How much do looks matter in a relationship or in finding a partner?

[Anonymous]

Or is this something superficial that mature people don’t focus on

[jennifer_bloom]

I won't date a guy just because he was good looking but I might reject a guy for not being good looking enough. There are guys I find good looking but I'm not wiling to pay the very high price most girls pay to get those guys cause I don't worship or idolize good looks, it's just one of many assets a guy can have that will make me like him.

[Anonymous]

Now? In the West? You'd have to be blinder than Stevie Wonder to see that they are THE FIRST thing that matters... and the ONLY thing that trumps it-temporariky-is pulling Benjis out of your pocket. I've been the latter, and I can tell you that FOR A FACT. The things I had random chicks coming up to me doing... I'll be honest... I knew it would be like that, but I was still surprised. Every low level dope dealer with a used ride with rims and booming speakers would laugh and tell you the same thing. NONE of those guys are struggling for female attention, ok?😏

[Opinion Owner]

*Not* to see, I mean.

[Anonymous]

Well if you're ugly you're never getting your foot in the door I don't care how glowing your personality is. So looks are pretty important.

Now having said that It doesn't matter if you look like that guy who played Thor if you're an insufferable pr! ck. So while looks are important they won't save you long term. They'll get you laid, but that's about it.

Fortunately most women today would rather have f*** buddies than actual partners anyway. So if you get in the gym keep your appearance up decently you can f*** a bevy of b****es.

[EmyyWolf]

It matters to me cause I’m in my 20’s. Maybe in my 30’s I won’t care.🤷🏻‍♀️

But if I’m not sexually aroused by him. How am I supposed to get wet?

Am I supposed to fantasize? Think about the hot neighbor? Think about the hot cop? The soldier-looking guys?

I don’t doubt this is what married women do. I don’t doubt it. There’s no way they’re getting the river running by staring at her grotesque husband who let himself go.

[stepyo99]

They matter, but there's a lot of women I would consider varying degrees of attractive, any of whom I'd be happy with even if she doesn't look like a super model. What matters more is who she is after getting to know her. If she's got an ugly personality, it doesn't matter how attractive she is physically. But that initial attraction is what spurs me on to get to know her, so looks do matter.

[Anonymous]

In finding a partner, it is very important. We are first attracted by what we see. It takes time to learn someone’s inner qualities. If there isn’t initial attraction, we never get around to learning the important stuff about each other. It’s a little sad but I think that’s human nature.

[inhua]

looks have always been very important and the first step in attracting a partner

nobody wants to fuck someone they find physically repulsive and no amount of virtue signaling will change this

[Billlewis]

The number one thing I have to have is a mean, arrogant woman who will make my life miserable and beat my bare bottom raw every chance she gets, and treat me like shit, humiliate me beyond belief and embarrass me in front of her girlfriends.

[Lliam]

I have to be attracted to her looks. So I'd say it matters a lot. I suppose it obligatory to add that lots of other factors are important in choosing a partner. Looks aren't everything by a long shot.

[more_than_a_guy]

It matters, you want to be able to be physically be attracted to your partner, as well mentally. For finding a partner, especially for men, we mostly hit on beautiful girls, and then find out if she is nice as well. Beauty is the first thing people notice, and it's the first barrier.

[more_than_a_guy]

I mean, I won't hit on a girl I don't find physically attractive, I want both personality and looks.

[panda2712]

Personality first then looks (looks only matter by a little but it’s also makes sense because of attraction like tbh I don’t think I could date a muscular man as I don’t like muscly men)

[Alli39]

I mean, to some extent? You want to be physically attracted to the person on some level, they just don't have to be a model or your ideal appearance to be attractive.

[sheenagwapa]

it's not that i am not into looks it's just that i'm more on the apoeal of the person because ine can be so goos lookinh but when yoy talk to them yoy don't feel any connection

[Somebodysomeone]

For younger people its more about looks. For older people with more life experience it starts to become more about being compatible.

[gothbxtch]

they matter some, but they’re not the most important part by far, and looks are nowhere near objective as well

[mandyfire98]

It matters. You want to be physically attracted to a partner. people find different types of people attractive though.

[Anonymous]

Looks aren’t the focal point but I can only date someone I’m attracted to. I don’t go out of my way to be shallow and judgmental, we all know that looks fade over the years. Still, I need to be drawn to them to an extent.

[DizzyDesii]

It can make or break. I need someone with looks and personality. The face is very important

[Anemone978]

It matters a lot.. if he has flaws its workable if he has a beautiful face.

[Pohjolan]

A lot. Thanks to my dermatologist women are now actively approaching me.

This of course doesn't mean that they are attracted to me but at least they now consider me unrepulsive.

[Brandi555]

It’s not as important as other things. If your funny and honest and thoughtful then I find those thing more attractive important.

[TheMan35]

First look is very important but not enough. After first look, behavior is important. For example you may not like someone at first look but if you talk to him, you may fall in love with him...

[Reem12345reem]

it's important only in the initial attraction between us

[Anonymous]

If I like a guy enough to go from friends to romantic it doesn't matter what he looks like.

[Asker]

So it has to start as friends