Do Looks Matter In A Relationship?

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ohshee · Accepted Answer

Everybody wants to be with somebody that is attractive this is beautiful on the outside and that's what makes them get together they love that your beauty and they get together as time goes by that beauty kind of wears off because the person on the inside is not matching the person on the outside and the person on the inside is just getting unbearable so they split up and then it happens again and again and again for me true beauty is on the inside if you have a beautiful heart if you're a beautiful person you're confident you'd like to smile and laugh and you're happy that's true beauty to me is in the outside you just a big bonus but if you're not beautiful on the inside pretty soon they're not going to be beautiful on the outside either no matter how good looking they are

Jean-Marie_Céline · Accepted Answer

They do, up to a point. After all there's need to be visual to be attracted to someone, at least at first!
But after the first impression, it's necessary to look at other things as well; like their personality, their skills, their interests and aspirations.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Looks can matter as far as initial attraction, but looks fade with age.. and if looks was the "only" reason you together, what will have when the looks change,... "Nothing" and if they don't have the great character to back up the looks, then looks don't mean shit, cuz if you ugly on the inside that makes you ugly period... No matter how pretty you "wrap up" shit, it'll still be shit in a pretty package🤷🏼‍♀️

yourbabygirl921 · Accepted Answer

30% on looks and 70%personality (Can be changed)
Because I have fallen inlove with someone I don't find (face) attractive but I was sooo into him because of his vibe and personality till I actually find him sooo attractive xD our brain do that once we find someone's personality attractive we tend to find everything about them attractive^^

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Looks - alone - are not enough, but physical attraction is an absolute requirement and for most guys, that is based primarily on physical appearance.

janellie1917 · Answer

Yes you want to be physically attracted to your partner. If that is not there, you will only have a platonic relationship.
But looks aren't 100%. They are important but looks change and when you like their personality as well, their looks will still interest you as they change.

lucas262 · Answer

Person A maybe dosnt look as good as person B but A loves you, is a good companion for you, would make a good mother.

Now say person B is your dream woman utterly gorgeous but she is entitled, her ego is massive, she treats you like a convenience,
Brings you down instead of up and has no good motherly virtues.

Nothing is going to matter as much as 1 persons love for the other.

Now if your very very unattractive the good news is most anyone can fix themselves, they can make positive changes to almost any physical thing, and they can be good people so plus plus.

Tunasub · Answer

Don't we all want to be thought of as attractive and don't we look for someone that is attractive to us in a partner? But that's where it ends. What it comes down to is having someone that supports you, respects you, understands you, LOVES you. We want someone compatible with who we are. Someone that will call you on your bullshit, someone who regardless of how it may make you feel will keep it 💯 with you, and then give you a hug while reassuring you that they have your back.. and in return you give all that back to them.

People are so hung up on looks that what is forgotten is the character of the person and how they treat you and thier willingness to endure good and bad times is what really matters in relationships.

CakesNCream · Answer

They do matter, but only to an extent.

Looks are what would catch my eye and draw me to someone in the very beginning, along with good conversation. In a relationship it still matters to take care of yourself, but once we're together looks are not what keeps me around. In fact its probably the least important thing, although it is still important of course.

Thanks for the encouragement @alance99 @WowwGirl

exitseven · Answer

They do but they will only get you so far. I dated a really pretty girl who was as dumb as a bag off rocks. It was fun being with her at first and it was fun to sort of show off to my friends but it got tiresome not being able to talk about anything besides what club was the most fun and the nice pair of boots she was going to buy.

Vinnygraphix · Answer

Yes woman tend to go for the guy that’s 6ft tall vs a guy who is at the 5ft tall because one they feel men of my stature has no place in society they feel we can’t protect and make us men who truly know how to treat a woman care and love and give everything that their x failed to give, their excuses will always be you are not my type or I like you as a friend or I like my men tall but every time they go for the guy they want they get shut down and us good men pick up all the broken pieces so that we get shit on again and again and again but then at the end they say I want to give us a try to only months into the relationship they are hanging out with a guy friend to end up in his bed then say I made a mistake I got drunk with my friend and we slept together. Nah I’m tired of this life narrative.

Floppy2112 · Answer

They matter less than they did initially, but they still do matter. Attraction doesn't go away once you get to know somebody and if they flat refuse to take care of themselves and let themselves go to pot, that's unfair to their partner. It's another thing that puts an undo stress on the relationship.

Avicenna · Answer

As part of attraction (which is multidimensional), yea, but they’re only a small fraction of attraction.

TheorionMage · Answer

A pragmatic 'fundamental' understanding IS... nobody can appreciate your intelligence, wit or goodness from 40 yrds. HOWEVER 'how' you 'merchandize' your physical self motivates others to inquire further and the genetic carry-forward provides potential advantage for your NEXT generation.

selenea · Answer

Yes. For me to like a guy in person as a boyfriend I have to like the way he looks. He has to attract me however, with some guys they look really good but when you get to know them they become very unattractive, it really depends how picky you are with the looks and character.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

To a certain extent yeah, because I think anyone would want to be with somebody they’re attracted to- but it’s certainly not all that matters.

Pete671 · Answer

Not really, health is more important, disabilities, physical or mental are not relevant, and could actually be an advantage because they can be an opportunity for bonding and to prove your love/loyalty,,,

jerdanro · Answer

Yes, but it's not everything and it is subjective. I have to be attracted to my partner in a romantic/sexual relationship to be completely fulfilled. I need to connect emotionally, intellectually, and physically or I will always feel something is missing.

