I was dating this guy for 3 weeks and then we became boyfriend and girlfriend.
I feel he's a bit creepy and clingy.
Last week we were texting and I told him I had a cold. Then suddenly he shows up to my house with chicken soup he made and a bag of cough drops and medicine. He left right away because he had to go to work. On some level it's sweet and kind but kinda creepy to show up unannounced. Maybe he wanted to surprise me? I'm not sure.
Then yesterday day it was my birthday, and he told me to look outside the window of my back yard and when I did he was in my back yard and started playing guitar and singing to me. I also found it weird that he just went inside my back yard, He told me the reason he sneaked into my back yard was because didn't want to do it from the front yard because he didn't want to cause a scene and embarrass me so he figured sneaking into my back yard was ok and that I would have been fine with it.
Some people told me maybe it's a cultural thing because he is Latino and they do the whole singing to the girl from the window thing but I still found it creepy. I thanked him and appreciated it but I still felt weird about it.
Later yesterday he gave me this dress I always wanted. I found it weird that he just happened to know the dress I always wanted.
He told me that he sent a message to my best friend on Facebook and asked her for advice on what he should get me and she sent him a link to where he could buy the dress. I felt that was kinda creepy to just do that and stalkerish.
Like I feel he's all over my stuff and creepy. Maybe it's a cultural thing I don't know, I'm a white American. Should I break up with him.
Most Helpful Guy
How is that creepy? He seems he is being attentive, and thoughtful. Yeah the guitar thing about singing to the window is a kind of latino culture thing, but it's not like americans don't do that either, they do but it's just that it went out of fashon so it's more of a old school traditional American thing.
And he asked your friend for advice on a present? how is that a bad thing? How?
He wanted to get the perfect gift for you and asked someone for help
I hope you break up with him, or that he breaks up with you, because I want him to be with a woman who appreciates him and loves him for how he is.
If you want a guy who isn't like that, there's nothing wrong with that, you have the choice of wanted whatever guy you want, but just because you have a personal preference it doesn't make his behavior "Creepy" or "clingy" and you are ignorant for throwing those words around like it's nothing. You need to check yourself.
Most Helpful Girl
What is wrong with you? D: I almost feel like this is a troll.
A guy is genuinely thoughtful and incredibly sweet and you want to break up with him? It's not clingy or creepy.
He asked your friend for some ideas on what to get you for your birthday, because he didn't know what to get. That's not creepy at all. He did the thing in your garden as a nice surprise too for your birthday. Showing up with soup and medicine is extremely thoughtful and you had a cold.
Notice how they aren't just out of the blue? He had good reasons each time? It's not like he's just showing up wherever you go or actually stalking you. Honestly, I'd usually be telling you not to take this stuff for granted because I guarantee it will stop or at least slow down after a few months. It sounds like you're just not that into him. When my boyfriend does nice things like this I feel like returning the affection, not creeped out.0