Are Plenty of Fish and Tinder just hook-up sites now, or do guys actually use them for dating?

[MrOwens]

I have used pof and okcupid and I have had conversations. Met a few women who lied about who they were and their appearance. The free sites I also found are full of liars and narcissist. Or women with fake profiles catfishing men and trying to get free dinner and money out of them. I have met some women that would never be satisfied even if you were the cover of GQ magazine and had billions. They would complain if their ice cream were too cold. Is it a hook up site? Yes. It is the perfect narcissistic playground with the 2% actually being a real person or actual true intentions. Tender is the same way. I have been on all three since last year. Have had little over a dozen of dates with less than expected out comes that involves drama queens, mommy and daddy issues, can't get over the ex, or hell bent on abuse from their past. I have made no real connection with anyone I have met in person or chatting with them.

[CyberToothTiger]

Yeah lot of them sites, people are
1.) Looking for Hook ups

2.) Are gold diggers

3.) They can be catfish

4.) Some of them are people
with serious mental health illnesses

5.) I would say 10 % are looking for
real love.

[Kalibie]

Okc is the best. Men who take time to fill out their profiles are more genuine and you have the most info on a guy if they answer the sites questions. Best dates were with okc men for me as an intellectual. (Seems to attract more nerds) met my boyfriend of two years here.

Pof men have been trashier and red necky in my experience though I've had good enough dates.

Tinder is great for hookups and it's really just like going to a bar. He might want a relationship but probably not. I've had wonderful dates on tinder too but all short term.

[Brokenheartedx]

some guys are genuine and others are a joke.. mostly married men hiding...
Got talking to the genuine guys and they get it tight as well, ask them they'll tell you about girls wantin money for phone top ups to other people or men pretending to be women.. so most genuine guys give up.. plus they get ignored

I gave up knew a guy on it that was only messaging me to remind me I was a fat ugly old cow with baggage.. yup activity sought me out to call me names.. sad for any guys that was interested in me

[BrittBratt2416]

They are dating sites but you have to careful, some people only use them just to look around for an easy hook up and are not serious about about finding a relationship. Their are people who do want to find someone you just have to weed through them. Honestly, an this is just my opinion, I would stay away from dating, I've heard so many bad experiences.. to the point to me people these days aren't serious about finding a relationship with online dating.

[XRabbitHeartX]

1 year with my boyfriend I met on Tinder. Best decision of my life to join Tinder. I'm happier than ever with the best boyfriend I've ever had or could even dream of..

[godfatherfan]

Why would anyone call either a "hook up site"? I think that is hillarious. You never hear bars being called that. Even though that is all they are. No guy I have ever known would think about getting seriuous with any woman he met in a bar. I use POF and Tinder. I have never had a "hookup" once. The only way I can date is online so I am glad it is there. The people that don't understand online dating are typically, people who don't understand computers. It is hard to believe that anyone under 35 would even have that issue.

[Rawrzz]

Probably. I don't have any experience with Tinder or POF, but it seems everyone always says Tinder is a hookup app and nothing more. If you're looking for a serious relationship, then use a paid service like e-harmony or something. Only serious people would pay. And they have requirements.

[sunshinechyk]

I am currently on POF and am having no luck whatsoever. I have gotten a lot of emails from guys just looking to hook up. The guys who seem decent don't email back. Not sure why. I am decent looking and certainly not crazy. I have my shit together. I feel like a lot of guys just like to look for whatever reason. Thinking of joining Match. I figure people who pay for the service are the ones who are serious about meeting someone.

[LibraLady1989]

It depends on the person but a lot of people are not who they say they are online. Also there's are lots of crazies and psychos out there. A lot of guys these days like to use girls as well.

But I think know a few people who have been successful and found the one online, so it reall depends on the person and on how u go about it as well

[Valentinasab]

I've tried Tinder before and wasn't very successful on there. I chatted with a few guys on there and decided to meet up with a couple of them. They just came across as wanting one thing. I might have just been unlucky of course. It could be that some guys are actually looking for a serious relationship on Tinder. My advice would be to take things slow and look at the guy's actions.

[Anonymous]

What about your guy friends? Trust me there's a guy who likes you and you either can't see it or know and are not thinking about it.

A sweet friend is better for a hookup, or relationship.

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[A-mac]

When I used Tinder, I did just for hook ups (I got out of a long term relationship just before a ring was purchased). However, I've been seeing the same guy for over a month now (Tinder guy) and want to continue. It's a better app for hook ups, but if you want more than that, be clear to whoever you're matched with.

[charlie_boy]

Sadly from what I can ascertain, I believe both are used for casual hookups. It works both ways though, because when I was on tinder I would come across absolute skanks or some girls who were single parents, unstable or men haters.

I know men give those sites a bad name, because I was on them because I wanted a genuine relationship and had little luck.

I've broken away from dating websites now, and i'm taking a breather just to be me and enjoy my own life.

Good luck in your search Lioness :-)

[Anonymous]

I stopped using them because there are loads of inactive accounts left up as people join for the trial and never pay or renew their membership and never delete their account so there's more inactive people on the site than active. Also lets be honest if you do manage to find a woman to date then your likely to be really scraping the barrel as a good woman would be snapped up without the need for a dating website. The only women that use dating websites are the mopeds and the promiscuous types with TCS. Guys would be better looking for good women at church and charity events.

[Thrifty]

If I wanted to date you then I would rather know you from an organic interest and like you for your soul rather than how good your tinder profile pic looks.

No one wants to date using social media. I only use tinder as a free hook up potential site and if I fail then I move onto sugar baby sites.

[RationalMale]

Hard to know in your age group.
I tried POF but gave up... it seems to just be single moms and overweight women.

Tinder is okay. I've used it with some success--I think the main problem is the format encourages you to be OCD and just click to the next person available.

OkCupid I've had better luck with.

[Anonymous]

Going to be completely honest

1. Most men (95%) who are on tinder want sex initially. This is their intention

2. When they meet a girl that intention can change if they find out they really like her as a person and think she is cool. In that case the desire for sex changes to a desire in wanting a relationship.

So for girls who are looking for relationship. Use your personality and go out on dates before knocking boots.

[Anonymous]

Mostly hooking up but I have a friend who's in a 2 year relationship with his girlfriend at the moment and they met on Tinder. I suggest putting something like "looking for the one" in your description bar. Something like that, so that it wards away hook up people and attracts people who want something serious.

[Anonymous]

I tried to use Plenty of Fish for two years to find an actual relationship, but almost all of the women I encountered on there just wanted a hook up, so I never ended up meeting anyone from there and deleted my account.
The two that I met that did want a relationship and we had enough in common lived too far away.

[GingerGuy]

In my opinion nobody takes online dating sites seriously at all. I've been on several (not Tinder though) and have had little to no luck. Nothing serious has ever come from them. Having said that though, yes there are guys on there genuinely looking for dating (I was). How you'd tell that though from an online site I don't know? I think all women just assume all guys on there are just looking for hookups?

[Notorisch_Arschloch]

For women of relevant age, yeah. But your age? That's for pump and dump, and then only for guys with no standards.

[vonasaurus]

i have a guy friend who met his fiancee on pof; they've been together for almost 3 years and got engaged last Christmas. but that's just one story~ i'm sure there are equal parts both.

[underconstuxion206]

Pof and tinder are the like bars of the online dating scene, yes you may find a guy that actually is looking for a date, but more often than not, you meet someone who just wants to hookup.

[JohnDoe3000]

I don't know about PoF (other than that it has a shitty reputation as the place where all the freaks go). Relationships do start on tinder sometimes but it's a bad place to look for love for a lot of reasons.