Do looks matter more to girls or guys in a relationship?

[jlopez90]

I was just having a convo with my friend who's a girl yesterday and she says she's always dyed with looks being secondary in mind and that this is common amongst girls is this true?

Girls

Guys

Depends

[Veritas77]

As a woman, I genuinely believe it's something that matters more to men in a relationship. I was married young and stayed married a long time. When i found myself in the dating scene again, I realized I had no clue what I was interested in. I vowed to go on 100 first dates. I went out with men ranging from 5'4 to 6'7", from grocery store workers to professors and Lawyers, from a 10 to a 1. Men that were in shape, to men that were overweight. I went out with men 15 years younger than me to 20 years older. And men from every ethnic background. And I learned a ton about myself in the process. I don't have a type when it comes to physical appearance. What I crave is mental stimulation. A man could be model sexy, but if he doesn't have a brain in his head, I might as well be dead from the neck down because he will do nothing for me. Now if he's funny, can hold intelligent conversation, and can appreciate sarcasm and dry wit, his appearance takes last place in what attracts me.

[Maypai]

It honestly depends on the person. From what I've seen, looks can matter more to males or females. I've heard both say they wouldn't look past looks but then meet that one person that they fall heads over heels for.

I used to be all about looks but then one day I met this guy who wasn't ugly, but he wasn't the best looking but I liked him for who he was. Which was dumb given that he was and still is a prick (but a prick that I have love for, not romantically though). Currently my crush isn't ugly at all, he's actually a decent looking guy but he isn't my type but I still like him because he makes me happy, makes my heart melt and I enjoy and appreciate who he is and how he is.

[Hungry_Shark]

@Maypai, if there are 2 guys, and they both have same level of confidence, humor etc
but one is way better than the other, the who will u chose?

I'm sure u will chose the good looking one, so dont givve that BS that looks dont matter.

[Maypai]

@Hungry_Shark It may sound like BS to you, but trust me I have been there and done that. It honestly would come down to who I know better. There are somethings that looks just can't fill in for. It's statistically proven that 14 months into most relationships the original attraction of your hot SO wears off, so why would I go after someone just because I like the way they look?

With my current crush it took me two hours to talk myself out of being a prick about the way that he looked, we met online and talked a lot from there through voice chat and stuff. After clearing my head, recalling all of our good times and why I liked HIM I was able to look past his LOOKS. Trust me, it's very possible to do.

[Maypai]

@Hungry_Shark It also has a lot to do with familiarity. If you're not used to seeing this face and they're someone you deem as unattractive, it's easier to disconnect emotions. But if you become acquainted with their face, it's a lot easier to look past that.

[Hungry_Shark]

Ok, let put it this way,
u meet a really good looking guy, and all other things like values, etc match, im sure ur gonna dump ur current guy for this dude

[Maypai]

@Hungry_Shark There is no way in hell would I dump my guy for a more attractive one. Especially if I get the guy that I currently like. I'm going through a lot just to keep his focus on me. What world do you live in that you HONESTLY believe someone would do that? A shallow person maybe, but for the most part I am very confident that most people wouldn't.

[JubJub_Hi]

I agree. Good looking guys make me feel like we compete for beauty also and other more pretty girl will take him :) I think it nicer to have average looking guy with everything else :)

[WildButterfly]

Looks matter to me in the sense that I would not date a guy that's super ugly or obese but I would and have dated average looking guys. Even went out with a guy shorter than me. Personality matters the most but some form of attraction is needed for me. In MY opinion I think guys are more into looks than girls. I've seen more unattractive guys with attractive girls way more than I've seen unattractive girls with attractive guys.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Majority of normal people want a partner who they find attractive. People who say they don't care about looks at all are often just not truthful. We all need to feel attracted to our partners whether male or female.

[Anonymous]

They matter more to guys in a relationship. This isn't to say they don't matter to girls, they absolutely do. But guys its like... looks/sweetness/get along. Women it's like looks/masculinity/success or ambition/get along/is he admirable and the looks get a smaller piece of the pie.

In hookups, looks matter a ton to both, but men without hesitation drop their standards while women -raise- their standards on looks. You might say for women hookups are about looks/chemistry, and for men hookups are about opportunity/looks/chemistry and opportunity is like half the pie.

[WildButterfly]

You are so right about everything u wrote. I can't believe a guy wrote this.

[hellothere805]

This is actually so true... most hot girls date the not so attractive guys because they have high self esteem to not care what people think. On the contrary, not so hot girls feel hot hooking up with a hot guy. For them it's a dream, for the guy it is a hookup. But, my question to you is, how would a woman know if the guy is just hooking up with them while dropping his standards? is there less respect shown to the woman, or lack of interest? How would the woman know?

