My girlfriend wants an open relationship? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

I personally don't like open relationship, I just don't like the idea of having two people in your life and loving them both at the same time, but my girlfriend spoke to me about this telling me that she doesn't see herself being with just one person (me) in the future and she was wondering if we could have an open relationship. I wanna yes because I wanna make her happy but I also want to say no because I just donrt support the idea of it and I don't know I think it's unfair in a way. To me a relationship is a two way thing and you're meant to only share your love with just one person and I don't think it would work well since I'm the type that gets jealous easily. I told her that I'm thinking about it and I still am. What do I do? I really don't want to upset her

[sgr1997]

Don't give in to something you don't want. Clearly you both expect different things. Pretty much from her saying she doesn't see a future with just you, that either means you say yes and if you guys last forever it also involves other people and you will always have to struggle with that, or you say no because that's not what you want and you guys break up. I personally tho k open relationships are bs, if one person wants it and the other doesn't it's only going to end in breakup no matter what

[Asker]

honestly if she's gonna dump me for saying no then I don't know what to say tbh lmao

[sgr1997]

Well from her saying she doesn't see a future with just one person, that's her already saying she's going to break up with you if you say no, maybe not immediately but eventually. But yeah if she dumps you for it, it just goes to show how little she does value her relationship with you only :/

[CSimms]

Well, whenever you want something & the other doesn't its not going to work. Its not enough love in the world for you to not have your needs met like you want your gfs. If she wants an open relationship & you don't just let her go on & have one with someone else who feels like she does. Its too many pep out there looking for someone like you. Stay tru to yourself & keep it moving. Just kno that you're the most important person in the world to U! ☺

[misswierdo]

She probably doesn't see a future with you but is scared that she might end up alone so this way she has a back up (you) and still an opportunity to find somebody else.

[Jager66]

maybe it would depend on what kind of open relationship she wants? Does she want other men or other women for example?

Realistically though it's probably the end of your relationship, unless you can handle another man cumming inside her, then her going home and cuddling up next to you.

Also be prepared for cuck jokes, just a heads up so you aren't hurt when it happens.
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[Asker]

LOL EXACTLY! I don't wanna be a Cuck ffs this is annoying

[Jager66]

lol, ya seriously!

If you said no, and she didn't want to break up, do you think she would just eventually cheat and lie about it?

[Asker]

*shrugs* who knows, if she did cheat and lie about it I wouldn't be surprised about it tbh

[Jager66]

hmm, that's a shitty position to be in, hope it works out what ever you do.

[Zaori]

Don't capitulate and agree to a relationship dynamic that'll make you miserable. If she wants an open relationship, that's on her. There are plenty of women that are monogamous, and if it takes finding one of them to make you happy... well, you do what you've gotta do.

[MargaritaPeach]

I would just tell her that you aren't interested in that, and if she decides that's what she needs, then you wish her the best of luck and end things on good terms. Then walk away with your dignity intact.

[deraz24]

If you dont agree with it let her know. people like what they like but I think a relationship should be b/t two people. Plus y'all need to be on the same page

[tzdc21]

Dump her. She wants to go down that route, let her do it by herself and cut yourself free and fmd yourself a woman who's willing to commit to you and you alone

[Lauraxco]

Just tell her the truth. If you lie, you'll regret your decision and most likely the relationship will end sooner.

[mj97l]

if you really aren't comofrtabke with it, she should understand if she truly loves you. If she doesn't, she's not worth it

[Chicnala]

If u don't like it, it's best that you tell her and see the way forward.

[ClassyMe]

You deserve so much better. Break up with her immediately

[Anemone978]

Say no if she doesn't like it move on

[Anonymous]

Say no. It'll ruin things

[marievee]

You deserve better.