Have you ever been ghosted? Have you ghosted someone?

[teawrecks]

(if more than one answer applies you can comment about it)

every guy I've slept with in the past has always ended up ghosting me for one reason or another.

and I didn’t realize how much it negatively impacted things for me until yesterday when I about overreacted because the guy i’m currently talking to / sleeping with was leaving me on read.

thing is I knew before we even got together that he was a crap replier, no matter who you are. but it still made me insecure.

didn't realize how much I hated online dating til it hit me that this wouldn’t even be an issue if I hadn’t gotten ghosted so frequently in the past.

yes I’ve been ghosted & it negatively impacts dating

yes i’ve ghosted someone

yes i’ve been ghosted & it didn’t impact dating

no i’ve never been ghosted

no i’ve never ghosted someone

[LesterJester]

Yes and yes. Yes I have had girls in the past just stop talking to me and yes, I have suddenly stopped talking to some girls when it wasn't going anywhere.

Is it a bad thing? Nope.

See before social media and online dating became a common thing, you were stuck with calling people on the phone, knocking on their door or stumbling across them in public. Sometimes you just stopped communicating rather than just saying you're done... Both have the same result and one gets the hint one way or another.

Now a days it seems more and more younger people are complaining and moaning about being ghosted and how horrible it is and how is affects them emotionally, etc. I never really heard of the term until this past year when more and more of these questions keep popping up on here relating to ghosting.

Its not anything new and people have been doing it for years. Whether someone tells you to your face that they really don't like you and don't want to deal with you anymore, or whether they just cut all communication, the end result is the same.

You were rejected and you may feel used. You will feel you wasted your time. You will have your feelings hurt. You feel like crap either way... And then you get over it and move on.

[GingerGuy]

Yes, twice recently for NO reason at all. I did nothing wrong or inappropriate. Which to me is extremely immature, disrespectful and selfish. On the plus side, they showed me their true colors, I don't want people like that in my life, so I'm glad they're gone! If you aren't mature enough to communicate with me and tell me if I've done something or you have a problem, then goodbye!

[GingerGuy]

I'd never ghost someone, unless I specifically told them I wanted nothing more to do with them and they kept contacting me anyway. Which has never happened.

[Clyde_123]

Thumbs up

[Comawhite666]

I think in your case it's because you've slept with them and therefore the mystery has been lost and they've moved on with someone else to have sex. Are you wanting a relationship with these guys?

I've been ghosted once and it hurt so much. It was only after the second date and I think it's because I wouldn't do sexual things with him unless we were in a committed relationship. It ruined my confidence for quite a while after as I did nothing wrong as far as I was concerned :/

[teawrecks]

nah a lot of them I just wanted sex with but like continuously.

[jennifer_bloom]

I was ghosted once by a stranger that I had never met in real life - we had a date arranged and then he doesn't show up and ignores all my phone calls. I think that is the only time. There were times where I believed I was being ghosted, only to discover - I had driven them away by accusing them of ghosting me when they were on vacation.

[GWolfe]

Sounds like someone who didn't have the money for his date & was too full of pride to tell you.

[ChronicThinker]

I have been ghosted maybe twice. I've ghosted people a few times, but I mostly tell them I don't want to talk to them anymore. I personally have never felt anything for it for long. I get hurt for like 2 seconds, and then realize it doesn't fix anything so I just shrug and move on.

[Rei02]

Yes, I have been ghosted. Our relationship didn't Last more than 2 months. I am not sure what happened exactly, but I called him because I was concerned that he didn't called me like he said, so he took that opportunity to break up with me by phone. I wanted him to break up with me on person so we planned to see us on a certain place, however, he sent me a message that he was going to work at That moment. After not receiving anymore messages after the week, I sent him a la message where I told him I was setting him free, even with that message, he didn't answered or did something else. So I was ghosted.

I really felt bad, even I regretted about overreacting about not calling me. However, after some time, and also thanks to my therapist, I understood that our relation was not meant to be, he didn't want to commit to it and I have to mature on some personal issues before I decide to commit to a serious relation, even understand and have good reasons about why do I want a relationship.

[Alan180188]

well you tell me, I met a girl with a negative attitude and a crazy personality so I was honest with her and said that I don't think we'll get along and that it won't be fare if I play along just to get sex, but she were pushing for it and she was explaining why I "see" women in a negative way as a reaction of being "severely heart broken" in the past :D
anyway I kept ignoring her till one day she called me at midnight and asked to come over and she came drunk and said she want sex but I refused since I knew she was gonna use it as a trap, so we sat for a while and I made her coffee to sober up so I can take her home, and then when she was ready she asked to stay and kept leading things toward sex so I made myself clear that I'm not looking for anything serious and then slept with her, the next day she started acting as if she were my girlfriend and was freaky so I started avoiding her but she was literally calling me names and stuff so I had to ghost her !
was I wrong in your opinion?