[Opinion Owner]

@hellothere805 if a guy never commits to anyone it is hard to say. But if he hadn't dropped his standards and sometimes commits this is a major reason why he might be interested in more than hooking up or not.

[DarkAngek]

Both genders obviously although especially girls dont admit it, except if: if the man got money, is popular or he got authority position. The funny thing is that cause of these three factors of chosing their man, they claim they don't look at the outside looks cause the majority of men look only on the outside. Pathetic. Also don't claim that "oh i look only on the inside" cause you dont always do. And you dont date a fugly fat guy/girl with small penis because he has a really good personality. Claiming you dont look only on the outside is just hypocritical.

[Ananonimous]

Actually looks matters to both girls and boys as well. Guys r honestly desperate so they probably want their girlfriends to be pretty and hot.. They also want to show it off to their other friends..
When it comes to girls.. Girls r less likely to care about looks.. But they would still get attracted tl every 4th hot guy 😂
#GirlsAreComplicated

[nehamehta]

They don't get attracted... They just look at the hot guys and so do guys.

[Ananonimous]

They do get attracted... As i mentioned guys r desperate so yes they do.

[DanReynolds]

Everyone is human and humans are attracted to the looks of the opposite sex no matter what anyone says.
In general men are more stimulated by visuals but in relationships (not soley sexual relations) but in a proper relationship both are as attracted to looks as the other.

[Turkish_Delight]

Guys. I've seen tons of pretty girls dating ugly guys, looks matter to guys more. For me, looks don't matter very much unless he's ugly as shit. I'd love to get an average/decent looking guy with good personality and high intelligence.

[JohnDoe3000]

In relationships it matters more to guys, though the girl is a lot more likely to stick around and truly appreciate the guy, even if the relationship hits a bump in the road, if she finds him very attractive. For casual sex it matters more to girls.

[existing_not_living]

Looks do matter, but looks are not what I'm actively seeking. I love a guy's personality. If he has a great personality, he will always be the hottest guy to me even if he's not as attractive to other people.

[existing_not_living]

Lol, why'd I get downvoted? I can't help it if I'm not attracted to someone physically.

[writing_essays]

There are many situations where you have a rich guy whose very ugly dating a very good looking woman who is dumb. Rarely do you see a rich girl who is ugly dating a good looking guy who is dumb.

[Jager66]

I don't know about other men but if I don't find her very attractive physically there is NO possible way I will want a relationship with her.

That being said all kinds of women look fantastic to me!

[Hungry_Shark]

Nowdays, women are all about looks,
Women will hook up with guys who are average or ugly but they will never let them meet her friends or family,
a woman will always marry or be in a relationship with only a good looking guy,

[IvoirianGirl20]

Not all women. That's generalizing

[DarkAngek]

Good guys are ugly, and thats why they are always friendzoned mate. They want a guy like the good guy they friendzoned but in a handsome version. All girls. Even they fuglies.

[IvoirianGirl20]

I never friendzoned any guy

[Hungry_Shark]

Its all about competition mate,
I mean all girls/women have female friends, male friends, relatives etc etc...
And they want their guy to be better than the partner of all her friends.
Thats why if u are average or ugly - u will hook up with a girl, but can never meet her friends and family.
If u are good looking - u qualify for being her boyfriend or husband and meeting her family.
Women are shallow and competitive as fck.

[IvoirianGirl20]

I just told you not all women are like this

[IvoirianGirl20]

If you wanna stay stubborn to my statement that is your problem but put the blame all over me

[IvoirianGirl20]

And fyi, I don't even have male friends nor female friends. And the boyfriend thing work differently in my culture

[IvoirianGirl20]

So don't fucking generalize women. Especially when you don't why I never friendzoned guys before

[Hungry_Shark]

@IvoirianGirl20 looks like u live in a jungle.
Most normal females have friends and family and they will never let an ugly guy meet her friends and family, coz she doesn't want her female friends or sister say -
"eewwwww your dating this ugly dude, u could have done better"
They want their friends to say "damn , he is really cute where did u find this guy?"
Are u understanding the point?

[DarkAngek]

You are right mate, and not to mention that cause of social media and dating sites even those girls who are objectivly ugly they get a lot more attention than they deserve from desperate guys, so the expectations of those girls goes really high and they dont meet guys of their category.

[IvoirianGirl20]

I don't live in a jungle WHAT THE FUCK? Most women that you were talking about are probably White. I'm not stereotyping but I'm pretty sure that I'm right. Don't take your frustration on me or I'll block you. Learn how to reply in a mature way and learn how to respect someone else's opinion. I understood your point a long time ago but you don't even care about mine. See how selfish you are?

