I am cheating on my boyfriend with TWO GUYS?

[Anonymous]

I am three timing and I want to quit due to stress and guilt. I want to be exclusive only to my boyfriend. How can I detach myself from those 2 sidedishes? I have accidentally established commitment with both of them.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

You should tell your boyfriend AFTER leaving the other two guys. You're a despicable woman for doing that to another human being. Wasting time and trust both at the same time. The thing is, all of it was YOUR choice. Makes it worse to be honest. Your boyfriend NEEDS to know. You can't NOT tell him. At least give him that

[Asker]

My boyfriend is a Marine. When he got off ship to go to the bar with friends, his phone was turned off shortly after. This was why I thought he was hooking up with girls or soliciting prostitutes. He never turned off his phone before when he was drinking. This misunderstanding encouraged me to cheat with 2 other military men I found over the internet. Unfortunately, I have developed feelings for them and I now want to get rid of both of them so I could get rid of the guilt.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Just because he had his phone off you thought he was cheating on you? That's some amazing logic. You did something rash based on very little evidence and a big false assumption. Whatever you do you have to TELL HIM. If you do nothing else, you must tell him what you did.

[Asker]

Marines solicit prostitutes, especially after one month on a ship without physical release. Additionally, my boyfriend is waiting for me until marriage, so he needs that sort of release. So I thought maybe that's why he's hooking up with girls in the bar. But he had no reception in the ship, which was why I could not reach him later during that night.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Whatever you say

[qwert1234]

" I have accidentally established commitment with both of them."
Ya, sure you did.

Anyways, can't you just break up with those 2? I mean, if you really loved your guy, you would not end up here, but since it's happening, why not do the obvious and leave those 2 guys?

[Asker]

I am planning on telling both of those guys the truth and apologize for leading them on. The reason why I cheated was because my boyfriend was behaving strangely and did not receive my messages during midnight. I thought he was soliciting prostitutes or hooking up after one month on the ship without any physical release. But he actually got back on ship and did not have any wifi reception, which was why the misunderstanding occured.

[qwert1234]

There's no misunderstanding as you didn't give him a chance to explain himself.
You didn't misunderstood anything - you assumed them.

Anyways, the time to break up with those 2 is NOW, as in get off GAG and tell them NOW.
Or maybe you need to break up with all 3 guys.

[enlightenmexo]

Leave all 3. You're obviously missing something from each of those relationships. If any one of the relationships were fulfilling, you'd be with that person only. I suggest you be single and do some soul searching before you get into anything else.

[Asker]

I cheated because of a misunderstanding. I thought my boyfriend was cheating with a prostitute, that was why I decided to retaliate by finding those 2 guys.

[Mavet]

Sounds like all you're doing is trying to justify being such a bad person. Accept it, he's too good for you and leave all of them.

[Asker]

@Mavet No. I was sorta faithful up until the misunderstanding. I was hesitating and feeling extremely bad when I signed up on a dating site and parade as a single person.

[Mavet]

@Asker Again, making excuses for yourself. Start taking responsibility for your actions, you're not a child to say "I did it because of this or that." You did it because you had a choice to do it. You were rash and jumped to conclusions about your S/Os actions. In life making assumptions is only good science. With people, you can't just assume. It doesn't matter about your "misunderstanding" you didn't trust him as a person because his phone was off, so you gave him multiple reasons why you shouldn't be trusted. You're not a small child. Grow up and take responsibility.

[Asker]

@Mavet I thought he was cheating and I felt horrible. I invested all my time into him, and trusted him. I know the feeling of betrayal, and now that I experienced this feeling, I want to get rid of those 2 guys. Those two guys were not worth it. Cheap love is not worth breaching in the place of true love. My boyfriend gave me true love and I am a horrible person for breaching his trust. I still want to stay with him, but I don't want to tell him because, frankly, what good will it do? If he chooses to stay with me, things will never be the same. If I break up with those 2 sidedishes, I can move on and never do the same thing again.

[Mavet]

Do whatever you want. Things are never going to be the same either way. You can't have your cake and eat it too. The good it would do is not waste his time with you anymore. He gave love to the wrong person. It might sound bad, but it's the truth.

[RJGraveyTrain]

"Accidentally."

