Should a guy care more about his friends than his girlfriend?

[SimplySad]

My boyfriend seems to pay little attention to me and a lot to his friends. Makes me feel like maybe he's found someone else.

[WalterBlack]

You each should have your own individual lives. It is unhealthy to spend ALL of you time with your significant other. It is normal to feel a little sad or disappointed when you miss your significant other and they have plans to spend time with friends. If that happens, try to find something to do like spending time with YOUR. friends. When the two of you are alone together do you feel like he still acts the same way toward you that he used to? If you always initiate phone calls or texts, don't call/text him for a day or two and see what happens. If he doesn't make the effort to call/text, you should discuss that with him. I wouldn't assume that he has found someone else. Unfortunately, sometimes us guys aren't very good at making our girlfriend feel special. Maybe that is something he needs to work on.

[SimplySad]

and what if you spend absolutely no time together and have no friends? hm.

[1988fido]

:) should be equaled till u and him state that u love each other
That time he have to devote more time to u 65% and 35% to his friends.

But if u 2 didn't confess love yet
Anything within 55% range for either is good and he is a decent guy.

If u 2 moved in together it should be 70%+

If engaged
80%+

If married u r the top priority 95%

If u have a child 101%

If u r pregnant even f u not married but he loves u 120% fuck even quoting jobs or changing life decisions for ur sake is right.

[lovelylia]

I've been in the shoes of a taken man/woman's friends, and it's terrible being left alone and being the 3rd wheel. I think your boyfriend is a really good friend and might be trying to be a good boyfriend but slowly taking one step at a time. If you're really insecure, YOU try talking to him and making plans.

[SimplySad]

He told me he hasn't felt like doing anything. if he doesn't wanna do anything, I don't want to keep bugging him about it.

[SarahsSummer]

He may just be afraid of losing his friends if he spends all his time with you but I would talk to him. How much time do you spend together?

[SimplySad]

we don't spend any time together anymore.

[SarahsSummer]

None? As in, at all? Then I dont think you can call him your boyfriend anymore.

[SimplySad]

I've talking to him about it. Not about him spending time with his friends necessarily, but us not spending time at all. he sees everything as perfectly fine. And thinks I'm just worrying too much.

[SarahsSummer]

If you spend ZERO time with a guy you call your boyfriend, and are in the same geographic location, everything is most certainly NOT perfectly fine.

[SimplySad]

we used to spend a lot a time together. Wednesday was supposed to be our "date nights" but he just hasn't felt like it apparently.

[SarahsSummer]

Sorry but you are not together anymore. You're a girl of convenience for him in case his friends are ever not available. A guy who spends zero effort on you isn't worth keeping as a boyfriend. You're a beautiful girl, you should find someone who appreciates you AND enjoys seeing you.

[SimplySad]

Thanks

[SarahsSummer]

Good luck to you. Hopefully you can change your username soon ☮💟😊

[Kaylyne]

I simply have to ask, just why the hell are you wasting your time with this fucking A******?

[SimplySad]

He's actually really sweet. Believe it or not.

[Kaylyne]

"He's very sweet" treating you like this! I definitely think not.
Still, it's your choice so you'll just have to live with it, I know I most certainly couldn't.

[HyperDude21]

That all depends on how close they are to their friends and such. Personally, I'd care more for my girl, but that's also cause I've never had a lasting friendship with someone where we were like bros and hung out all the time and such. I believe that people in relationships should kinda split their attention equally between their friends and their spouse

[tacoty21]

It depends how long you been together and if it is a serious relationship or not. Regardless, I'm most situation you should be his priority equal if not greater to his friend. You shouldn't have to feel like you have to compete to get his attention. That is where you should ask him what are you to him.

[superdouch]

it tends to be the smartest thing to do, if you make your girlfriend your all, once you break up you have no one. if you keep your friends once you break up you can rely on them to help.

doesn't mean he's gonna break up or is looking for someone else, just means he's healthy lol

[SahDude]

Nope. Easy answer. The boyfriend should care more for their girlfriend. After all you are the ones that give us lad attention and love. And we have to show it back just as much

[Imhotep99]

No he hasn't found someone else. Why did you even go that far? Insecurity? Look, nobody is special here. His friends are as special as you. I suggest that when he goes out with his friends he should take you with him.

[SimplySad]

yes, I am very insecure. Thanks for pointing it out.

