Why is my boyfriend acting so weird?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys! I (19F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (20M) for 7 months. He has always been this loving boy who's been there for me all the time. I suffer from really bad panic attacks and breakdowns so whenever I am upset I call him and he calms me down.

A week ago he went outstation for a trip with his family and ever since he has become super distant. He had told me prior to this departure that the chances of us communicating would be pretty slim but he'd try.

But the "try" was literally never there. He stopped initiating convos, not a single text from him if I dont text him first.

He says he has a lot of things going on and he is not in a good place of mind rn and stuff. I asked him whats up, he is like "nothing gtg bye love you"

Whenever I text him, he HAS to leave. he doesn't have 5 mins for me.

I was in a middle of a breakdown and I texted him, he is saying "Icant talk right now", "I'll talk when I come back" "I can't talk pls try to understand", i kept telling him "I need you" but he wasn't sparing 5 mins.

He is saying he doesn't want to talk to anyone. and slowly he is someone i dont know anymore.

He wasn't like this.. What changed?

[DishLady]

First of all, unloading on him constantly is not a valid or sustainable form of therapeutic treatment — go see a therapist about your anxiety. Don’t put the burden of your issues on a guy who has his own s**t to deal with.


Next, HE IS GOING THROUGH SOMETHING. Why can you not get that? The universe doesn’t revolve around you. He needs to deal with his own stuff.


Leave him alone and go deal with your own problems.

[JesseP1nk]

Tell him you need things sorted out or you guys are over. Because what is this? When you need him, then he won't be around around and won't have time for you. What is the point of being in relationship? You both wasting time...

[spartan55]

Your neediness and high maintenance finally became too much for him.

[BetaBucks]

He probably is recognizing that he can't bare your emotional burden and still enjoy his life the same way. He's likely afraid of upsetting you, so he's being weak about it and backing away instead of talking to you. He's young, so this is normal. Think of his maturity level as about the same as when you were 14 or 15.

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one that asked you out and hit on you