Are girls more open to one night stands or just hooking up with really hot guys because they think it's hard to hold onto them?

[Anonymous]

To elaborate on the title, do girls think it's really hard to hold onto really attractive guys if they're hitting on them and that it would be easier to just have a one night stand or friends with benefits scenario with them because they might be unfaithful (because they have options)?

In other words, are girls scared to commit to being in a relationship with a guy who is really really good looking because of his looks he might be a player?

[AnaWryneck]

If a girl sleeps with a guy because she thinks it will keep him she's dumb not sorry I don't hold punches if I do someone it's because I want to do them maybe I'm wrong but I think that's how one night stands work you're hot let's bone okay go about your life my main issue with one night stands are guys that don't go away I've gotten stuck in like 3 relationships that way that you could probably attribute to them being attractive but not the why I do it and if you think someone will be unfaithful because they are incredibly hot that would make you insecure or ugly those two women can't be trusted

[Anonymous]

good question here op.
In my experience really really good looking guys make me feel intimidated. yet i want them... preferably for sex because i assume they got so many other girls lined up. in my mind there is no point wasting time with a guy who can get any girl he wants.
i am dealing with that situation atm. a really hot guy, i want him. i got to know him and i started to like him and wanted him despite knowing he could get any other girl. i guess it depends if you get to know them. you can't help who you like in that scenario. it's a hard one to explain xD

[Asker]

So if a really hot guy was showing interest in you you'd just want to **** around rather than pursue him?

What happened with the guy you knew, what went wrong, and do you think he really likes you?

Also, do you think it's hard for girls to leave one relationship for a really hot guy who is showing interest in them because they're afraid he might just have sex with her and ditch her?

[Opinion Owner]

some girls don't care if a guy is hot and others are intimidated.
i think the intimidation comes from a deeper place of insecurity. mainly that we don't feel good enough and therefore don't see a future with that guy. when we believe someone is more superior than us, it makes us feel inferior. sometimes it's easier to just accept you may only have the chance to sleep with the guy, rather than date him. hopefully that makes sense to you.

A girl leaving a relationship for another guy is never a good thing lol what makes you think another hot guy won't come along and convince her to be with him after you? it's a very sensitive situation it's like fire you just gotta leave it alone and let it burn out. then make your move.

[gawwd]

I didn't really think about that... IT could be sometimes like this...

I guess it depends... if you are at a party... and there is a hot guy... if would not have a one night stand

but if I know a hot guy and know he just wants to have sex with me... I would agree because I know that it's just sex and nothing else... if a good looking girl had sex with a boy a few levels lower she would feel bad after that... because she most likely feels less worth and it could be that the less looking guy developes feelings for her...

[Asker]

So even if a girl just flirts away or fucks a really hot guy she walks away with a better ego because she knows she can be on his level?

Also how bad does it suck if a guy who is hot who has given you attention starts to ignore you or something like that?

[gawwd]

that will be really bad.
I had something like this once.
I met a guy on tinder. we met with the background to get in a relationship. But on our second date we were very horny and I slept at his place. he was a Virgin and we didn't have sex but I gave him a hj.
then we met 3 or 4 times more. and always kind of the same thing. the last time he was ready, but I had my period. and I wasn't sure if he just liked me because I was easy to get and he desperate.
anyways he was out of my league. but a few days later he send me a message that he met someone else with whom he fell in love with. that made me feel bad. I felt like someone who is only good enough for sex but nothing further. and the fact that he wasn't even in my league hit me only harder..

[gawwd]

A few months ago I met an old friend who is hot but tried having sex with me for a long time... I don't really get why... I guess im just easy to get...
well we nearly had sex... we started but I couldn't do it with him because I felt weird. I know him for such a long time and I dunno.

but even though we only had nearly sex I had a better ego. someone who is hot tries to have sex with me for years.

but it's a very strange topic. on the other hand I asked myself why he wanted to have sex with me so badly? like what's in it for him?
I have a friend who tried to hit on him... she is very hot. but he didn't want to have sex with her.. So why with me?

[Asker]

Maybe you're more attractive than your other friend.

As far as the first guy goes, you said he's really hot or really ugly?

and did you actually believe he was a virgin with how good he looks and everything? Like isn't that an impossibility like most girls look at hot guys and assume he's been with a bunch of women, comment?

