Have you ever been ghosted and the ghoster came back?

[Anonymous]

It seems like it's a permanent thing although I've read that a lot of guys who ghosted a girl would come back, but I don't hear a lot about girls who ghost and come back. Has that ever happened to anyone?

[Anonymous]

You want to know what ghosting is?

Its when a girl doesn't reply and then gets pissed off that she isn't getting any more messages and blocks the guy.

Thats like 99.9% of all ghosting.

So could we all just stop talking about and using the term ghosting? Because its just causing harm.

If you want to talk to someone then talk if you dont hear from someone for 5 minutes guess what? You aren't the centre of the fucking universe and maybe there are times when people need to do other things, like take a shit or goto work.

[Anonymous]

My ex keeps doing this to me.

He moved away and we didn’t talk for years.
He came back and we started talking and he said he missed me and wanted me back bla bla bla then blocked me/ghosted me.
Then I found out he actually had a girlfriend the whole time we had started talking again.

Anyway... ever since then every few months he will come back and contact me, ask to FaceTime me, asks me for nudes then he will block me again.

I’ve only replied once to ask wtf is going on and said I found him confusing. It’s been going on for 4 years now.

He’s also engaged now!!

People are assholes.

[Asker]

Why have you let him keep doing that to you?

[Opinion Owner]

Do you think it’s my fault he does this? Interesting... I have no idea!

[Cynicaldreamer]

Oh yeah, several times. I had one guy reappear after ghosting me for over TWO YEARS!
His excuse? He moved and didn't have a way to get ahold of me. Even though there's free wifi practically everywhere nowadays, phones, and other ways to stay in touch...

🤦‍♀️

Some people must think we're really stupid or desperate to believe such nonsense. If they do return, I treat them just like they treated me: I ignore them!

[David92506]

I've been ghosted a lot by women and only once did one come back. The reason she came back is that she lost her job and sold all of her jewelry to keep her alive. Now she was desperate and needed help. She never did apologize for ghosting in the first place. It seems to me ghosting is a common thing these days.

[Asker]

Sadly yes😒

[ManOnFire]

I actually am planning on writing a Take about this.

[Walt832]

I ghosted never come back to my friends or exgfs.

I had to do it because I wanted to be someone different.

I stayed on a spiritual temple. After 5 years I am back :). This time I am focused and building a business. I am glad I took that step.

[Anonymous]

Yes he came back... about 3x times. Months and months of nothing then he pops up. I’ve also ghosted guys and returned. Sometimes I have a change of heart.

[Asker]

Do you think people who were in a relationship for many months and then ghost the other person, are more likely to rethink it and come back? As opposed to people who were just dating for some weeks or a few months?

[Opinion Owner]

It varies with each individual. Based on MY experience, both have returned... guys I was seriously dating and casually dating. As for me when I ghost someone and returned it’s because of two reasons: (1) It wasn’t anything toxic like, “I ghost him because he was verbally/physically abusive” It has to be a small issue. (2) I got to know them and I actually did like them but the small issue made me ghost them. So if I ghosted a guy I was talking to for like two weeks, I probably won’t hit him up months later. Maybe those two factors plays a role for other people too.

[sheikalana]

I've been ghosted before and the ghoster always comes back after a few months.

[FishyNinja]

Yeah they did that twice. I confronted them about it one last time and then moved on with my life because i didn't want it to happen thrice.

[Blueeyes81]

I was ghosted on a dating app a few years ago. She messaged me after 2 weeks and said she'd been in the hospital. I have her the benefit of the doubt only to have her ghost me two days later.🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Good God!

[WesBrewer]

Nope, but If I was ghosted I wouldn't date the ghoster again.

[JakeS00]

Yes... it was awkward. If you’re going to leave then just go lol.

[Asker]

Were you guys together for some time before she ghosted you?

[JakeS00]

Yeah it was like 8 months but it wasn’t a relationship just an awkward on off friendship guess she didn’t have interest?

[Anonymous]

I suppose some girls do this but I just think when a woman is done with you there’s hardly any going back. On the other hand, why do men always do this? We find it baffling considering we wouldn’t.

[ManOnFire]

Women run more than do and don't go back probably out of shame, even if they do think about the other person.

The Horror of Ghosting ↗

[Eleni079]

Yes I was to met a girl on dating ap “single” when I get their he’s their her husband/boyfriend it happens twice.

[Tonita91996]

I've been there an done that you better not allow them to come back because all they are doing is wasting your time.

[icastambaugh]

they always come back... had one come back 10 years later beg and stalk until I gave in only for him to act the same way... move on

[Jltakk]

Pffft NO they never come back

[Ruenella_]

No..