How to get out of a tinder date?

[Anonymous]

So I've started to use tinder and I've set up at date this Saturday and after some thinking I don't want to go. I don't think tinder is for me because whenever I talk to someone I feel exhausted.. I also want to delete the app. I lost my dad not long and after I lost my dad I just feel tired of either going out or talking to people. I thought that I was ready to socialize but I guess I'm not. I feel bad because I gave him my number and he wrote to me today that he's looking forward to meet me on Saturday... 😩

[eruru]

I think the problem is you're scared to go through with it... n you're looking for excuses, I know you're not in a good place now but maybe this is what gets you back out there.

just go n see how it goes... you can easily say you don't think this will work, after the date... but give it a chance.
best things come from the weirdest of places.
sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.

[jp612612]

Isn't this easy to do? You have never met the guy in person. Just let him know that you can't make it. I understand that it's not always easy to say no to people and what not, but you're an adult now. Don't just stand the guy up... although, you could probably do that too -- it's just much more evil to do that.

[Emma1987]

Tell him you do not feel like you're ready yet. Do not worry about strangers from the internet. Trust me if he found a better deal than you, he would ghost you without any care. Care for yourself and don't get stressed or feel bad for him. Good luck sister

[Mil00]

Simply tell him, "I thought I was ready to get back out there, but I rushed myself. I'm sorry. I hope you come across someone new."

If he cusses you out, then that just lets you know, you made the right decision.

[Chanel1981]

If you are sure you don't feel like going just tell him the truth. Make sure you let him know with plenty of advance notice so he can schedule something else if he wants to, no harm in honesty. Best of luck

[LordIheanacho]

Tinder is for suckers waiting to be meal tickets for lazy selfish broads who are too lazy to get a job/use their job salary to provide for themselves and instead would rather exploit men to cover their basic human duties. The platform is cancerous and ought to be purged.

[Browneye57]

Consider just meeting for coffee for an hour to talk. Decide if you would even consider another date/real date.
Or just write back and cancel with apologies: "I'm sorry to have to cancel for Sunday. I'm not ready to date."

It was five years after my father died before I could even talk about it. It's very painful. But it should not be affecting your individual life as a person. Easy for me to say, guys are masters at compartmentalization. [shrug]

[slatyb]

How to get of date: "I'm sorry, I realized that I'm not up for dating right now and don't know when I will be. Good luck on Tinder."

[jestingdemon]

Just send him a message stating that you're sorry you thought you were ready for this but you're not ready. Just don't let losing your dad shut you off from everything it truly sucks I know that well

[meatballs21]

Just tell him the truth - that this isn't the right time for you and you are sorry to have lead him on. Best wishes in your search, etc etc.

[wolfie12]

Be honest, tell him what you wrote here and I think he will understand.

[danyalovettie44]

Just cancel the date politely and delete the app. It's a shitty app.

[Thrifty]

Just say "Hey bitch, I'm cancelling the date. Peace" then delete your account like a total boss like I already did last week.

[akadatank44]

I don't know tinder normally for hookups so I'd just cancel. Tell him your not comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Maybe go sweetheart it might be gd for you, give it one shot you know?
But if u can't swing it tell him ur pop died, dont mention when.

[Anonymous]

Just tell them you're not feeling up to it because you lost your dad recently

[Justin85283]

Isn't this simple? Just don't show up or just write back and say NO... Besides I bet you wouldn't be the first to back out or not show up/.

[jman46241]

Just be truthful with the guy.

[Anonymous]

show him yo booty hole

[TacosRAwesome]

Just be honest.