Do looks matter in a relationship?

Question

Because there is an attraction to the person and the first thing you see is how they look, I believe it matters. However, as the relationship proceeds the look stays in the background...

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Looks and Lust matter on the front end of life, however, they fade and all that is left is a swiveled up prune and raisin rocking in antique 1950-70s glider two-seater couch or individual gliding chairs.

So, what gets someone from the 2nd or middle stage to the 3rd etc or last stages of Marriage. Personality and character but it is much more concrete for me…

I’ve got the formula but implementation in a daily relationship walk is/would be effort. 2Corinthians 6:14, Mark 10:6-9, 1st Corinthians 13:4-8…, Proverbs 18-21, Ephesians 5(men/women there), 1Peter 3:7, Colossians 3:19

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

Clearly looks matter. Applying logic, assuming two people were exactly the same in every other way, who would choose the one who is less physically appealing to them.

One of the magical properties of love is that it induces people to come to love the unique fingerprint looks of their partner and prefer it over others who they might otherwise find more physically appealing. Just as peoples' love for their partner's persona grows over time, they also can grow to love their looks and prefer them to all others. No doubt familiarity plays a role in this process.

BlackBeauty90 · Accepted Answer

Yawn.

Of course they matter. But they matter the least. Otherwise people who are scarred by accidents, war, cancer & other things would die alone & miserable but they typically don't... in fact they often die surrounded by their partner, family & friends.

Whereas oftentimes "pretty" people end up dying alone & miserable - just look at celebrities who change their partners like well used underwear - because their partner was shallow, insecure & of a bad personality and left them for someone more attractive

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Yes and no, because if looks matter too much, then if someone gets in an accident and becomes disfigured, then it means the relationship is over.

Looks matter for a first impression and the short term, but personality matters in the long term.

Plus everyone loses their looks as their age, which means at that point, men would be trading in women for a younger more attractive woman.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I view looks as an underlying condition but not the dominate motive in dating. I want a guy that I can love and care for and if he looks above my minimum standard - than I won't be fazed by his appearance to the point where dating him would seem unpleasant.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Physcal attraction is a requirement for most people in a relationship, and it is usually the first thing that we know about a person, so it is the first thing that eliminates some contestants. That doesn't mean that it's the most important; it's simply the first hurdle that a contestant must cross. What comes later is much more important.

BlueScorpio · Answer

To some extent, yes, everyone wants to be attractive to their romantic partner in some way. If you're not then chances are the relationship won't work.

Datboi65 · Answer

Yes they do. The first thing that attracts you to someone that you don't know is their looks. If you don't find them appealing, you won't bother approaching them. Men are visual creatures, that's just how we are and I don't think we should be demonized for it.

Once you've progressed past the early stages, what keeps a man is how you treat him. We don't expect you to look the same after delivery as you did when we start dating you, but you have to be putting in some effort if we are. I don't know about yourself, but I don't plan to stop going to the gym and dressing well after I get into a relationship. You have to stay consistent.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

You started off strong and then wilted a bit. Physical attraction is THE primary factor in almost every single coupling and relationship since the beginning of time. This is true of nearly every species that procreates sexually. Evolutionary biology demands it. Mating with an attractive partner increases the chances of having attractive offspring that too will have greater chances of mating; continuing the genetic line. Anyone who denies this simple and nearly absolute fact is either grossly ignorant or lying.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Looks matter. That cliche of don’t worry about them bc they fade cliche is just that a cliche. In the grand scheme of things we’re not 80. Best believe other 80year olds are still looking at each other of who they find attractive. Since we’re not in that age range we’re not going to look for that attraction. While you’re in this age range with how you look now use it to your advantage. Talk to the person you find attractive if that makes you happy who cares what anyone not living as you has to say about it?

lightbulb27 · Answer

Everything matters. If you leave a little salt out of soup... it really changes the experience right? Try having chicken soup... with no chicken. What the heck is that?

So yea, looks matter, but it isn't the only thing nor the most important all the time.

I think what really matters is to care, about yourself and thus for the other... that you work on presenting yourself nicely to your love, smell decent, look decent... with a smile and affection for them and a loving spirit with care and concern, a loving touch and look. That says so much than superficial physical body things that are going to change. That said, I like to keep my body in as good shape as I can, for me and my love.

Thanks for the analogy honey, it makes sense! @midnightmoon05.

