For those who have ghosted why do you do it that way? How would you prefer to be rejected be told straight up or ignored completely?
I tell em how it is no sugar coat
I've ghosted before
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I guess I should clarify i meant reject someone with silence with no explanation at all. Not reject someone then ghost them if they don't accept your rejection and continue to pursue. That's understandable there's not much else you could but ignore when they don't take no for an answer. I would do the same.
I've ghosted some people mostly when I have shown some signs liking them although I have then changed my mind. So if they don't ask directly to do sth together I can't tell them upfront. If they ask directly I'll just say no. I've also been ghosted: went to meet a crush with his friends. We were already talking about going on a date. When the night was over he invited me to sleep at his home cause it was too late and I lived kinda far. Spend the whole night talking slept in the same bed spend the next day listening to music and talking then he walked me home in the rain gave me his umbrella and then he disappeared for two weeks. No explanation and then we just hanged out as friends and when I confessed he said we can't be together. so sad lol
Usually I only ghost guys that I went on one or two dates with that I don't want to see again. If we're in an actual relationship then I'll tell you for the most part.
But this past relationship has been so turbulent. He's rude, disrespectful, argumentative, has cheated, and he's ghosted me twice. And he keeps telling me when I can talk, what I can talk about, and has hung up the phone in my face before and then blocked my number so I can't call him. So I'm ghosting him. He called me yesterday but I have zero intention of calling him back.
I've been ghosted by plenty of women I and also ghost plenty of women. If you use anything like Tinder, you'll lose count of how many times it happens, it becomes part of normal behavior.
I'll usually give them like a one word reply to give them a hint that I'm not really interested in continuing any conversation and if they still text me, then I'll ignore them.
I typically tell people how it was but I went to meet this one guy who was clearly about 15+ years older than his photo. I didn't feel the need to give him an explanation. He should have been able to figure it out on his own. If not he's delusional and that's even more reason to never speak with him again.
Women ghost usually because they don't want to hurt feelings. I only ghost if the girls being way too dramatic after a few dates. I was ghosted recently but I know why.
Yeah I ghosted a guy.. he was very pushy.. didn't listen to me after I told him nothing would happen between us and he persisted. So I ghosted him and I have been ghosted before; gotten over it though.
Will that's not a complete ghost you told him how you feel and he didn't listen. there's not much else you can do from there then just ghost. those people who go radio silent giving no real rejection or explanation are assholes but I understand they way you did it i kinda done the same aswell.
I accidental texted a wrong # it ended up being a girl my age I said my bad but she wanted to talk anyways. kinda weird but what ever I was bored so we did for a while but she got clingy texting me like twice a day. calling me bae shit like that so I started to respond with 1 word responses she didn't get the point. so I just told her i think we shouldn't talk anymore we live like 8 hours away. what's the point but she kept texting me so I stopped responding.
i only been ghosted once a girl asked to reschedule a date so I agreed. then she said you know what just forget it, I asked her why'd you ask to rescedual then she never responded. like wtf, I guess she just wanted to see how long she could string me along for attention
Exactly; I think saying why your going to stop messaging them is being the better person. at least they know what happened and they can recorrect themselves in the future.
Haha thats really strange how you and the girl met! Did you get a photo of her? Your reasons are legitimate.. I mean if you only wanted a person to text when your bored (using them as a last resort) and your both on the same page then thats fine. I've had that kind of drama before, the guy started developing feelings even though I was just looking for someone to talk to in my spare time.
If nothing goes anywhere then its fair to cut them off. can't always be in the one position
right you would think it would be common courtesy I don't expect much but at least have the decency to be sincere and direct. that way If it's easier to move on your not thinking what happened. plus if you did something wrong you now what to improve in the future. I did she was ugly lol but regardless she was a boring texter so I got bored. Even if she was hot I would never want a ldr so it would be best to cut it off before anyone catches feelings. I've got quite a few girls SC on here some were cute but I try to keep it casual as well. i dont see the point of getting serious if you live States or countries away. yet many people try I don't make sense
I know exactly where your coming from! LDR doesn't work in my opinion, it's complicated and especially if either one is sensitive or easily anxious it will never work because they overthink everything. I think people who do try are the ones who think they won't get any better than what's in front of them, or they aren't bothered to go through the same process again of getting another girl or guy because it's too hurtful and they fear rejection. Rejection happens all the time. I'm cautious of who I talk to outside GAG, only add them on facebook or SC if I know things will be platonic and they understand that nothing will happen between us because of distance. Its easy to get caught up in the romantised idea of a "long distance relationship" but nobody wants to get hurt
Unless you're ghosting because the person just won't leave you alone after you asked them to, then it seems like a cowards approach. I just tell people like it is, I'm honest but not mean about it. It's easier than osting and avoiding sed person.
I don't really care. If I'm ghosted I'm out, ain't wasting my time with that. DO I ever ghost? Yes however not intentionally normally it;s due to being too busy. If I don't like someone or don't want to be around them then i'll say it straight up
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Anonymous
(36-45)
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Both, cause you know that he's bound to court you but then, you play nice and just don't want to hurt them cause it will still be the same even if you reject someone, they will give silent treatment and yeah I was ghosted too , just someone I talk online for 2-3 years but haven't meet him personally and it just gone and no goodbyes.
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Anonymous
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Yea both actually. I've been ghosted bc i tell them how it is. 😂😂 But people tend to ghost me a lot.
I didn't really mind. We were just texting and barely saw. Didn't really have any connection to him anyways.
I ghosted a guy that I met off tinder. He was a cop and kept asking if I was "naughty" and "was breaking the law" cuz he has cuffs ;) hahaha. And he wouldn't stop calling me. Stopped texting him and never met him lol
No actually ghosting was one of the hardest thing I had ever done, he just pissed me off way too much so I decided to hurt him like he hurt me. I now know it's immature and I regret it.
Sometimes men treat you badly. You break it off n they somehow manage to sweet talk you into giving them another chance. And guess what they treat you like dirt again. So after a couple rounds of this I usually ghost. Mostly to stop my stupid self from falling for empty promises again.
ohh I see. well I just call that inconsiderate asshole never was worth my friendship all my time texting or calling them in the first place. also referred to as being a dick
Pretty much the same, it's when ever I put myself out there when trying to meet someone it happens, way back they never had a term for it but it's always been going on
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