No, it was intentional. You don't do that by accident. I suggest you just be upfront with everyone in that clusterfuck of yours.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice and being helpful instead of trolling or throwing emotionally charged insults. I intend to tell those 2 guys I have a boyfriend and why I lead them on before breaking things off with them. However, I don't see why I should tell my boyfriend that I cheated. I don't want to make things much harsher for him on deployment and our relationship will never be the same if he decides to give me a chance. If I ditch these 2 sidedishes, and remain faithful to him from thereon, I don't see what is the point of telling him.

What happened was that one decided to commit to me out of nowhere ehile one asked me to be his girlfriend.

[RJGraveyTrain]

You should tell him because you broke the confines of a monogamous relationship, subsequently you need to give him the ample opportunity to choose whether or not he wants to continue being in a relationship with you. What you did, while I read your reasoning, was undeniably selfish and wrong. In my opinion if you betray someone you have to make it right: and you'd be making it right by being honest with this person and letting them choose if they want to forgive you.

[Anonymous]

oh for the love of God by a dildo or vibrator like a normal horny chick.

[TheMoroccangirl]

Well I hope he finds out and breaks up with you, problem solved.
You clearly don't deserve him.

[Asker]

I don't see how that resolves anything. I am willing to give up being unfaithful and to dedicate to this guy I love dearly. I have learned not to make assumptions or jump to conclusions.

[TheMoroccangirl]

I don't care. I just think this is very unfair towards him and he deserves a much better girl than you.

[Asker]

But he says I am his future wife, bride and mother of his children. He loves me so much and he said it would tear him apart if I broke up with hi.

[TheMoroccangirl]

Tell him what you've fucking done and he'll be the one who will lose respect for you and take his words back.

[DonkeyRick69]

Ewww good your gross. I'd vomitt if I was dipping my laddle into a pot filled with two other dude's soup.

[Asker]

I'm a virgin. I never had sex with those 2 guys. People are accusing me for making assumptions while they are openly doing the same. This is hypocritical. This is hardly constructive criticism at all. Just trolling or making vulgar/offensive comments because they do not agree with my actions.

[DonkeyRick69]

Oh my bad. Your question was unclear. Establish the one you want to date and ignore those telling stories.

[AbleLearner]

It's okay. I believe you.

Look, just pick which ever guy your' most serious about and stick with him. Let the other two know you got confused or something, and just dump them.

[DonkeyRick69]

@AbleLearner loyalty is key

[tylermason]

how do you accidentally establish commitment with 2 guys?

[Asker]

One committed to me out of absolutely nowhere. And the second one asked me to be his girlfriend.

[tylermason]

Oh i see and let me guess, you accidentally accepted both of their requests?

[Asker]

I didn't think they were serious about it or faithful.

[disgustingweebtrash]

Sloots gonna be sloots. You accidentally established commitment? Yeah sure.

[Asker]

One asked me to be his girlfriend while the other decided to commit to me out of nowhere. So there you have it. I honestly doubt that they were faithful anyway.

[disgustingweebtrash]

haha so you're blaming them for asking you and not yourself for accepting?

[Asker]

I thought they were joking and not faithful about it anyway.

[Anonymous]

You tell him you cheated, then break up with him because you do not deserve him and you do not trust him and cheat over a misunderstanding.

You worthless whore.

[Asker]

I will take the chance seriously if he gives it to me. I won't break up to please random people online. I'm not a whore if I never slept with them and both of them were neither serious or faithful.

[Anonymous]

Leave the 2 guys and discuss the issues with your boyfriend and then commonly decide what's the best for both of you.

[Asker]

It was a misunderstanding that lead to cheating. I was sorta faithful initially. I thought he was soliciting a prostitute after he got off the ship, which was why I decided to retaliate by getting with two guys. I ended up developing feelings for these two but decided it's enough. The reason why I had these 2 sidedishes was also because I wanted backup in case he cheated and I were to leave him.

[Opinion Owner]

You better be truthful to them, they did nothing to deserve lies. It hurts, but it's the right thing to do.

[Asker]

Additionally, I cheated because I thought all guys cheat. I have a messed up way of thinking, that's for sure. But I absolutely hate it when guys ask for commitment and they could not keep their promise. I wish guys would just be honest and say they're not looking for anything serious. And I respect that.

