There has to be a balance. Brutal honesty can be an utter mood killer most of the time, and a guy telling girls they're ugly is the most unattractive thing ever, going on to unnecessarily make a person even more insecure than they already are is just plain wrong and rude as hell.
there's a better way to go about honesty, and to succeed in life smoothly you need to do it the right way, be it in relationships, to strangers, at work. Brutal honesty doesn't work everywhere and tend to create unnecessary problems that could've been avoided. And many people who say they're "brutally honest" tend to sit on a high horse and think they're better than many because they're brutally honest and not a "pushover" like you're saying, its just a turn off tbh.
A better honesty than saying "you're ugly" is saying "you're not really my type", thats still being honest but not in a rude way, and that type of honesty is what I find attractive.
Well there's always a nicer way of saying things. There's no reason to be flat out rude to people because "I'm so honest". You can be honest but still be decent and kind. That is the difference between a turn on and turn off. Honesty IS a good trait but needs to go with some tact too.
I'm sorry. But what you're talking about is not being blunt, but flat out rude. You lack common decency in this area and you sound like you don't know how to talk to a woman, perhaps anybody without hearing you insult them. All you have to tell her is that you're not interested, and leave it at that. You don't owe her anything else of an explanation.
It's one thing to be honest, and another thing to be rude. Telling someone that they are ugly is unbelievably rude and inconsiderate. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who is inconsiderate, let alone date one! Be kind to others. If no one asks you for your opinion and your opinion is negative, best keep it to yourself. Practice using your judgement to assess a situation: why is he/she asking me this question, could it be because they are nervous and would like a confidence boost, or could it be because they would like to know if there's any improvement to be done?
I voted for other. It's not a turn off or attractive. But I will accept it. My boyfriend is blunt and lots of people that knows him thinks he's an ass but I don't think so at all.
I rather be with someone that is honest instead of lying or leading me on. This one guy I liked 2 years before I met my boyfriend, knew I liked him and the things he was doing everyone and including myself thought he liked me back as well, found out he didn't like me because I wasn't attractive enough, like seriously? Lol instead of acting like you like me for 5 months, you could of just told me and I would of moved on.
1. There's a time and place for hard truths and you have to be able to tell the difference.
2. There is such a thing as tact. You can't just walk up to people and blurt out "you're fat"/"your hair looks awful"/"you smell" and expect people to be unoffended. You have to be considerate of the human being you're speaking to or else you just appear crass and disrespectful.
3. You don't have to blurt out everything that crosses your mind. It's one thing to pull someone aside and give them a respectful heads up because you care about them, it's a whole other thing to nit pick people to their faces.
I find a genuine, open, honest man very attractive but not if he's inconsiderate, selfish, and derogatory.
I know a guy exactly like this, and I hate him. But still, I find him so fucking desirable. This is a problem. He likes me. And he tells me that. At least I know it is true, right? But still he treats everyone like shit, and just tells everybody whatever the fuck he wants. Leaves unneccessary comments, and is just generally mean. It's like up and down with him. I hate him, but whenever he gets close or do anything to me I can't contain myself.
So yeah to answer your question, yes even though I don't want to. Maybe it even makes the attraction far more off than usual. Cause you know that he is honest with you. But sometimes he makes me feel like shit. Which in some weird logic makes him more desirable... :(
It depends. You can be blunt but still emotionally sensitive. If he just spouts off whatever he's thinking without any consideration for how people feel, huge turn off. Showcases his lack of empathy. If he's just honest, that's a great quality to have
My partner is a little like that. Much blunter than I am and I don't like it very much, I don't see any need for it. If you can be kind to someone, I think that most of the time you should and I don't like that he can be brutally honest and hurt someone pointlessly rather than be gentler with his words. It's a bit of a turn off but not a deal breaker obviously.
Honesty is great... but being rude is not okay. There really is no reason for you to be telling people that they're ugly.
Most people who say they are brutally honest are just self centered. We could all go around saying whatever we wanted to people, that doesn't make it true. Your word isn't law and people like that come across arrogant to me. I don't have a problem with honesty, it's normally the attitude behind the honesty that is obnoxious.
It honestly depends. Some guys call themselves blunt when they really are just ass holes. If you can be straight forward and not sugar coat things when it's APPROPRIATE, then yes, that can be attractive.
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