[gawwd]

the first guy was less attractive
and I guess that's why he has been a virgin at that time

the other is more attractive than me... and i don't think so... I always look like a hot mess :D
he looks very clean and is very fame on social media... and im Kind of lame :D

[gawwd]

that doesn't mean that everyone who is a virgin is less attractive...
I know some hot guys who are virgins

[gawwd]

she* looks clean... like has herself together..

[LovelyDisquiet]

Maybe. If they're insecure.

I've only dated one guy that was like what people consider a "10" I guess. And he definitely did flirt around a lot... which made me uncomfortable sometimes, but it wasn't a big deal because we were both very physically attracted to each other.

However, if the girl feels less attractive than her companion, I could see how that could be a problem. I think most girls like to match their partner on looks or be considered the "prettier" one. But... that's just my opinion...

[Asker]

If the guy is the better looking one, then what goes through the girl's head?

Does she think he has a bunch of girls at his beck and call and could do whatever he wants or what?

[LovelyDisquiet]

Actually I don't really have that specific issue because I'm pretty confident in my appearance. But some times I feel this way about guys that are hot, but also are a bit wittier or smarter than me. I worry I won't be able to keep up with their banter or humor and they'll get tired of me, or I'll quit being exciting for them... But I think it's the same idea of worrying that he'll find a girl he's more physically attracted to.

It's just insecurity. There's really nothing you can do. It's on the girl to push through it.
The most you can do is make clear how important she is to you, if you are interested in more. :)

[gawwd]

lovely disquiet I feel you

[Asker]

So hypothetically speaking you run into some hottie in class or work or whatever, and you hit it off pretty well. If you had to make a split second estimation on how many girls he's with at the moment, what do you say?

And more importantly, how many girls do you think he's been with?

I'll try to be as sincere as possible in the future. I've had girls refuse to get serious because they think I'm playing them.

[LovelyDisquiet]

I don't think hotness has anything to do with amount of girls had or not. I tend to think the most outgoing guys probably get the most girls because they're usually the most aggressive. So how many girls he's been with... no way you can make assumptions on that. Some guys I've thought could in no way be virgins were, and vice versa. There's really no way to tell that kind of thing... unless they're quite obviously promiscuous and brag about it.

That's good. Yeah, if they still have a problem after you go from flirting to being sincere, then they are probably too insecure for a relationship anyway. That's what I've found anyway.

[Asker]

Well what do you usually assume across the board, ridiculous to say. Like have you known really good looking guys who you assumed were complete man whores or on the other end of the spectrum virgins or is it a healthy medium like anyone else?

Any tips on a guy being sincere without being corny?

[LovelyDisquiet]

Completely depends on how they act. I've known really reserved hot guys that I know sleep around. And then I know complete douchebags who act like they sleep with every woman they meet, that really don't. It has nothing to do with looks. Except maybe that hot guys probably get more opportunity.

I can't really say how to be sincere. Just tell her or show her you care about her every once in awhile. Assuming you're already close, of course.

[Asker]

What do you mean by how they act? If a guy is just a normal dude, what do girls expect?

Also have you ever noticed girls trying to pretend their single or hiding that they have a boyfriend from a guy they think is hot before? Why do they do that?

[LovelyDisquiet]

I don't really know what you mean by pretending I'm single... I've never done that before so...
If you mean don't bring it up. Well, it's kind of awkward to just bring it up for no reason.

Also, I really don't know what you mean by your first question then because I really can't tell how many girls someone has had by looking at them lol

[Bandit74]

Similar to how guys choose more attractive girls for relationships, they do it because they can. For casual sex girls can usually get men who are 1-3 levels more attractive than they are to hookup with them. So an average looking girl isn't going to hookup with an average looking guy when she knows she can easily find a hot guy willing to fuck her brains out.

I dont think girls are scared of commiting to them. They often want commitment from those guys, but the guy was only interested in them for easy sex. So its the guy who turns the girl down for commitment.

[AleDeEurope]

Most girls are insecure. Most don't believe they're worthy of a hot man, so they immediately rule out a possible relationship, but they can still fuck them, since guys tend to lower their standards when hooking up, and girls know that. So they'll get all sexual from the start, and hopefully hook up with the hot guy, which will give them an ego boost and caress their narcissistic side, since they see themselves as more valuable because a hot guy chose them to fuck with.

[Asker]

What if a girl is in a relationship with an ugly guy and she hits on a hot guy and hides that she has a bf? Is she looking to fuck him or flirt away with him knowing that she's on his level if she wanted it?

