Here is a thing...
This guy and I have been flirting for some time, but the thing is... I don't know whether he is simply making me a fool or has genuine feelings for me.
He is touching me a lot, used to call me a lot, tried asking me out many times, but never with a specific date nor time. I was thinking that all of this is a joke, cause he ain't doing anything to proceed things further (I kinda believe that he is giving me this attention just bc he thinks thay I'm desperate) and he is always laughing at me whenever I get upset about him making some jokes about me.(Although he says that this is his personality and it has nothing to do with me and I should not take it personally)
Today we spoke over the phone and he suggested again that we should go out to a restaurant, bc I was about to do him a favor. (This guy is my coworker and I was going to drive his PC for maintenance to another city... bc I was traveling in that direction)
The thing is that this favor cannot happen, bc my boss isn't allowing me to do it. So basically now he has no reason to take me out... and I was thinking maybe I should tell him now "cool it is maybe better that I'm not going to take this thing to this city, maybe now u can visit this restaurant on your own, because you will go instead of me".
I don't want to hurt him... but I feel like he was toying with me and had no real intentions to take me out, so I kinda want to do him revenge. Should I say these words?
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Revenge never truly satisfies anybody. You do that, this whole situation will come back and bite you in the ass a second time. I actually think he was sincere in telling you that this is his personality. I've known people that are just like this. Sometimes real feelings can form. But I actually advise against getting involved with these people. They tend to break many hearts because they think they want a relationship, then one day they don't. It would be best to keep everything plutonic with this one and try to meet some other guy.
Do u mean that this was his personality in terms of "just joking and messing around"... or in terms of "I liked you but I'm a jerk so don't get offended". The point is that I don't get why would you joke about liking/desiring/loving someone... it's cruel and he says "I'm a good person"... I know he is, but if he played with me this ain't making him one
Just joking and messing around. I don't think he's intentionally trying to mess with you like that. In my experience, these types of people have a hard time understanding the difference between friendship love and SO love. So he may say or do things you find endearing and coming from a potential SO, but he doesn't mean it in that way. This is why I say don't try to start something with him. In his lack of understanding, he may actually say yes, but then later on realize that it's not what he had in mind. Better to find a guy who you can easily see is interested in you.
It’s always a better idea in my opinion to be the bigger person in the situation. If you truly think he was just using you, then either cut contact with him or tell him that that is how you’re feeling and see what he says in response.
is this a work PC or personal PC?
It was a work PC...
he might be trying to throw you under the bus from something he might have did what he wasn't supposed to on the company pc