Have you ever ghosted anyone or been ghosted?

[That1tallguy]

For those who have ghosted why do you do it that way? How would you prefer to be rejected be told straight up or ignored completely?

I tell em how it is no sugar coat

I've ghosted before

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+1 y

I guess I should clarify i meant reject someone with silence with no explanation at all. Not reject someone then ghost them if they don't accept your rejection and continue to pursue. That's understandable there's not much else you could but ignore when they don't take no for an answer. I would do the same.

[A_unicorn]

I've ghosted some people mostly when I have shown some signs liking them although I have then changed my mind. So if they don't ask directly to do sth together I can't tell them upfront. If they ask directly I'll just say no.
I've also been ghosted: went to meet a crush with his friends. We were already talking about going on a date. When the night was over he invited me to sleep at his home cause it was too late and I lived kinda far. Spend the whole night talking slept in the same bed spend the next day listening to music and talking then he walked me home in the rain gave me his umbrella and then he disappeared for two weeks. No explanation and then we just hanged out as friends and when I confessed he said we can't be together. so sad lol

[That1tallguy]

woww what a douch

[That1tallguy]

he just acted like nothing happened 2 weeks later

[A_unicorn]

Yeah! Nothing physical happened but still he could have said sth instead of doing this.

[That1tallguy]

that's a bitch move I would have just ignored him like he did you

[A_unicorn]

I should have cause I just ended getting hurt!!

[Anonymous]

Usually I only ghost guys that I went on one or two dates with that I don't want to see again. If we're in an actual relationship then I'll tell you for the most part.

But this past relationship has been so turbulent. He's rude, disrespectful, argumentative, has cheated, and he's ghosted me twice. And he keeps telling me when I can talk, what I can talk about, and has hung up the phone in my face before and then blocked my number so I can't call him. So I'm ghosting him. He called me yesterday but I have zero intention of calling him back.

[ShaeNielson]

I would rather him insult every aspect of me and calling me the worst names imaginable than be ghosted..

[Kkaos]

I've been ghosted by plenty of women I and also ghost plenty of women. If you use anything like Tinder, you'll lose count of how many times it happens, it becomes part of normal behavior.

[That1tallguy]

so if they text you do you just ignore them till they stop or do you mean you jus stop texting them

[Kkaos]

I'll usually give them like a one word reply to give them a hint that I'm not really interested in continuing any conversation and if they still text me, then I'll ignore them.

[JDavid25]

I ain't never really ghosted before.. But I can't tell you how many times I've been ghosted..
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[That1tallguy]

does it still bother you

[JDavid25]

Well sometimes yeah.. Especially if the person spoke to me first..

[PrincessPie]

No i tend to tell people how it is.

[Nyx_85]

I typically tell people how it was but I went to meet this one guy who was clearly about 15+ years older than his photo. I didn't feel the need to give him an explanation. He should have been able to figure it out on his own. If not he's delusional and that's even more reason to never speak with him again.

[Nyx_85]

*how it is

Or was... Whichever.

[Nyx_85]

In my opinion lying about your age, weight, height, etc gives people a right to not talk to you again.

[dannymexico90]

Women ghost usually because they don't want to hurt feelings. I only ghost if the girls being way too dramatic after a few dates. I was ghosted recently but I know why.

[Tephra]

Yeah I ghosted a guy.. he was very pushy.. didn't listen to me after I told him nothing would happen between us and he persisted. So I ghosted him and I have been ghosted before; gotten over it though.

[That1tallguy]

Will that's not a complete ghost you told him how you feel and he didn't listen. there's not much else you can do from there then just ghost. those people who go radio silent giving no real rejection or explanation are assholes but I understand they way you did it i kinda done the same aswell.

[Tephra]

Yeah I couldnt fully ghost someone without telling them whats up cause if I were in their position Id be upset too.

What happened to you?

[That1tallguy]

I accidental texted a wrong # it ended up being a girl my age I said my bad but she wanted to talk anyways. kinda weird but what ever I was bored so we did for a while but she got clingy texting me like twice a day. calling me bae shit like that so I started to respond with 1 word responses she didn't get the point.
so I just told her i think we shouldn't talk anymore we live like 8 hours away. what's the point but she kept texting me so I stopped responding.

[That1tallguy]

i only been ghosted once a girl asked to reschedule a date so I agreed. then she said you know what just forget it, I asked her why'd you ask to rescedual then she never responded. like wtf, I guess she just wanted to see how long she could string me along for attention

[That1tallguy]

those people who give no reason are assholes they think their sparing your feeling but they just don't have the balls to be direct.

[Tephra]

Exactly; I think saying why your going to stop messaging them is being the better person. at least they know what happened and they can recorrect themselves in the future.

