Why do guys love it when girls get jealous?

[Anonymous]

Why do men like when girls are jealous about other girls they're taking to? A guy I like tells me he is talking to this girl all the time and he asks me if I'm jealous

[Anonymous]

Oh YES, for sure, but these guys are not mature or very caring about the girls they are doing this to. Some girls do the same with guys. It is an ego boost to have the other be jealous. It puts the other on the defensive too, which gives greater power over them. My brother used to do this in order to keep his girl “down” and focused on the other women and not on him, so he could get away with things he wouldn’t normally be able to. He said women are competitive, so making them compete for his attentions was the way to get more for less. When they are focused on out-competing the other girls, they don’t realize how little they are getting back from him.

[EpicDweeb]

I cannot relate to this sentiment I'm afraid. I never wanted to make my girl anxious or jealous. That wouldn't have been loving of me :/ I guess guys just want to know their girl wants them so they make them jealous to make sure? That would be my best guess. I would imagine it's a kind of insecurity. People have little tests to see if their partner is loyal and really does want to be with them. And that's one of them. I never really doubted my GF's loyalty or love for me so that wasn't an issue... even if it were I don't think that'd be a good way to go about it... so I guess, again I can only really speculate.

[karahiri]

i think it makes them feel wanted... like... you'll drop your cool facade and get jealous because you really want him. granted, not all guys are like this. the dude you're talking to sounds immature as fuck.

[i_am_a_nerd]

maybe because guys are stupid or they want to see do we get paniced or something or maybe because they think we'll fear she'll reach him first and hope we make a move in haste

[JustAnotherStranger]

because, the feeling of being wanted is so good! i also like jealous type guys, it shows that your partner cares about you a lot. i am also jealous type.

[Logorithim]

What SteveFoxKing said. People also want to be wanted, and to some, jealousy indicates that. I think jealousy and these sorts of games are a waste of time.

[Nihilego]

Agreed, waste of time. His seeking out her jealousy sounds childish.

[AngusBigMac]

A number of men and women use jealousy to measure how much the risk of a lost relationship would affect their s/o, and use that as a metric for s/o's love for them. They also use jealousy as a show of power, unveiling that they have other options than (the royal) "you".

HOWEVER, a smaller number of people would use jealousy as a comfort, as something that tells them that their current s/o wants them and is afraid of losing them. To some degree it can show faithfulness and appreciation.

[Wolframium]

Because this way, I observe direct evidence, that the girl actually cares about me. Which…might happened to me, but it’s so long ago, it’s no more relevant.
Oh, look. According to someone random on the internet, I’m insecure scumbag. Well, I’m sometimes asshole, so scumbag isn’t that far off, and insecure…no, not really, I just know, by observing the evidence, that girls don’t give a flying fuck about me. :-) Or at least this is what I saw on Tinder, but that might be because I haven’t had payed account.

[DarthLadyKiller]

To test your feelings for them. Some guys do it to be mean and play games with you and others do it because they are insecure. Guys like to feel like they matter but maybe your relationship is not very good if he is acting like this. Have it out with him

[Anonymous]

What wolframium mentioned about it being direct evidence that a girl cared is a common misconception. The reason is due to jealousy, and the interpretation of it's meaning all coming from the ego (false self). Therefore jealousy, and liking it are all ego to ego, therefore all ultimately meaningless.

A person that had gone beyond the ego, and ''dissolved'' it would not be concerned about jealousy, or interpretate it as anything positive.

[SteveFoxKing]

He wants you to make the move and ask him out. He doesn't want to make the move on you. If he knows you like him, he is trying to see how far you will go for him. Girls do the same to guys, I've been on that end of it so I know they do.

[Nihilego]

I don't "like" it, per say, but it is nice to know you are cared for.
However, this sounds like childish behavior from him. That, or he gets off on women's jealousy.

[Uhhjsshshdh]

Easy, it makes the guy feel more empowered. It makes him feel that you like him even MORE and value him more because you're jealous.

[Kamiink09]

So I'm reading through these and it makes me wonder if the guy I like (he claims to like me back) makes comments about my friends to make me jealous, or if he's really that big of a jerk lol. If he made a sexual comment toward my friend with me next to him, would he do that to feel empowered also?

[Uhhjsshshdh]

@Kamiink09 If you let it slide he might. But doing something like that so blatant is pretty scummy. Like I thought it was more subtle ways to make you jealous. If he does something like that you should tell him you're seriously pissed at him and not let it slide.

Then you'll be the one empowered, and he'll learn to treat you better.

That kinda behaviour isn't cool from him.

[Kamiink09]

I did mention it to him and he apologized and said "you didn't say anything." But awhile ago I know I had left the table another time at the bar and he looked at my different friend and said "katie just got sexier." (Im katie lol). So he's done that before. I guess I really just don't get why a guy would do that honestly.

[orangeinme]

It's a way to feel validated and worth something. He's hoping your feel he's worth getting jealous over. It's a shitty way to get that kind of attention but there it is.

[daniel_shalome]

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[Asker]

What do u mean we like a little amount of possessiveness

[AlwaysBelieving]

Couldn't tell you, I don't. In fact, if I talk to another gal in front of her (my s/o), and she feels that either I or the other gal is flirting, she'd give me a "code" (either phrase or action) saying that she's jealous.

[Dalesmith]

cuz getting jealous is proof of how much you like the guy, if you are not jealous then it means that you don't care much about him or it doesn't matter to you no matter what he does

[mdi1292]

Cause it shows you care about them and guys really want or need to feel that

[Naklin]

I don't like when women get jealous, I mean I'm just talking, chill.

[anoddtod]

Because girls watch soap operas and think that life is boring unless it's a Jerry Springer episode.

[ryanmcgaffic]

I personally hate jealousy. I have been the jealous one, the girl has been jealous... either way it never ends well

[Unhappypot]

Well, maybe he is just a fool, or tries to see how interested on him you are (I would not use that system, but...)

[Anonymous]

Because people think that jealousy means loving that person

[Anonymous]

It shows that you care about us so it can't hurt as long as you dont exagerate with it.

[Dude55]

No, in MHO it's fucking misery