Why my friends with benefits gets jealous when I innocently talk about other guys?

[Anonymous]

I have this friends with benefits relationship with a guy that I use to date. He's very young and wasn't ready for a committed relationship, so after a while we became friends with benefits. At the beginning he told me that I was free to meet other guys, but now something has changed. When I talk about other guys in a very innocent way, he is jealous and sometimes heeven insults them. Furthemore, when I told him that an older collegue of mine (which is a very ugly man, so it's not a threat for him) likes me and even send me messages, my friends with benefits told me: “tell him that he should not desire someone’s else woman, even the bible says that”.
I really don't understand, everything is just so confusing

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+1 y

He was the one who wanted to start this friends with benefits thing, so I don't understand this kind of behaviour

[Nubxei]

He's blurring the lines between friendship and relationship because of the 'benefits' involved. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. If you don't want him getting territorial over you then I'd recommend you clarify where you two stand because he's obviously way too insecure to approach you about how he feels and his more sincere intentions with you.

[lord_chilled]

The guys obviously falling for you and can't helo blurting these things out 😂😂😂.
I suppose most people are like that.. You can try to make it a purely physical thing, but if you fuck a person long enough, you will start to love that person. At least a little bit

[Anonymous]

well he likes you and gets jealous but he can't be committed to the relationship. That's a bit of a problem and it's actually something he should work on. if he gets jealous of other guys and just wants you for himself he should be serious about you and consider becoming your boyfriend

[litty]

People like to hear about themselves rather than others. I don't like being compared to my brother, my classmates, my uncle, an ex, a coworker, even if I'm better off than them because it's distasteful. My girlfriend say something reminded her of me I go gaga. If she say something reminded her of someone else the conversation ends for me.

[GreyEyedGuy]

Because it's obviously just a term used in an attempt to minimize one feeling trapped and committed but fails to alleviate the pain of attachment and sense of personal belonging. That's why he doesn't like it.

JEALOUSY

[Criptic]

He has feelings for you but doesn't want to admit or isn't ready to admit.

[skylimetoon]

why would you ever do that with a guy you used to date? never do that it's asking for trouble. I also recommend not talking to him. someone that can use the Bible for personal use instead of just saying his feelings isn't worth your time.

[DontStepOnTheCat]

you said it yourself he's very young. though his mind knows he doesn't want a relationship with you he still might not know how to digest his feelings. I've been there. nothing weird about his behavior. sounds like a smart man.

[Sha84]

obviously he thinks you and him are in hard relationship. set him straight that he is just a sex partner nothing more.

[happyfacebrown31]

he need to step up or shut up and stay in the friends with benefits lane if he not going to commit.

[genericname85]

cause it´s always a turn off to talk about other dudes xD even if you´re not even into her at all :P

[curious_guy_asking]

he is lost between friends livers and friends with benifits. its a bind which has created in years

[nojokecarmichael]

Seems like he likes you

[Midget_Hug]

So just don't discuss them with him

[Pizzalover101]

Cuz he mite want more from you

[ababa]

girl run as fast as you can

[Anonymous]

Because friends with benefits is a wrong thing.