Haha thats really strange how you and the girl met! Did you get a photo of her? Your reasons are legitimate.. I mean if you only wanted a person to text when your bored (using them as a last resort) and your both on the same page then thats fine. I've had that kind of drama before, the guy started developing feelings even though I was just looking for someone to talk to in my spare time.

If nothing goes anywhere then its fair to cut them off. can't always be in the one position

[That1tallguy]

right you would think it would be common courtesy I don't expect much but at least have the decency to be sincere and direct. that way If it's easier to move on your not thinking what happened. plus if you did something wrong you now what to improve in the future.
I did she was ugly lol but regardless she was a boring texter so I got bored. Even if she was hot I would never want a ldr so it would be best to cut it off before anyone catches feelings. I've got quite a few girls SC on here some were cute but I try to keep it casual as well. i dont see the point of getting serious if you live States or countries away. yet many people try I don't make sense

[Tephra]

I know exactly where your coming from! LDR doesn't work in my opinion, it's complicated and especially if either one is sensitive or easily anxious it will never work because they overthink everything. I think people who do try are the ones who think they won't get any better than what's in front of them, or they aren't bothered to go through the same process again of getting another girl or guy because it's too hurtful and they fear rejection. Rejection happens all the time. I'm cautious of who I talk to outside GAG, only add them on facebook or SC if I know things will be platonic and they understand that nothing will happen between us because of distance. Its easy to get caught up in the romantised idea of a "long distance relationship" but nobody wants to get hurt

[Anonymous]

Unless you're ghosting because the person just won't leave you alone after you asked them to, then it seems like a cowards approach. I just tell people like it is, I'm honest but not mean about it. It's easier than osting and avoiding sed person.

[MakingMeHiiiigh]

I don't really care. If I'm ghosted I'm out, ain't wasting my time with that. DO I ever ghost? Yes however not intentionally normally it;s due to being too busy. If I don't like someone or don't want to be around them then i'll say it straight up

[Anonymous]

Both, cause you know that he's bound to court you but then, you play nice and just don't want to hurt them cause it will still be the same even if you reject someone, they will give silent treatment and yeah I was ghosted too , just someone I talk online for 2-3 years but haven't meet him personally and it just gone and no goodbyes.

[Anonymous]

Yea both actually. I've been ghosted bc i tell them how it is. 😂😂 But people tend to ghost me a lot.

[rgb008]

I've been ghosted once and I ghosted a guy once.

[That1tallguy]

how did it feel to be ghosted and why did you ghost the guy instead of being direct?

[rgb008]

I didn't really mind. We were just texting and barely saw. Didn't really have any connection to him anyways.

I ghosted a guy that I met off tinder. He was a cop and kept asking if I was "naughty" and "was breaking the law" cuz he has cuffs ;) hahaha. And he wouldn't stop calling me. Stopped texting him and never met him lol

[Anonymous]

I've been on both sides of this situation... I regret having done it, but I never mourn the loss of the person who ghosted on me for long

[That1tallguy]

why cus it was easier to ghost?

[Opinion Owner]

No actually ghosting was one of the hardest thing I had ever done, he just pissed me off way too much so I decided to hurt him like he hurt me. I now know it's immature and I regret it.

[JohnDoe3000]

I have, but only if I had never met her in real life.

[lareina05]

I have been ghosted after a 5 year waste of time relationship.

[maninsite70611]

ghosted? calling someone from a number they don't recognize on purpose?

[That1tallguy]

lol close enough 😅

[maninsite70611]

someone one was kind enough to Define it for me. have no clue why give ambiguous titles 4 jerk off Behavior

[Anonymous]

I only ghost when I know the women can't treat other people right. Sex has a funny way to show a person true self.

[Anonymous]

I ghosted them before kissing, when they told me their age. I wanted no drama.

[alice55]

I've ghosted before and had bean ghosted too.

[Chanel1981]

I think ghosting is for cowards

[Westy616]

Well said. No integrity it seems... people lack it.

[Chanel1981]

@Westy616 Thank you, I feel the same way!

[That1tallguy]

it's definitely is they think there making it easier for them but their actually just making it easier for them selves

[Westy616]

No one likes unanswered burdens in their lives...

[Anonymous]

I ghost cos I don’t find the guy attractive (online dating), and i assume they at started swiping nanoseconds after leaving the date anyway

[Anonymous]

Girls seem to ghost way too much

[gal256]

Sometimes men treat you badly. You break it off n they somehow manage to sweet talk you into giving them another chance. And guess what they treat you like dirt again. So after a couple rounds of this I usually ghost. Mostly to stop my stupid self from falling for empty promises again.

[Opinion Owner]

@gal256 but then girls do it to guys who are not like that

[Nelsoen]

I've ghosted plenty and I've been ghosted plenty

[That1tallguy]

why aren't you just direct with them instead and does being ghosted not bother you?

[Nelsoen]

It doesn't bother me like it use to and I've only ghosted girls who weren't important to me anymore