[Naydyonov]

You don't, you for once in your miserable life do something good and break up with your boyfriend.

[Asker]

I don't want to break up with him over a simple misunderstanding. And I finally realised how horrible it genuinely is to betray somebody who trusts you.

[Naydyonov]

No. He is the one who kept his 2 oaths, oath to serve his country and to remain faithful to you.

It was your decision. YOU FUCKED UP.
If you don't leave him or at least tell him you're not only a bad person, but you're weak and pathetic.

[Asker]

What can I do with the other two guys who are also in the military? I thought military guys are promiscuous, based on my ex, which was why I was quick to jump to conclusions. But I regret doing that. I cannot break up with him now. He is deployed at the moment and I don't want to make things more harder than it is for him.

[Naydyonov]

If I found out 10 years down the line I'd get rid of you.

[AbleLearner]

TJR all the way!

Don't feel guilty! You helped those other guys out! They needed to get laid!

[nbbn5]

Just leave them both
And why you cheated?, sorry to say but he deserves better than you

[Asker]

A misunderstanding lead me to believe he was seeing prostitutes behind my back. I cheated with two different guys to retaliate.

[nbbn5]

Okay but still misunderstanding was done by you
And just leave them both and see what was wrong between you guys that why there was a misunderstanding

[Asker]

He's a Marine and he turned off his phone while he was at a bar with friends. That's why I thought he was soliciting prostitutes with a group of friends. But it turns out that he got back on ship by midnight and the ship had no reception. I felt terrible and wanted to retaliate by getting as many guys as possible. These two guys are also military men. How can I leave both these two people?

[nbbn5]

If they don't know about your boyfriend then it's bad so just tell them you are leaving and maybe tell the truth. It they will take this not In a good way and you should not just assume things this shows you are insecure of loosing him and thinking too much due to this
And you are above 18 years you should have that much of maturity that you tackle some things in a good manner

[nbbn5]

But he will be very upset
And I don't wanna scare you but maybe he will break up you now, cheating hurts very much

[nbbn5]

Up**with** you

[Asker]

Yeah. I was thinking of telling the two that I have a boyfriend and tell them why I lead them on in the first place. I will be honest with those two guys and apologise. But I highly doubt they were faithful anyway. I never want to cheat again. I was three timing and a horrible person.

[nbbn5]

At least you learned something from this
And if they were less faithfully with you it may hurt them less but still it will piss them off
Just do some thinking about yourself and what you want exactly as clearly you are not fully healthy for a relationship
And this is all coming from a 17 yr old guy who is single all his life till now so I mean to say you must be far experienced than me use that and let your insecurities and lack of trust out

[nbbn5]

You did wrong
But now just be calm

[Anonymous]

You quit it with your boyfriend. Then let them all fuck you. Problem solved. You are not going to tell your boyfriend that you cheated on him anyway so...

[Asker]

What's the point of telling him? It's completely pointless. If I promise to never cheat again and ditch these two guys, I don't see what's the problem with that.

[Opinion Owner]

whats the point in being guilty when you actually aren't. You play the victim here but it's your boyfriend. Problem is to say it out straight you will continue as hoe excuse me for my words

[NosTha]

accidentally? 😂😂 sorry... tell them that the fun is over and you want to get serius but without them

[haleyvires420]

tell them to fuck off

[tomd93]

Just kys

[Asker]

Nah.

[Asker]

Constructive criticism and advice will make you look more of an adult.

#triggered

[tomd93]

Girl with no morals tries to teach people how to act like an adult. Dafuq

[Asker]

And clearly a person who tells someone to commit suicide has morals. Someone who thinks with emotion rather than logic to give constructive criticism.

[tomd93]

Haha

[Asker]

The problem is still there if you kill yourself. I'd rather face the problem and resolve it head on instead of being a pussy and killing myself over some illogical idiot over the net that possesses little significant value to me.

[activemyhrt]

sounds like a good set up

[Anonymous]

that is so damn hot

[Asker]

You a cuck or something o. o?

[Opinion Owner]

kinda but I just love women who love to fuck and embrace it

[Lightnnning]

You need therapy

[K1NGxDANNY]

Sloots gon sloots

[Anonymous]

tell him