SnowedIn · Answer

Looks matter to a certain extent because, yeah, in most cases that's how you first notice someone. But, also like you say, it's not the only thing. And it's not the keep you there thing. If they're a terrible person but model beautiful, looks don't matter.

NathanDavis · Answer

yes it matters, and it should...

not like it should be the most important factor in a relationship but it should be there and it has its role, we all like and need to be appreciated in few ways if not all ways, so that physical attraction matters, it is important

it should be a component of a few needed for a healthier or more ideal of relationship

Tina19 · Answer

Certain amount of physical attraction is important in romantic relationship for me i have been in relationship with a guy i was not physically attracted to so i never felt like kissing him or initiate any romantic intimacy due to lack of chemistry i broke up with him soon because i started to see him just as friend

sage2021 · Answer

So, if you are unattractive, the thing to do is find someone unattractive to be with. But even though both of you are unattractive people, you are beautiful to each other.
I have observed that when two unattractive people are together and married, they seem to be really happy! They don't seem to have the problems that an attractive couple have, so less arguing. Makes sense.

Weapon77 · Answer

Yep. I refuse to date a fat girl. They don't matter nearly as much as people think, but they still matter. I don't think I could ever date a girl with a mole or something on her face that she could EASILY have removed by a doctor. But freckles are 💥💥💥💥

hausofdracarys · Answer

Yes and no. Depends on an individuals surroundings. But people go for what they find pretty or pleasing to the eye.

If you have only material friends who are face value people then maybe it will influence your feelings, they may love you but also think you deserve better. But I think finding someone who is willing to love you through everything is powerful.

Like honestly. What if walking down the street a little too happy reminds someone of their ex or a person they hate and I am attacked. My face is deformed or melted from acid. What will looks do for my partner then?
Was our bond strong? It may be an initial thing but don't male ot your everything.

Personally looks don't make me feel much, it's whether a man is willing to give me everything and his all.

Adaeva · Answer

Each year Americans spent more than $16.5 billion on cosmetic plastic surgery and minimally invasive procedures. In her lifetime, the average women spends $15,000 on cosmetics. Each year, Americans spend more than $68.5 billion on jewelry. American women spend about $2,000 per year on clothing, more that 80% is to enhance over and above the basic necessities Obviously, looks matter or that money wouldn't be spent.

MrNewton · Answer

Honestly depends on the person. I won't say looks absolutely don't matter because that would be a lie. But your personality and conduct matter even more. What good is a pretty face if it doesn't have a good personality complimenting it? In the end of the day a serious relationship is about who stays there for you, supporting you.

Blackmoonsns · Answer

Looks matter to both men and women it's the first step it's what first draws each other to get to know each other but soon after if you want any kind of relationship or at least continue seeing the person you should enjoy who they are as a person like a find their hobbies their interests and their personality appealing but they're always needs to be a physical sexual chemistry there

RealMarek · Answer

Yes, physical attraction matters when forming a relationship. There is a lot about physical chemistry that is potentially not well understood. Scent might play a role that we are not aware of, and mutual attraction might signal genetic compatibility. In the long run looks will fade, but I think they play a role at the beginning.

TheNameIsRob · Answer

Of course there has to be at least some physical attraction, but it’s not what is going to carry the relationship through the tough times. Anyone that’s been in with someone for any significant amount of time knows that when things aren’t going well suddenly that person isn’t as attractive.

But on a positive note, if the relationship is a healthy one you almost become a little more attracted every day.

grierwrange · Answer

yeah I think it’s actually really important despite what I want to believe and despite what society wants to shove down our throats. It’s the reason why a lot of relationships don’t even begin and probably the biggest insecurity most people have (not being attractive enough or at least thinking they aren’t attractive enough)

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah it shouldn't matter cuz eventually everyone's looks change or fade away so if you want to stay with that person long term you are gonna have to like them for more then just their looks.

Nomina · Answer

To me, yes. I want to find my guy attractive, want him to find me attractive and want to be attractive for him.

Reece12345 · Answer

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Of course looks matter but much more than that is taking the time to get to know someone so that you can form a deep connection and like them for what makes them uniquely special.

