Boyfriend snapchatting other girls?

[jbloverss8]

Okay so... My boyfriend has cheated in the past but with other girls so ya know I kinda think like once a cheater always a cheater (as awful as that sounds) but I recently found out that he's been snapchatting this girl and from past experience I know that snapchat is basically only used for sending nudes/flirty snaps or if you have something to show someone. How many people really have a casual conversation on it? I know everyone I know doesn't do that but anyways, he lied to me about it and he started snapping her on our anniversary and he said the only reason he was talking to her is because I wasn't paying attention to him. And then the next day apparently she felt comfortable enough to go up to him in his cafeteria and try to talk to him. Also, she knows were in a relationship because she's liked the pictures of us on his insta. I know I wouldn't go up to a guy and talk to him if he didn't lead me on to the idea that he wanted to hangout so? Am I overreacting or what, I don't know what to do:( I'm scared because we don't go the same school so I don't know what's going on between them and we're supposed to be going to college togther and living together in 4 months.

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He did not cheat on me guys, he's cheated on his past girlfriends!! So stop being rude and saying I don't know why you're with him if he cheated on you

[AdamThomas]

It doesn't matter that he hasn't cheated on you, he cheated on previous girlfriends and now he's lying to you about talking to other women behind your back. Don't let your feelings for him cloud your judgement, both of these things should tell you that he's no good and that most probably he'll do the same to you too. I've been in a couple of relationships in the past where there have been obvious red flags that other people could spot a mile away but because I had strong feelings for them I ignored the other people and denied that they would ever do anything wrong, but the other people were always right. They can see what you can't.

[Butterlyalwaysxx]

I completely agree with AdamThomas!
You're clearly picking up red flag signals that is making you unsure and beginning to question you're relationship and the trust you have for your boyfriend (hence why you're asking this question), and from my past experience, if you have a gut feeling about something, more than likely you'll be right!
Due to the fact that he's cheated with other girls, I'd be very cautious in case he would do the same to you.

[Tim47]

I don't know why you are still with a guy that cheated on you but here is how it works with us guys in general.
Guys just like flirting with girls because it makes them feel better about themselves. Just because he is snapchating other girls doesn't mean he wants to cheat. The best thing to do is be understanding and just let him do his thing. He will realise this and be like "I have such a chill gf" rather than pushing you away when you confront him. Not only does it make him appreciate you more it also gives you something to fall back on if he accuses you of flirting with guys.

[Broadwaystar63]

First off, just because you weren't "giving him enough attention" doesn't mean he should be allowed to talk to some other girl on snapchat. Especially on your anniversary! I do think you can have casual but flirty conversations but as a girl, I wouldn't have a snapchat convo with a guy unless we were flirty. So I don't know if I'd assume he's cheating on you.. But I would say he doesn't understand the fullness of a gift he has in front of him and he needs to appreciate that!

[thegirlLily]

I think that, whatever the case is with this girl (if he's flirting with her or not), you have so little trust in him (which I can understand if he cheated on you, that is a truly awful experience), that you should consider if you still want to keep this going.

If you have to live in constant fear taht he might be unfaithful to you, is your relationship bringing you any happiness?

[thruthe6]

Have a serious conversation with him and give him the ultimatum that he either needs to stop snapping that girl or you are going to break up with him. If he had not cheated before I think it would be fine if he snapping another girl, but since he has a "reputation" it is not ok.

Or if you can find the girl he is snapping talk to her (don't be hostile) but just make sure that her intentions are good.

[Metlahaed]

If your belief is "once a cheater always a cheater" honour that belief and stop living an anxious and confused life.

Side note, this is why I hate social media. I have none of those FB, Insta, SnapChat etc. GaG is the only social media I have, if you could even call it that.

[joeb73]

i would rethink those plans because if he is doing that and has in the past i feel it will not change once you live together, it will just make it more complicated.

[Leykis101]

He's a teenager and so are you. He should be snapchatting with girls. jblover probably means Justin Bieber lover, I bet you'd be snap chatting with Bieber if you could. Enjoy your life, it's short

[ColeJames12345]

I use snapchat to talk causally, but I am 14, and not in a relationship.

[Trenhard_]

Well one of my ex's complained about the same thing and not to scare you but I was sending a lot of flirty stuff.

[jbloverss8]

Oh gosh you scared me even more but thank you for your honesty

[Cantfindone]

cheater is always cheater, woman get this in your headdddd

[JC103]

Cut it Cut it Cut it Cut it Cut it

[JC103]

That bull ish is way too high you need to cut it!

[ShayanMortazavi1]

Just break up with him if he actually cheated

[jbloverss8]

I don't know if he did cheat though, what I meant in the post was that he has cheated with past girlfriends

[apple24]

I would be mad!