and patient and then since I am virgin and told him I wanted to wait for marriage. He is my first love. He returned then came back again and left me again. I don't know if this is the last time but I love him. We talked on the phone and he was sweet. Then suddenly HE said all he ever fell for me was "lust" and that this should be the last time we speak. and that I am old and should find a man to have sex with and that if guys invite me to their homes alone they do it "to get to know me." Mind you he knew I had attempted sexual assault in the past and he still said this. I called him cruel and I haven't stopped crying since that day. Were those his true colors in the end? HE blocked me everywhere.

He has a supply of women available. Easy one night stands but when it comes to me he has this love/hate relationship. I don' know how to get over this.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that guy sounds like a real jerk. You're definitely better off without him. A few thoughts:

- Any guy who would say such cruel things to you after claiming to care about you is super toxic. His true colors definitely came out in the end.

- Wanting to wait for marriage is totally reasonable. You shouldn't feel pressured or shamed for having boundaries. He should respect that.

- Comparing you to "easy" one night stands is so disrespectful. Every person and relationship is different. You don't deserve to be an option.

- Blocking you everywhere was immature too. He could've ended it like an adult instead of running away.

- It'll take time, but you'll get over him. Focus on yourself, hobbies you enjoy, and surround yourself with people who truly respect you.

- In the future, don't settle for any guy who plays hot/cold games or makes you feel bad about yourself. You deserve way better.

- Cut all contact so you can start properly healing without his mind games affecting you anymore. You'll find a caring partner someday!

Hang in there - if he's capable of saying such cruel things, he'll definitely regret it someday. But by then you'll be so over him and living your best life.

[Nikki1989]

Most men don't know what they got till its gone.