Firstly, you have to address it calmly, to the point, and delicately. You also have to make sure your in a position where saying this doesn't come across as awkward or where you don't know them enough for it to be valid. If you want to be friends with them, gently tell them, that thats what you want. If you want a relationship, tell them how you feel, but judge their emotions and reactions carefully, to assure they aren't just going along with it to fuck.
I don't think guys get "scared" I think its more of sometimes girls rush the process along. Not necessarily a bad thing, because you want to know what your getting yourself into, but if you go on one date with a guy, and he asks you to marry him wouldn't you be a little put off? Wait for the right time, the right moment, and knowing the person enough, THEN ask where they stand, and just be straight to the point, but nicely and calm as you can.
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I think part of your problem is guys are always watching for "tests" now. Saying "I'm fine with a casual relationship" screams test so even if it's what the guy wants he won't say that. Other guys can be insecure and they just want to tell you what they think you want to hear so you're happy. Confronting a guy about his intentions and getting a straight answer is going to be hard and there aren't any universal answers.
I don't know anymore. I've tried to be friends with guy and failed miserably. I've tried approaching nicely and not trying to come off as weird or desperate. I tried telling him I've wanted to get to know him but no response. So I don't know
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I don't know, but women do the same stuff and won't be up front.
I'm honest when in a relationship, and I like honest straight up answers too. How can anyone know where they really stand in a relationship when people won't tell the truth. Good luck finding an honest person though.Unfortunately it's never that simple
im very honest
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