How often should a guy text after first date?

[TMarissaWL]

I met up with my first Bumble guy Thursday and I was not 100% into him but we were definitely really compatible and he was very good looking

Anyways he texted me after the date saying he had a good time but didn't really seem super excited over text. I replied immediately thanking him for coming out. He texted me again this morning asking about something I was supposed to text him. Again, he did not seem super excited over text so I tried to lighten the mood a bit with ! and :) but he kinda just said have a nice day and left it at that. I replied immediately just like before

Anyways he texted me one last time 15 hours later but this time I purposely took 2 hours to reply and barely said anything.

I kind of can't shake the feeling that he's not really into me. I mean 15 hours between text messages? Is this normal after a first date or are all guys like this? Or is he not interested?

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+1 y

He texted me back saying that he has been seeing someone else and got into a relationship with her. He then just said "Nice talking"

Seriously...

[Telekinetic-Potato]

however often he responds. Stop freaking out.

Engage him with interesting conversation and show interest. Throw in some sexual innuendo if you see he's responding to you. You don't know if 15 hours later was his first opportunity to talk and reply right back to you. It's one thing to offset by maybe a minute or two but people live on their phones.

You could be on a group chat or playing a game on your phone or something. I reply right back to people all the time. If he's interested, that's not gonna be what hurts your chances.

What's gonna ruin your chances with this guy is if you have hours/days of conversations that don't go anywhere (meaning sexting, meetup plans or an interesting conversation)

[Gio-NL]

unleass he use caps it can be difficult to see someone's emotion in a text. And if he doesn't text again when you ignore for two hours can also mean he's a gentleman knowing your phones not glued to your hand and you've got other stuff to do. just ask if he wants to go out somewhere. Doesn't have to be a date but could be some festival thing. public with other people. to see if there's more chemistry

[Gio-NL]

first of all. he is a good guy thanking you for a nice evening. And no this doesn't mean he's just polite and dont like you. could also mean he really had a nice time. just take your time. What if he texted you like three times in 5 minutes... would that be something you like?

[TMarissaWL]

I see what you're saying but most guys literally explode my phone sooo I'm just so confused by this guy. I also noticed that he deleted me off his Bumble which is really weird

Lastly, he was really attractive: like over 6 feet, educated and something like 175 lbs sooo I think he has options

[Gio-NL]

forget about options. others dont mind. the deleting could mean some thing. just ask if he wants to go to some parc-party (or festival what i said), of he wants to go you know a little more.

[Gio-NL]

hm that's bad to hear the update. Guess the guy was "betting on multiple horses". Dont be sad about it too long. There are more nice and attractive guys.

[The_researcher]

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[Artificial Intelligence]

How Often Should You Text After the First Date?

You've been on a first date and you really like the person. You want to text them, but you don't want to seem clingy or desperate.

So, how often should you text after the first date?

Here's the thing: there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to texting after a first date. It depends on your relationship with the person, your level of interest, and the circumstances of your first date.

• If you're interested in seeing the person again, a good rule of thumb is to wait two to three days before texting. This gives you time to miss each other and to reflect on the date. It also gives the person time to miss you.
• If you're not sure if you're interested in seeing the person again, you can wait a few days and see how they respond to your texts. If they're responsive and seem interested, then you can continue texting. If they're not responsive or seem uninterested, then you might want to move on.

The most important thing is to be yourself. Don't try to play games or be someone you're not. Be honest about your feelings and take things at your own pace.

[Zbeddow77]

It's one of two things love, he's either really good at playing games and noticed you weren't 100% into him so he managed to keep you thinking about him even this long later through the texting thing, or, he could be like me in which I don't text anybody, I'm an old man when it comes to technology lol. I suggest you not read too much into it. if you don't act any different than before and he doesn't change his texting habbits, he's just bad at texting, just don't play any games back.

[imyihd]

Some guys like to text, some doesn't really care. Maybe he's playing hard to get. Maybe he's not that into you. You could take the initiative and talk to him, maybe he thinks you're not into him.

[Sha1911]

Lol some guys just don't mess around with that shit, but it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. 15 hours is a long time but maybe he was busy and forgot to text back, if he liked you, he'll ask you out again.

[OlderGuy965]

Oh my God! Stop texting already! Stop reading into text messages. Just fucking talk to him! Tell him to call you or talk in person! If you don't want him, ignore his texts. It's that fucking easy!

[OlderGuy965]

Maybe if you'd talked to him, instead of this texting bullshit, you would still have him.

[TMarissaWL]

I just can't get myself to do it... sorry. I just need to be sure that a guy is into me before I put myself out there

[TMarissaWL]

I did fuck myself over tho, you;re right

[Iron_Man]

I say once a night is fine sometimes that turns into a lot of texting back and forth for about 45 minutes

[thebest007]

stop being a little bitch, go get shum hoes

[TMarissaWL]

What?

[thebest007]

go chat up bitches

[thebest007]

you're too hung up on one girl

[thebest007]

you need to go talk to heaps if you want that one so you don't come off needy

[thebest007]

#wisdommuthafucka

[TMarissaWL]

What are you talking about I went on a date with a guy you dumb drunk

[thebest007]

who tf reads all that anyway

[nickg6]

i would suggest be yourself and not playing games

[Lumberman53]

A few times a week

[Anonymous]

very often