Saw "boyfriend" flirting with other girls via Snap?

[Anonymous]

So been seeing this guy for almost six months. Although we're not in a relationship, it feels like we are already in one. He claims how I've made him happier, how he doesn't want to lose me, how I'm different etc. We see each other once a week. He's the first open I've opened myself to as I haven't had a boyfriend. Well he gave me his phone and I saw how he commented on girls' picture, talking about how they looked sexy. He also plans to fly out a girl so they can hang out. And I found this after we made out. Like we almost had sex (I'm a virgin) and I felt so bad. Although I didn't confront him about it, I asked him if he had other girls in mind and he said no. He made a comment about how he has a lot friends that are girls. I don't know anymore. He told me if he plans to talk to someone else, he will let me know. Smh.

[Brick_]

In his mind, he does not see you guys as "official" As such he does not feel guilty about flirting with other girls. In many ways, he sees you as an option right now. As awful as that seems It's kind of how we are. If we can't have one girl then we should move onto another. If one isn't fully committed, then I should be able to flirt with other girls. I currently am in this weird double flirtation situation myself right now and the fact is, while I can see myself with both, (and i have snuggled with both, not kissed though) i am not committed to either since they both are not and do not want to be fully committed to me yet. If you want a relationship with your guy, or if you feel you already are in one, then make it official! This way he will see that you are the only one for him. And if he doesn't want it, then you know that he only wants you as an option and nothing more.

[Stevebaur24]

If you were dating officially I'd recommend dumping him but it sounds like your relationship is still pretty ambiguous and he doesn't have reason to think you are exclusive, even if he likes you whicg he well may.

Why not tell him that you like him and his flirting with other girls make you jealous and ask him if he is interested in a commited relationship?

This is what my wife did 6 years ago and we started dating and never stopped:).

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

U need to talk to him and let him know u r uncomfortable with him flirting and treating his "friends" the way he does. Its just wrong to be flirting with other girls like that even tho u guys r not official. I was in a situation similar to urs and I got fed up and decided to be with him lol. Just tell him he has to choose either u or them he can't be using u like that and if he continues just stop talking to him. It'll show that he's not serious about u and even tho he may tell u he likes u and all those nice things, actions speak louder than words. Let him prove it to u and not just mess around. U deserve better

[Wonderer89]

He isn't your boyfriend; unless you've both committed to exclusitivity he's free to do what he wants Hun. I know you're asking him the questions and it's sad he won't be honest but until it's your business he doesn't have to be.

It does sound as though both of you aren't quite on the same page for what you're after physically and emotionally. 6 months is a long time to be in limbo with someone, maybe it's time to define what it is between you and set some boundaries from there of what makes you uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

You need to cut him loose. If he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend in the 6 months that y'all have been talking he is just keeping you around. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Also, why would you listen to what he says when you saw what he was doing clear as day. Don't like your feelings for him blind you.

[btbc92]

He's all about sex! Stay a virgin! Wait till marriage or else you'll continue picking up guys like him. And besides, why would you be making out with a guy your not in a relationship with, let alone not even friends with. He's using you're but and he likes using other chicks. Cut that imbecile loose!

[Asker]

Girl that's why I'm saying. He claims that he'll wait for me and we'll date when I'm ready. I was hopeful and thought, wow he really likes me. I asked him like four times that I feel bad about the making out cause we're not together. He claims that it's not bad. It's getting intense to the point he pressured me to only be in a t shirt and bottoms. I feel so ashamed.

[btbc92]

this is not a good relationship for you and is a very dangerous situation that you're in for your virginity. if you stick around you're not going to be a virgin for much longer. never be involved with somebody who pressures you ever.

[btbc92]

a person who respects you and wait with stop themselves before they even get so far. heck they will even stop you if you take it too far. his actions will speak louder than his words. drop him immediately. tell him it's officially over. don't let them turn you into a harlet to be his harlet. somebody who respects you would never do that.

[Asker]

You're right. I told him I didn't want to make out anymore. Even when I told him, what if we had sex? He was like, then we had sex... when I told him I wanted to be abstinent and keep it until marriage. I don't know how to tell him. I was thinking of giving him one more chance. If he tries again to make a sexual advance, I'm done. Cause why I'm conflicted is I like spending time with him like we make a lot of jokes and all. But it's just the making out ruins everything. Like I feel vulnerable and I know I shouldn't be doing such things.

[btbc92]

no more Second Chances. trust me when I say just cut him loose. did you not just hear what he just said after you asking that question? he doesn't care. you told him what the deal was before you got involved him. that should never happen. he's not going to stop he's going to do it again. and the next time he does it again he's going to succeed, because we'll be when you least expect it and you won't be able to control yourself. because you put your trust in him and he's already destroying that trust.

[Asker]

Can I please message you?

[btbc92]

sure not a problem.

[AdviceGiver0405]

From a males point pf view you put 'although we're not in a relationship'. Now this can send mixed messages... it could be you're friends with benefits or could mean you're still open. You should ask him what you two are. then yonless you see him with another girl then it should be fine. However doing this will leave broken hearted if it doesn't turn out good so if you want to be safe get rid. If you want him benefit of the doubt

[Rocky0_0]

hey, uhm look I don't know how this person thinks obviously but if I had to guess based on your description I'd say he's a bit of an asshole. you obviously aren't very special to him if he flirts around via snap or any other social network. so I think you shouldn't get your hopes up at all, but talk to him because you can never know what goes behind his mind

[melanieeeB]

you both aren't exclusive or committed, so it's not wrong what he is doing! It's bad for you, because you want somethings serious, but he doesn't, he seems like player, who just want to have a lot of hook ups and nothing serious right now

[ItsAMeWeirdo]

That's called a serious case of HE JUST WANT YOU FOR YOU VIRGINITY I heard that a lot of people find out that your a virgin they want so they tell people. But I'm not near people I'm always watching from afar

[Bambam69]

Communication is key if you're looking for a relationship. Seems like he is still playing the field but you need to know if this is going somewhere or not.

[Cosytoasty]

Should have asked him whether or not you guys were in a relationship earlier. Personally, i'd say "seeing" someone means it's still fair game.

[awesomeadam18]

if he is still single he cab talk to who ever he wants

[AveronRoland]

He wants you as his girlfriend but now he isn't sure either. And a man got his needs why would he waste his time.

[Asker]

Yeah I understand that. I asked like four times if he was talking to other girls and he said no. I also told him twice that I didn't want to waste his time, and he said I wasn't. So now I'm just hella confused.

[Yummycookies]

You can't get upset you guys aren't even in a committed relationship yet.

[Anonymous]

He's a fuckboy. They're all over🤷🏾‍♀️. They lie and get in your head when all they want is pussy. Just keeping it real. You're probably a pretty girl who deserves someone better

[βιυεsκγs]

Honestly? He seems like a player. I wouldn't continue anything with his guy☺

[GARY-]

You haven't had sex yet so the relationship is not official.

[sasha24]

leave him and dont give a fuck and say to him im sorry darling but im too precious to deal with this kind of shit

[Skylar_williams]

Break things off with him.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

He's an asshat. Run far far away.

[Jason7mge]

Snapchat will be the for fall of society