[JosyJosy]

He shouldn't be forced to choose, but there should be balance

[lovelylia]

Exactly

[SimplySad]

I'm not exactly asking him to choose. I have no problem with him hanging out with friends. it's the fact that we never do anything.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No your boyfriend should care more about you, If i had a girlfriend she would be my world , i would not be spending more time with friends than my girlfriend.

[jq0789]

yes, but a husband should care more for his wife than his pals

[faviaz]

just make some common interests between you. like travelling or any sports or something like that... so that u two can spend lot of time together

[datgirl]

I'd talk to him first and if he didn't change I'd leave him he could date his friends instead.

[SimplySad]

This made me laugh for some reason. Thanks. 😂

[datgirl]

Glad I could make you laugh :)

[i_am_daddy42]

you should talk to him or break up 😕 a man's girlfriend is the most important person and that is how it should be

[2shredded]

What an asshole. He can't hang out with his friends more than his girlfriend...

[2shredded]

(Insert sarcasm)

[SimplySad]

I'm not saying he can't. Meh. Now you're making me feel bad. We just do absolutely nothing anymore. And when he texts me, he's always doing something with his friends. I ask why we never do anything and he says he just hasn't felt like it. I mean, I'm not even asking him to spend money on me, I'd just like to see him.

[2shredded]

Do you ever just like ask to chill?

[SimplySad]

No... I ask what he's doing that day, and his answer is always something with his friends. And if he said he hasn't felt like, I don't wanna keep bothering him.

[2shredded]

Well wtf? If he can hang with his friends but doesn't "feel" like hanging with you, that's like slightly weird

[SimplySad]

that's what I figured

[2shredded]

Don't feel bad about it, if I were you I'd casually ask him to hangout and goto a movie after. Or something I don't know I'm not a relationship expert... And I'm sorry your simply sad

[SimplySad]

ahh, you're funny.

[XuR_CXV_115]

Nope
Same thing can be said about females too
I don't value my friends over my lover

[merlee5963]

dump him. get it over with before the relationship starts turning to shit, because if this is how he's treating you, it will.

[Anonymous]

He's not a real boyfriend leave him he should give you more attention

[XuR_CXV_115]

Kinda radical lmao

[Opinion Owner]

It's true

[SimplySad]

I don't think that's exactly true...

[EAZYE]

he doesn't have his priorities in order in my opinion..

[MarbleLines]

Pardon my french but, "Bros before hoes."

[SimplySad]

what's the point in dating then if you aren't even really gonna talk?

[MarbleLines]

The point is he has a girl that he make out with and spend time with whenever he wants. Maybe you should give him space and do your own thing, stop worrying about him and do the things that you want to do, maybe he'll come around. Or you could just tell him that you've been feeling kinda neglected and you wanna hang out or something like that

[Anonymous]

girls come and go, but friends are forever

[Terrorist69]

This is gold

[Nightinggale]

Amen

[SimplySad]

that makes it sound like every girl a guy dates is for them to just have company for a little while. just to be entertainment until they don't want it anymore.

[Nightinggale]

Whats wrong with that?

[SimplySad]

okay, so we don't actually matter? like a crappy product you'll only ever use once. thanks.

[Opinion Owner]

at your age, yes, what you said is true

[SimplySad]

No, it's actually not. All you older people only bring up age. That's the only thing you have to defend your answer. just because that's how your experience went, doesn't mean everyone is the same.

[Opinion Owner]

oh, yes, it certainly does. girls your age, don't need to be settling down in long term relationships.. it's not a good idea

[Opinion Owner]

dont fight me on this, i know what im talking about

[SimplySad]

I don't think you do. So many people marry their high school partner. just because you didn't doesn't mean anything.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah and you see where they wind up

[Opinion Owner]

like i said, it does NOT work out

[SimplySad]

idek why you're on this app.

[Opinion Owner]

cause i only speak the truth yo, dont like it, gtfo

[SimplySad]

Lol. you're old and childish. 😂😂😂

[Terrorist69]

Why the hostility

[Opinion Owner]

she can't handle the truth, that's all

[Terrorist69]

Lemme be frank... My friends are everything

[Nightinggale]

No. It should be equal.

[munit]

Whoever is closest to them at the time

[Anonymous]

It's a learned thing.

[thrush70]

no friends first