[IvoirianGirl20]

What you said is nothing new. It's happening everday

[Hungry_Shark]

Mate , i have a friend, and he is butt ugly , but this super gorgeous girl was all over him and later that day i asked him, "dude, how did u get this chick?"
and he said "im just her fck buddy or sex toy and thats it, i never met her sister nor any of his friends and im pretty sure that i will never will, she just fks me and thats it and im happy to get laid by this beautiful woman"
and i was like WTF LMFAO, hhahaha
U see mate, average guys or ugly guys can get laid, but they will never be boyfriends or husbands unless the ugly or average dude is really rich.

[Hungry_Shark]

@IvoirianGirl20 you are maybe 2-3 % of women on this planet who can still see beyond looks and i really appreciate u for that, and thank god that women like u are still present on this earth,
However 97-98 % women, they fill up their empty lives by just keeping the ugly or average guy in the background and having sex with him and none of her friends and sisters knows that she is fcking this guy,
until some really good looking guy comes in her life, then she kicks the ugly or average guy out of her life, and shows off this good looking dude to her sister and friends and they all think that she has got such high standards.

[IvoirianGirl20]

Well thank you. I want an avarage dude because good looking dudes are most likely to cheat also

[DarkAngek]

Hungry_Shark Hmm maybe that girl is just a whore and she has other sex buddies too. It is a very small minority though. I know many ugly girls that asks for the mister perfect, I know a fat ugly girl that has 1000 likes on fb and comments like "i love you" etc by desparate, more handsome than her, guys. Imagine just how easy it is for an avarage girl get laid. And cause of all this attention they think they deserve much more than this. Results: The majority of people remains single as fuck.

[Hungry_Shark]

@IvoirianGirl20 Nope, actually good looking dudes also want average girl because they know hot women are hard to keep and they are likely to cheat,
I dont think its about hot or average, its about people who cheat
if a male/female can leave a person to be with u, they can leave u too for someone else,
so u have to be good at reading these red flags

[Hungry_Shark]

@DarkAngek you are right, so the good looking gets to laid with beautiful women, hot women,
these good looking dudes get to fck average/ugly girls, and these ugly girls think that they are so special and such a good looking guy is fcking them and then they get dumped by the good looking guy for a hot woman, they get what they deserve.

[DarkAngek]

@Hungry_Shark Haha and the funny thing is that they use ugly and average looking guys only as fuck buddies but they also are against prostitution and "women objectification". They are just lame.

[IvoirianGirl20]

Well I don't agree at all. There is more important things in life than just couples. Seeing you guys getting obssessed with it is just plain funny to me.

[Hungry_Shark]

@DarkAngek LOL, the girl i just told u about, she is a hardcore feminist and talks about female rights as equal as men,
and look how she is objectifying men as sex toys and then toss them aside like a toilet paper,
fck feminists

[DarkAngek]

@Hungry_Shark hahahaha obviously

[DarkAngek]

@IvoiriamGirl20 We just chatting, if you dont like it go away.

[IvoirianGirl20]

@DarkAngek Lmao next time, learn how to be politr

[IvoirianGirl20]

@DarkAngek **polite

[Anonymous]

This should be obvious, looks will always be more important, people who say stupid shit like "her mind turns me on more" are only kidding themselves and they know it.

You've heard things like love at first sight and such, you don't like their personality at first, come on. Looks are what attract you in the first place. And it doesn't matter how funny or intelligent you are, cuz if you ugly, then no connection can be made

[BrittBratt2416]

I think men tend to care about looks a tad bit more.. thats not saying women don't care about looks cause they do.

[bloodmountain1990]

More so for guys, but girls still care about looks and they should. You can't completely lack physical attraction or a mental attraction either.

[DizzyDesii]

I care about looks, but I think guys care about them more

[snowangle]

Definitely matters more to guys in general. Girls mainly need mental attraction.

[leztorino]

Sighs... you're right. I'm 1 of those guys that swear looks don't matter, and cute girls always use that flirty face on me and I'm just Oooo? What a bunch of crap, ugh!

[AnaReyD]

This about looks don't matter is bs.. looks do matter to everyone even if you say no ! When you first look at someone you always notice there appearance first.. and that's what attracts you before anything

[nehamehta]

A bit , yes. Obviously u dnt want someone who is completely ugly. Sad but the truth has been spoken.

[LucienFolter]

Looks should matter to both people in a relationship

[Anonymous]

I would say looks matter to everyone! Guys and girls both need someone who is physically attractive to them.

[Anonymous]

i think it matters for both, it is the first think gets our attention

[TacosRAwesome]

Looks matter to everyone but to different extents.

[lumberman9]

Guys girls are more interested in other things

[Viranda]

Guys obviosly.

[leztorino]

Yeah. I always say they don't matter, but cute chicks use that flirty face on me every time and my jaw just drops... it's all a bunch of crap! I'm no different than the rest, ugh.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Guys

[Ladyslipper]

Guys care waay more.