That's pretty heavy.
If you think that you want to have a future with Ted, you're probably going to need to tell him sooner or later. This is definitely hanging over your head, and will continue to do so until you either can't take the pressure anymore and break up with Ted, or will finally decide to tell him. Ted will probably be hurt either way, but if you tell him, Ted may (on reflection), take solace in the fact that you trust him enough to tell him something like this.
If you think that Ted is fine for now, but you don't really see a long term relationship with him, try to let him off easy, but no need to tell him.
Worst case scenario is that Ted finds out without you telling him. He'll be hurt double that way - because you don't even trust him enough to tell him.
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AHAHAHAHA.. if you want to break it to him, you can always say this "I bet I can make you sad and happy at the same time" , then he says 'how' or whatever, just be like "Your d*** is bigger than your brothers" LOL... all I have to say is, you royally f'd your self, pretty much destroyed the trust anyone could have in you, couldn't restrain yourself, I don't even need to read the rest, I'm telling you right now, after reading the question, you can tell him, but whenever he does find out, he is going to be more pissed and hurt that you hid it from him and allowed him to waste his time with you. Be honest, or move on. save face. Seriously though, that is so low.
Why would you tell him? Do you seriously think he could ever get past that and keep on dating you? Especially since, as you say, he's always been jealous of his brother.
If you want to stay in a relationship with Ted then the best thing you can do is keep on your life as normal and hope he doesn't find out. Oh and try not to piss off his older brother!
I will ask you the same question. What will you do/feel if your boyfriend tells that he and your sister had sex? Try to put yourself in your boyfriend shoes. You will know the answer
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Wow that is hard to answer. I wouldn't be sincere with him. The truth is overrated and it will only hurt him to be honest. I would try to just break up with him, honestly your past with his brother is too f***ed up and I think keeping secrets of that sort always poison the relationship. If you really and honestly don't think he is the one I would find a way to lose him, and let him off easy, sooner rather than later. But that is just my opinion.
Break up, as I said having secrets poison relationships.
By the way how was the sex with his brother as compared to with him?Yeah, lying is going to make you look better, good luck with that, when he finds out, don't be surprised if you find yourself single.
You need to tell your boyfriend that prior to you guys going out you had sex w his brother. Because if your boyfriend finds out from his brother, that will be worse.
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