[NurseBexy]

No, I don't believe you did anything wrong, not in the way that you explained it... Other than knowingly having sex with a crazy chick with a negative attitude. However, from how you describe this individual, I'm guessing that at one point in the evening, you may have said something that she interpreted as "potential boyfriend talk." Or she is delusional, but probably the 1st. My suggestion, that if ever in this situation again, you clarify that it's the lack of compatibility between the two of you as the reason for not wanting to pursue a relationship, as opposed to you just not able to be successful in one. It sounds to me like you allowed her to entertain the idea of being "emotionally damaged" and she felt that given the chance, she could "fix" you. Not confirming a theory isn't the same as downright denying it, and in the fix-it-female-psyche, she likely felt that she had figured you out and was looking forward to the challenge of breaking down your walls.

[Alan180188]

@NurseBexy kinda agree with you, and I took my lesson, from now on no matter how hard it might be for the girl and even if she will be welling to hurt her self, I'm gonna finish it, no second chances no matter what !

[aaronbw]

It's not the worst thing in the world but it's highly agitating.

I once met a very attractive woman last month who was downright amazing. We were pretty compatible and wanted to try dating. I managed to schedule off work one evening, made a reservation at what she said was her favorite place to eat (for a simple first date) got ready and showed up. I winded up looking like an idiot because she never showed and I got pissed and went to a bar instead. Saw her two weeks later at the same damn restaurant with someone else. I wanted so bad to just walk past and say "Oh hey! you stood me up the other night." But whatever, wasn't worth it.

[Anonymous]

Babygirl, please please please stop sleeping with these men that don’t deserve your body! You are a queen and you should treat yourself like one! I’m speaking from experience, sometimes girls get horny too but trust me, guys behave better and have more respect for you when you make them wait (however long you want, just don’t do it on the first date). These guys aren’t worth giving your body to if they can ghost you that easily. PLUS you getting upset with the new guy leaving you on read is totally understandable! That’s disrespectful, I’d get upset too, just confront him about it and if he continues, cut him off. you don’t need him, bc all he’s gon a do is keep walking all over you! Guys put in effort for the girls that they want.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Ghosted and been ghosted before. I ghosted out of laziness, not wanting to explain why, or even deal with it. I got ghosted because she was cheating on her boyfriend and probably had the same reasons... I only found out why when a guy trying to be my friend invited me to his pre-marriage party to meet his fiance... yup, it was her. Yup, it was awkward.

[SkyeMind]

I've never been ghosted and I've never ghosted anyone. I believe it's immature and disrespectful and would feel horrible personally.

I know one guy did say I ghosted him but I don't think that several attempts (6 times) to not continue conversation and clear communication on why i don't want to, can be considered ghosting.

[averysweam]

Same thing happened to me, I was having something w this guy since November 2017, last time we had sex about 2 weeks ago. He seem really interested and nonstop calling me, he was very excited that day and we had sex that day. The day after he deleted me and never texted me again. I was really confused cause we had a long time building the relationship and he expressed me a lot of feelings he told me he was scared to tell me. But what can we us do, move on🤷🏻‍♀️

[ATuairiscean]

I have being ghosted and done ghosting - Yes it does impact dating - You are always going to carry your experience forward - Even though I say being ghosted hurts, sometimes it feels like the simplest way to leave it - One of those ones, no perfect answer and everyone is capable of ghosting.

[JDavid25]

I don't think I ever been ghosted when involved in a semi-real online relationship... And I ain't never ghost anybody.. Now I ahve been maybe interested in girls and they initially showed interest in me but slide out and never heard from them again.. SO in a way yeah I been ghosted..

[mikeygolfs]

If people ghost me, they have their reasons. I wish they didn't think ghosting was appropriate, because if someone wants to break contact with me, it is nice to have a little message knowing the person is okay but moving on and wants to break contact. that is completely understandable in my opinion.

[Bianca914]

yeah its happened to me too. usually it stems from insecurity on a guys part, like they dont have the balls to be a dependable companion. Or they can't express their feelings the way females can. Also, they have a superiority complex; like, they may not be good enough so they will ghost you to make you feel like you're not. Thats how I see it.

[NilsB]

I have a question of my own!
It was really hard because the person was really very friendly and nice to me.
The last message I got was a "good night" with many hearts and kissing smileys. Since then I never heard from her again. She reads my daily news, but there is no answer in sight.

[MindYourEyes]

Dating wise, friendship wise I’ve been ghosted a shit ton. But I’ve ghosted very rare times. Maybe 2 but for serious personal reasons. Not really because of them but me and I just don’t feel like explaining my shitty problems. XD Now I’m a ghost.

[CHARismatic110]

Yup. I've been ghosted. First time I really tried the whole online dating thing. I started to a guy and i thought we were really hitting things off. He was saying all the right things and making contact all the time. And then, he just stopped.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I've ghosted a few women I met online. I regret it.

[heyzeuspiece]

The only time I’ve ever ghosted was when the dude sent me a D-pick outta no where, he wouldn’t stop calling, wouldn’t stop texting and I barely knew him. I usually like to provide closure, but he was just creepy and annoying.

[GetzRekt]

Yes and yes. People come, people go, shit happens, life moves on. I tend to think of people as just passing through anyway. They will soon be replaced by someone else, that's how it goes.

[JimRSmith]

Not in a romantic sense, no. I've ghosted people I've known three times in my life, and each time, there was a damned good reason, and I've never regretted it.

[happyhippo]

I've ghosted people, actually only one person, cause he didn't take my words into account and kept with his bs behavior. After few days tho, I wrote him I don't wanna text with him, because he doesn't respect my wishes.