I like honesty above everything, but I notice guys still lie even when I tell them they never need to. Why? And how do I confront a guy about his intentions/feelings about me without seeming like I'm desperate or crazy? I know guys get scared when a girl is straight up, but I'm one of those people that need a black and white "yes or no" answer so I can decide what I'm gonna do. There have been so many relationships where I wanted to be friends with the guy but he would always fuck it up because they would lie about problems, making it harder to find a solution. So how can I approach the situation more gently so their "big balls" won't shrink when I ask?