RavVid · Answer

Agree that looks matter a lot in the first interaction but lessens. The body shape remains important though. Like when I hug or spoon in bed I'm very conscious of the feminine shape and that often has to be expected consequences.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Personally yeah. Like I don’t need everyone to find you attractive but I need to find you attractive. Lucky for me I’m young and most people my age our attractive to me.

urgirl21 · Answer

Everyone usually says that looks dont matter. But if we are being completely honest I feel like I want a good personality but you also have to be attracted to the person or usually you wouldn't think of that person in that way. I hate to say it because its so judgmental as people but its simply the truth.

FreyaRed · Answer

It's beneficial for stability especially if a relationship is balanced in matter of looks. Losing a desirable partner hurts more than one that isn't desired by others.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks matter in and during a relationship. Women just like to believe that looks take a back drop so they don't have to work as hard staying in shape and hope that said male does not replace her with a more youthful, fertile woman as she ages.

Brittanyroseee · Answer

Obviously. If i don’t find the person attractive, I won’t have interest in them. Let alone, do anything sexual with them haha

JasminTheRose · Answer

Yes looks do matter but everyone has their own opinion on what is attractive and what they find to be attractive.

Vikkrram · Answer

Yes looks matters at first coz at least one should feel some kinda attraction before knowing to each others.

AmeerX · Answer

They matter. If you don't even feel good looking at a girl you can't live 30 or so years of your remaining life with them.

I mean not a gorgeous girl but at least average looks and character is important

Anonymous · Answer

Looks matter but cock size really matters. You better have a monster cock that can really stretch out both pussy and ass because as we get older and looser, we need it bigger and bigger.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, physical attractiveness is important. However a person can be attractive in many different ways.

Lucy68 · Answer

Looks are moreso an added bonus in the relationship honestly

Nikki1989 · Answer

It depends on the person. They don't mean a lot to me.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Of course. You have to want to be touched by your partner. The idea of being close with them should excite you

Petermorgan43 · Answer

I would say a hard no. Scientifically humans are attracted to each other chemically. In addition to this personality plays a major role in relationships as well.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes, they do. Especially for monogamous people. If you're only going to have one lover your entire life, you'd better believe that you'd want to be attracted to them!

Darine123 · Answer

I think it was before but now I’m just ok with however they look just want them to take care of me better than everyone else

socair · Answer

Looks may and often do generate interest But looks alone are not sufficient attraction upon which to base and maintain a relationship

ThrowawayRandom · Answer

No, I’ve fallen for personality before. Physical attraction grew more over time just through loving them as a person

ThatCanucker · Answer

Yes they matter. As a man who has been described by women as very unattractive I can say through my experiences that very unattractive people are going to find it difficult.

ManHater · Answer

No, however if you look at age. Guess what ladies and gents we all age and grow ugly so in the end would you rather be with someone you can't stand or someone you can love.

McKellar · Answer

Well I'm not expecting to date an Instagram model (although that would be nice, I know I can't expect that) but at the same time I would have no attraction to Jabba The Hut either.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Looks don't matter to me as long as the girl has a great personality.

Fireguy17 · Answer

pretty much hit the nail on the head with that statement.

art84 · Answer

I think looks matter in a relationship, no one wants to date someone that they aren't attractive to physically and sexually.

DiegoO · Answer

It obviously matters. Looks is the first impression. The first impression can make a huge difference.

BJP21 · Answer

Not if if you're ignorant. I go for how you treat people and how inclusive you are of others.

Chthou95 · Answer

Of course it does. That's the first thing that matters and people can bullshit all they want about personality attracting them but most people get attracted because of looks first

AsaKyo · Answer

They do in the beginning, but later on, I don't think it's that big of a deal anymore

TheSimFans · Answer

Yes, have to cet certain amount of attraction to start a relationship with a person.

dowser19 · Answer

That's the ONLY thing a female. in Western society has to bring nowadays... and that's not even a certainty for many.😳

Joani · Answer

Looks matter, so that's the reason why those of us who are not physically attractive have less chances to be in a romantic relationship, let's be honest 🙂

ZenJen444 · Answer

1. Money  2. Is he generous 3. Intellect 4. Personality  5. looks

Matrix3003 · Answer

Of course it matters. And for some people can be good or bad in any way.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks do play a part in attracting the opposite sex because let's face it... no-one wants to date a fugly looking ork 😳

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Ofc it matters. If they don't look good to you there's no way it's going to work.

Cassie2002 · Answer

Some what especially maintain their health if their healthy.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks are the most important think in a relationship. A relationship can start , grow and last or end solely based on looks. Other qualities matter but not on that gravity

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