I regret not fighting for her?

[Anonymous]

I loved her,

I know she liked me too...

I asked her out, and she had a boyfriend :(

It was tough, despite her even telling me one night that her boyfriend stood her up and she was sad.

(Idk, It didn't feel right asking her out, maybe she was venting and wanted attention)

I gave up... I loved her, she said no, she had a boyfriend...

I had to move on... I gave up on love..

Things got awkward, we don't talk anymore... I find out she was single and now is dating a new guy...

It just kills me... Why did I give up on love?

I should have fought, I shouldn't have cared about her boyfriend, I should have fought...

But I didn't...

I feel so depressed, I made such a poor choice in my life.

[JudgmentDay]

I think the opportunity and time had already passed by now though, maybe you can still wait until her next breakup again, that is "if" she breaks up again and if you think you'd be able to talk to her and see her again.

Otherwise there's not more that you can really do about it other than to accept that it really is time to move on and look for another lady instead of dwelling on the one that got away or the one you should have fought for.

But if you really really want to give up on love for good, then you'll do that wholeheartedly without any second thoughts about it and accept it as the path you'd take and continue on.

[Asker]

Yeah, the time and opportunity is gone no doubt.

I really loved her, I felt so strongly about her... and I gave up... I had to move on... She had a serious boyfriend, or so I thought...

and I had to move on...

I regret that, I should have fought, asked her out, been persistent, why did I care she had a bf? Why did I back down?

If I had, I may have been holding her in my arms right now...

Now I get to see another guy hold her :(

I just keep dwelling on the past... Did I make the right choice? What would have happened if I fought for her?

I just want to come to terms with the past, I feel like that will help me move foward...

[JudgmentDay]

Just move on and find something else to do. Thanks for MHO!

[Asker]

Welcome, I came to terms with the regret... I tried my best at the time, with the info I had... I didn't know they would break up, I didn't think she was that kind of girl and I deserve to be someones 1st choice...

I am still struggling a bit with closure and moving on... I really want to understand and know the truth.

[JudgmentDay]

But the reality is that it had already happened and you can't go back, rewind and change it. Just let go of those deep emotional attachment feelings. I know it won't be as easy as I say it, but again, as I've said, it's reality now. It's beyond your control now. How she felt, and what her choices and decision were, had been completely beyond your control. If you really want to get better, just find something else you can do and stay busy and get your mind off her. It's not easy because you are feeling deep emotional attachments or infatuation for her. But in time you'll realize those feelings are all but delusions and illusions, because it really is just hormones and chemical reactions in our brains and bodies. You'll have to learn from this experience so that the next time if there is another opportunity with another lady you are interested or might be interested, you would not repeat the same mistakes again.

[Omar5881]

Love the one word people mostly don't get

If it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be she clearly had a boyfriend so you had to move on there's no fighting for and that movie shit

[Asker]

I moved on, didn't find anyone... She broke up, got over him and is dating someone else

[PetiteLicorne]

You already have your answer on what to do bud ! Move on, let go of what was and go for a new beginning in your life, the best is coming, you'll see! Be confident in what the universe has in reserve for you ;)

[Asker]

Okay, I'll try... It kills me to know there was a chance of having her

[PetiteLicorne]

You have so many others things to see and feel in your life. Don't stay stock just for a girl who is already looking for something else.

[Asker]

Yes, you are right.

I am over but the problem is there's tension between us... I just want things to be normal... but she is really uncomfortable around me

[Anonymous]

You should move on. Stop blaming yourself. If she wanted to be with you, she would have. So it was not your choice.

[tattooedhandfet]

Stop kicking yourself in the teeth and talk to her brotha

[CT_CD]

"I loved her, she said no"

lol @ "fighting" for a girl, especially one that already said no.