DaisyM23 · Answer

I mean... people say no but looks are generally important but not the most important for everyone. Everyone has standards and people have different beauty standards and who they find attractive. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure so to say

Grond21 · Answer

Yes, absolutely. We are not just hearts and minds, we have bodies too. And we are meant to desire each other and connect through our bodies. They're not the most important factor, but they do matter

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say partly because intimacy and attraction is a part of a relationship but it's more important to have a good personality and personalities that compliment each other

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

It surely does. The myth of personality only matters isn’t realistic anymore. I don’t place looks over personality because you can be appealing in my eyes and lack morals and good character.

The_Maphio · Answer

At least a level of good looks in par with how you were when you got together. Being part of a couple is no excuse to let yourself go. If anything, for your partner's sake.

TheBootyChest · Answer

To a certain degree. You should be physically attracted to your partner but you need to be able to maintain the emotional side of the relationship if you expect it to last.

whatdoyouwantt · Answer

Yeah you need to be attracted to some point but there are things that are more important than that. Just looking good won’t do it for me.

cth96190 · Answer

Of course physical attraction matters. From the male side, unless the male finds the female to desirable (aka wants to fuck her) he will not approach her.

Siren777 · Answer

Absolutely. I have to agree they do matter, as I need to be physically attracted to someone too. So to an extent yes.

Steinkopf · Answer

I wouldn't get into a relationship with a person I didn't find attractive and if she starts to get fat it would be kind of insulting.

AllyVon · Answer

I think attraction is far more important than good looks, you can find someone very good looking and not be attracted and vice versa

RoxyFoxx · Answer

Of course. To a much greater degree than most people dare to admit.

NorthShoreCalling · Answer

Yes. If you’re not a least a little bit physically attracted to them then the sex is probably going to be rubbish.

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

Unless your really vain and stupid to just book by its cover. Its an added bonus that she looks pretty.

loveslongnails · Answer

"Do Looks Matter "... to you/me/the person reading the question, right? They matter up to a point, but they're not the determining factor for a relationship.

karaspara · Answer

They matter but they’re not the most important thing by a long shot but they matter in terms of initial attraction are your unlikely to ever get in a relationship

Mehzmeh · Answer

I mean I do like them to be cute. But since I am single for life. I only need them to be cute for a little bit. Lol. But I love personality. Especially ones that make me take them out more and more. Lol

legalboxers · Answer

only if you are extremely vain or shallow #90dayfiancee

KloexJayne · Answer

To an extent yes.. there has to be some level of attraction to keep you coming back for more...

Vickymoore9 · Answer

For me it does absolutely I’m not going to be attracted to someone it’s how we are lured in 😂

Ripper_E · Answer

To a point. I think physical attraction is very important, but the love you have for one another is far important.

yesitcanhappen · Answer

From experience it's tough finding someone to like you if you're on the ugly side because a lot of people put emphasis on looks even though you have a good personality.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes they do of course thats what gets your foot in the door. What about you, would you ever date a man like Penn and Teller the guy that performs a magic show in Las Vegas that does all the talking?

MasterOfReality · Answer

I think for the most part, you have to be physically attracted to the person, which involves looks. Not saying they have to be classically good looking.

joeldalton · Answer

I see looks like the foot that gets you in the door. After that, you have to have a personality to keep a relationship going.

Kayla45 · Answer

Looks are a determining factor when it comes to relationships, so in a small extent... Yes.

Coulis · Answer

Yes, you should be attracted. Outside opinion do not count.

bean_boi · Answer

Definitely... You have to understand your own standards and not lead anyone on or confuse yourself... You have to know what you want and don't want...

Wiredone · Answer

They matter but it's not the most important thing. The person's personality is the most important thing for me

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Yes. However, as the relationship grows, looks play less the factor and ‘You’ play a greater portion of why we want to remain.

AkshiJanjua · Answer

Yeah they are the first thing for attraction to someone

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Yes but not as much as personality

Typhon_ · Answer

Not really, it's not what I'm looking for but is preferred, as I won't be spending the rest of my life waking up to an ntr face, so as long as she looks average+, I'm cool with that.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

Yes, not solely but they do matter for sexual compatibility.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I feel they are like a new car. Great at first but it gets old. Finding your BFF is better. But at first you need that I feel like...

Grubhub · Answer

It does, women try to say personality but that’s bull. Looks, money, status and penis size matter more than anything. More than you could imagine.

robocop666 · Answer

looks mean 100% of everything. thats all I care about

DaveToo · Answer

When we're young, yes. As we grow older, looks aren't as important as compatibility.

Riddler1412 · Answer

Let's be honest they do. To some a little, to others a lot. Same with personality.

OddBeMe · Answer

Yes, but a personality can make you more physically attractive. I have a thing for female comics. Def not models but fucking sexy...

Romeocuck · Answer

of course. a girl need to want to look beautiful only for her man and a guy should want to look and smell good only for his girl  other people are irreleavant

Surely · Answer

Looks usually catches your eyes first. But, what’s inside that matters the most to me

msc545 · Answer

In the beginning, if you aren't good-looking, you won't have a relationship.

Wild_Surpise · Answer

At first but we all are heading down the road of wrinkles and sags so we better find something that we like more than just looks.

rebeliouse · Answer

@wowwgirl average or better looks are ok main thing is u get on well and the sex is good :D

friendzoned4life · Answer

Yes it is 100% if the time the reason someone wants to talk to you if it comes to dating

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