Guys, My boyfriend masturbates thinking about me everynight. Does it mean his love is fake?

[Anonymous]

[GingerGuy]

No, how do you come to that conclusion? It may or may not be, but his masturbation has nothing to do with it. Only thing that "says" or "means" is he's attracted to you, either physically or otherwise and it excites him enough to masturbate. You could ask him what exactly he thinks about you when he's doing it. If it's visual (your body), that doesn't necessarily "mean" anything as far as his love for you. It just means he finds you very attractive (a good thing) and guys are visual. Visual for guys is the equivalent of mental stimulation for you women. It's not just looking or the image, it totally can turn us on and get us in the mood for sex (horny).

[ivaneh]

Well, that's a great example of backwards logic.

It probably means exactly the opposite, that he craves you. And why are you not having sex?

[Asker]

He is working abroad

[Müsli]

Lol so in a long distance relationship, if he masturbates thinking of you, what makes you think the love is fake? I can't understand the logic. What do you want him to do instead? Have sex with different woman or masturbate to different woman? How is that true love?

He loves you and craves you. He thinks about you. I'm frustratingly speechless. Please think more logically

[ivaneh]

Yeah, what Müsli said.

I'd also like to add that you may be too insecure about this relationship or are trying to get out of it. Because I don't know how else anyone can try to make the assumption that you are making.

Either way, your man is masturbating to the thought of you. That sort of intensifies his feelings for you, especially having in mind the distance. So that's insecurity dealt with.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Seriously what the fuck? He only thinks of you so clearly he doesn't love you? I'm sorry but that's fucking stupid. NO! Let me repeat that, NO! NO NO NO NO NO! Jesus fucking Christ. Its like women are desperate to be miserable, desperate to be victims. Stop with the drama, clearly their is no way you can possible come to that conclusion in a rational manner. So NO! You are wrong that is stupid and you should feel bad about that. Is their anything a man can do to make you not think the absolute worse in him? He only thinks of you and some how you have taken that to believe that he is faking his feelings for you? That's bullshit and quite frankly that's just a horrible thing to think about your boyfriend. Clearly he cares about you more then you do him. Despicable.

[ifeideas]

Calm down!

[hellionthesagereborn]

@ifeideas I am calm, but if I just write it as mundane then I don't know if the message will sink in. Its really fucking stupid, I mean that's just a fact. what does a guy have to do to have a woman not constantly doubt him? Its pretty fucking absurd. If he doesn't think about her he doesn't love her, if he thinks about her he doesn't love her, if he finds her sexually attractive he doesn't love her, if he doesn't he doesn't love her. This is just fucking annoying and people need to start calling women out on their solipsistic self obsession and insecurities.

[ifeideas]

I understand you and I got your point. Our women can be funnier at time. The way they think can be out of point. Really!

[hellionthesagereborn]

@ifeideas Yeah, that's the problem. After responding to so many of these calm and rationally I figured maybe if I used social shaming the point would stick finally (doubt it). At some point you just have to state it bluntly and hope it shakes them out of their fixation.

[ifeideas]

Hahaha 😂 😂 😂

[memyselfandiamhere]

What is this question...

This doesn't mean anything
Mastrubating is a natural thing unrelated to love or whatsoever

[Dinnye001]

Why the fuck would you think that? Be happy that he faps to you and not porn.

[bigbang101]

Don't worry he loves you... otherwise he would have sex with other women or porn. and that also shows that he's telling you indirectly that he doesn't think of other women, as well...

[Winter444]

Yeah. He probably hates you. That's what I do when I masturbate.

[darkpsycer]

The though of you is enough to cause him to want to cum, that means he is attracted to you

[thegr8lion]

It means he is not gay and every boyfriend does that...

[Seppelson]

No it means he loves you. All the other guys masturbate to porn

[fuqmean]

No he just needs to almost every guy I know does at least once a day sometimes up to 8 a day

[Jo1991]

Depends. Are you guys having sex regularly?

[Asker]

never

[Jo1991]

Then it's normal. Clearly he finds you sexy and needs to satisfy his desire to be with you. Maybe talk to him about having sex and see what he says. Unless you're holding on for marriage?

[kingmstt]

No he loves you more than ever

[Icybaconman]

Probebly thinks you are just hot.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

...
Anyone have an aspirin?

[Redshadow3094]

No. It means he's not getting enough (|).

[lorenzot]

He's just telling you he is thinking about you!

[Anonymous]

It's cute you think that

[Anonymous]

You really turn him on I guess

[Anonymous]

Probably.