[AleDeEurope]

No girl who has an ugly boyfriend will be someone a hot guy will fuck. Hot girls don't date ugly guys.

[Asker]

What if she's using him for the benefits like living with him etc?

[Asker]

Also will girls compare the other guy to their boyfriend and naturally assume they're batting out of their league and remove themselves from the game entirely so they don't get rejected?

[BreastfeedingMommy]

In a way yes, it's rare but some guys definitely are more attractive then girls plus maybe they're better off in life too! Guys like this can get any girl they want, thus will chase him, when typically it's the guy chasing the girl. However some girls don't like to chase guys so if they really like him they will be extremely flirtatious around him and be all over him to give the idea that it's time to go to bed and finish getting to know each other! Once the girl has hooked up with him and say the guy doesn't want her as a girlfriend and goes to another girl, the girl that fucked him can feel confident and somewhat proud to say "oh well I fucked him first! Enjoy my sloppy seconds" it's a very complex situation

[Asker]

What does the girl think about the guy and having a relationship with him? Does she think because he's better looking than her it will be doomed?

And provided you had great sex with a really cute guy you liked, how many times before you start to get feelings for him and the friends with benefits scenario goes out the window?

[Asker]

Plus what do you make of it when girls hide that they have a boyfriend from guys? And they pretend to be single?

It's usually because they think the guy is hot and likes flirting right?

[natured]

I have no idea where you got this Idea from but IT MIGHT BE, if you ask my personal opinion i would not be scared of any guy, it's up to them if they want to win my heart they can do so, if not there is the door.

Simply as that... i'm not into that friends with benefits thing so... it's just my opinion.

[Asker]

Well do you asssume the hottest guys have a bunch of women after them all the time, so there's more competition?

[natured]

Well it's not the competition that scares me, but when i see a man surrounded by women, it turns me off.. because he makes him self look so easy and cheap lol :P

[Asker]

But what if the guy is hot and genuinely nice and only gives you attention? Do you still assume he's a player probably?

[natured]

It depends how much attention he gives to the other ladies around him :) while most probably i would just watch from the corner hah and of course he has to try and approach me until i say "ok"

[Asker]

If there was an insanely hot guy, like movie star hot, would you watch what he says and does more carefully and would you think he was just toying with you?

[natured]

I would not judge that fast, i would honestly just try and analyze the situation, i don't care about HIM BEING SUPER HOT, i have date very hot guys but they had no CHARM and i automatically blocked off so... charm counts more to me than physical appearance

[lyannamormont]

No. I dont do one night stands no matter how hot the guy is. It can be Ryan Gosling. IDGAF. And I dont commit to a relationship because the guy looks good. i am past that point when i turn to 21.

[Asker]

Do you think the Ryan Gosling types of the world have a bunch of girls who into them and want them badly or not so much?

[WaterRat]

nope. I'd have a full on relationship with a hottie. It's his personality that would determine if he's a one night stander. I've been with 8s and 9s, some are loyal. Some players are average looking so...

[Asker]

What are some signs that you'll try to pick up on if he's a player? If the guy is insanely hot will you just naturally assume he has a gf?

ALSO
Have you known hot guys who were loyal, how loyal were their gfs because of the way they looked?

[WaterRat]

I can't tell I haven't dated much players, I just hear from people that this guy or that is a player. They are usually just smooth. Yes I assume hot guys are taken but I like someone i find out eventually if they are or not.

They definitely have long term relationships that last. I don't know too much about their gfs but one of them did cheat, she was hot too. It all depends.

[SirenDep]

It's the other way round. The man who has a reputation of being a player has difficulty forming a serious relationship

[Asker]

What happens if the guy is really really hot, will you be reluctant to get into a relationship because you think he might cheat because he might have a lot of options?

[SirenDep]

No, how he looks wouldn't deter me. But if he had a reputation of changing girlfriends often, then it would be hard for me to take him seriously

[sadiesays06]

Not me. Whether or not a guy cheats will be about his personal character and integrity, not about his hotness level.

You're sort of implying that having a lot of options means a person has no choice but to say yes to those options... :/

[Anonymous]

Nah, they just abandon their principles for a while to get plowed because they're sloots. Same as guys who bang a slut, you wouldn't date one because she's a hoe but you might wanna hit those walls.

[Asker]

So let's say a girl has a boyfriend, would she just want to **** with another hot guy then return to her boyfriend than worry about holding on to the hot guy?

[Opinion Owner]

If she has absolutely no morals then yeah.

[SugarMeSweet]

so because a girl likes sex she is automatically a slut yet when a guy bangs 100 he's epic? AHhaha. ok.

[Opinion Owner]

@SugarMeSweet I never said a guy was epic for banging 100 girls, he'd be a male slut in that case. The difference is girls tend to ignore the warning flags that a guy might be a player if they like him, they go into denial and still want a relationship with him. Guys generally see a loose woman and think she's just a cum receptacle, they might still fuck her, but they won't invest the time and cash. It's part of the privilege of being a man, you're at an advantage because women are a mess and they're easy to take advantage of.

[Asker]

What are signs a guy is a player?

[Opinion Owner]

Lots of female friends around as options (this isn't entirely necessary though), flirts with all the girls who are attractive, keeps them all interested but at arms length. The key is being good enough with women that they'll spread them for you, but also wily enough to keep them from feeling like they can put a label on your relationship with them.

[Asker]

If the guy is insanely good looking, will he be labeled from the get go too?

[Opinion Owner]

Na, attitude plays a big part.

[SugarMeSweet]

i have been single now for 2 years because i didn't give in to the desperate, clingy, needy, slutty men that came my way.
quote:(It's part of the privilege of being a man, you're at an advantage because women are a mess and they're easy to take advantage of.)

clearly not all women are a mess. i can smell a player a mile away. i am pretty damn good at finding who's real and who's not. after so many guys who wanted to use me i can see each and ever little sign. they don't show them right away, but their red flags pop up like pimples. get them talking, they either contradict themselves, show some level of insecurity, the list goes on. =) i wouldn't class all women as failures just yet. still time for women to learn to observe and wake up from dreamland..

[sapphireblaze20]

Welllll.. my boyfriend is pretty hot but I'm usually never worried because I have em wrapped around my finger 🤓🤞🏽😏🔥

[Warmapplecrumble]

I'm a saposexual so this doesn't apply to me... I find attractiveness through wisdom and intellect

[Kitten967]

I've never had a one night stand or a hook up so I can't say

[Anonymous]

Some girls i know think like that way but i always think this is stupid. Ugly guys cheat too lol i'd rather be with a good looking guy if he likes me. That's honorable

[Asker]

But do you think a bunch of girls are after him?

[SarahsSummer]

Possibly, but most women I know only find out it was a one night stand after he doesn't call again.

[SwolDishWasher]

Women are sluts man. All of them are. Some of them are just easier than others.

[Kitten967]

Not all of us are sluts.

[SwolDishWasher]

Every girl is a secret slut. Some just give it out easier.

[Kitten967]

How is every girl a secret slut?

[SwolDishWasher]

@Kitten967 women are born to want to produce children. Its in the woman's dna.

[Kitten967]

Doesn't mean they are all sluts or secret sluts. Some of us only want one man and don't sleep around

[SwolDishWasher]

like i said some are easier.

[Jrossetti]

@Kitten967 relax, we have an MGTOW and red pill "alpha male" here

[SugarMeSweet]

really dude... does that make you feel better about yourself? does it make your small penis feel half an inch better? grow up man.

[Jrossetti]

@SugarMeSweet who me?

[SwolDishWasher]

@Jrossettodc not you. No woman would talk to you

[Kitten967]

I'd talk to him. I'd much rather talk to @jrossetti than you @swoldishwasher

[Jrossetti]

@swoldishwasher I found a woman for you

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[SwolDishWasher]

@Kitten967 yet you're both on my opinion. I wouldn't be found on either of yours.

[Kitten967]

I only commented cause I wanted to know how all girls are sluts

[SwolDishWasher]

@Kitten967 go talk to whats his name. He'll explain to you how theyre not.

[SugarMeSweet]

@Kitten967 all girls are "sluts" to swoldishwasher because he saw his ex girl sucking someone elses 10incher. @Jrossetti nah i didn't mean you. tis all good

[Elastephen]

Yes.

[Asker]

Why?

[Elastephen]

Because they feel their looks entitles them to be a player just like wealthy people thinks their wealth entitles them to treat people anyhow they wish.

[Asker]

But what if he's sincere?

[Elastephen]

For how long?

[Anonymous]

I think they are not more open