Is being a tease a turn off for guys?

[alwaysmakingmistakes]

I’ve been dating someone for 4 months now. We haven’t spoken about sex yet, so I don’t know if he’s a virgin or not, but I am. I send him pictures of my butt (with boy shorts on) and pictures of me in a shower towel. He says I’m a tease and sometime says “you should take that off”. Although, he doesn’t directly tell me “send nudes”, I don’t want to annoy him by being a “tease”. I also don’t want to send nudes because that’s not something I am comfortable with doing or will ever do. What do guys think?

[Anonymous]

That is exactly what is happening to me. I like this guy and I feel he likes me too but I dont want things fast with him, as he may be expecting I want to get to know him, a bit more, and enjoy his company, what is the rush to get laid with guys so fast why can't guys wait like some women wait. Please let us get to know you, enjoy your company when we hang out, everything in due time.

This guy we had alreayd had some physical contact in our 2 dates so far, in both dates we had made out super nicely, and in the last date he kissed my neck and that was such a turn on for me and I told him that.

I told him that I enjoy his kissing and he kissing my neck. In our second date he rubbed my legs as we have our normal conversation and also I let him do taht I like that. After our second date over text, he even told me he masterbated for me cause he remember the way I smell and he remember him rubbing my legs.

Then he asked me if I could send him a picture of my boobies. I of course, did not send him anything, sorry but i was not comfortable doing it. The only photo I did send him, was one with my boobies but with a bra on it and it was not even a full picture of my bra, it was only one boobie with the bra on it. The next day he asked me over text if I could send him a full boobie pic but I let him waiting cause I did not send him anything and so far I haven't sent him anything.

He does want to get naughty with me, and get laid bt Im hesitant to go to that phase but I dont want him to loose interest of me, because I like him and for me it has been so hard for so many years to finally meet someone who really is interest in me and seems he likes me, that I dont want to loose him but I dont want to give in easily either.

You know Im a V and he knows it and he told me on our second date he did not mind, but being a V is what still makes me hesitant to be intimate with him, im a little scare to go to that unexplored territory and unknown territory for me for like my entire life, I dont know how I will behave or react when the moment comes, if i act like a fool or i be acting stupid or what or I dont know if i be even comfortable to get naked in front of him as we had never seen eahc other naked bodies before ever. There are many factors that for me is refraining me to tell him YES soon.
I dont mind the making out, cuddles, and kisses or if I explore his body first, with him but I know he will like to go more than that.

What to do? Any suggestions?

[alwaysmakingmistakes]

I think that if he likes you, he will respect what you’re comfortable with. I know for me I’m not comfortable sending naked pictures even if it is on snapchat and it goes away. Only because it’s too soon and that ruins the fun. If he is going to see my naked it’s going to be in person and when I’m ready. But it’s also not fair to allow him to wait for so long when he could be with someone who takes it all off on the first date. But I believe that if someone cares for you, they are willing to go at your pace even if that means they’re sacrificing a part of themselves. In your case I would tell him you are not comfortable with doing that and see how he responds. He should respect you. Also keep in mind that men are very visual beings so maybe sext him and tell him how you feel about him or what you want to do with him instead of an actual picture.

[Opinion Owner]

Im afraid that he may loose interest

[Opinion Owner]

I mean I still want to contact him and communicate and why not , going out again like 2 weeks ago, but of course if we go out again on a 3rd date he will expect a more intimate encounter this time between him and me, especially when we are 2 grown adult people. and we are kind of know each other just a little more.
I love making out with him and he knows it. But I dont want to ruin what we have so far. after we had sex if I decide to have sex with him anyway. He believes as he texted me this "I know you want to show me things". He knows I like him since months ago and also for my insistence of arranging to meet him before this 2nd date took place (But he also wanted to meet him, he can't deny that, even if he had never admitted ot me he likes me). So he may assume I want more with him but Im a bit confused what step to take now with him. I even invited to his meal at our 2nd date.

I want to see him again maybe for movies this time but I dont even know how to ask him out

[Opinion Owner]

because i know 3rda date will mean to him some intimate encounter at a motel or I dont know where.

[Opinion Owner]

So what do u think

[Sabretooth]

not always

[Keylogger]

no sht you're virgin you also sound like one from what i've been reading.

Noticed some points in your behaviour
1. Insecure
2. Still like a kid
3. Time to grow up.
4. Start taking things like an adult.
5. you're grown woman, "shy of showing a boobie" boohoo
6. grow up

[Opinion Owner]

@Keylogger I did not know taht even if you are a grown up woman showing urself naked was part of the requirements. Not all women were born and raised the same. Being naked or exposing naked parts of your body to the public or to guys is not being an adult, is how you are comfortabble or not comfortable in ur skin to do it, But today society is so liberal and open that you teenagers and Young people do nto care much about this anymore, decor.

[Opinion Owner]

@Keylogger Just because i dont like to expose my boobies do not make me less of a adult woman. You are mistaken

[Sabretooth]

Agreed

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[Anonymous]

Lol as a virgin we'll always be called a tease. Guys love it because it's fun and exciting but after a while they get resentful.

So if I were you I wouldn't sex unless you're planning one day in the future to have sex

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for mho 😊

[Opinion Owner]

And oops I meant to wouldn't sext

[Goodwifie]

I tease my husband all the time with naughty text messages and he loves it.

[Nice_Guy_Last]

Yes and no. A: each guy is different. Some guys get off on being teased, some guys hate it. Usually, it's a matter of confidence vs. insecurity.

I'd say teasing does better when there can be no follow through, such as in public. When there's no way to alleviate the tension it creates, guys are more likely to allow that frustration to build into a storm of sexual desire to be taken out whenever they deem possible. Do it like this when you two are out, and the moment you two get privacy, he'll be so pent up, you won't have a moment to prepare yourself.

That said, not allowing him to follow through will sour the tension into actual frustration. If all of that teasing leads to him having to find another outlet, he'll resent the teasing.

Basically, if you want to get some later on, go for it. If not, don't tease the poor guy.

[Nice_Guy_Last]

Thanks for MHO!

[freakyzeaky]

Teasing is one of the best ways to flirt if done right. He is being impatient. I don't blame him, but you will eventually need to give him some release if you plan on keep sending him sexy photos and flirting. Even if you don't want to have PIV sex yet, you could still make out with him, pleasure him with your hand, or give him a BJ (if that is what YOU want to do).

Just bear in mind that teasing with no plans of taking things further is just torturing the poor guy, especially if he really likes you and you guys are an item.

[ManOnFire]

A little teasing at first is fun, but when that's ALL you're doing it becomes irritating and can feel like the girl is just playing you. I want to know at some point if we're going to start getting intimate.

[Billlewis]

Oh my God, no! I absolutely love women who tease and frustrate me relentlessly, especially if you're dating a guy whom you're having sex with regularly.

When you tell me in vivid detail about your intimate sexual encounters with him, it just drives me absolutely crazy with jealous excitement!

[phixio]

Teasing is fine, but I'd you're leaving him with Blue Balls for 4 months straight, if so I can see how he might be asking for something more. Teasing is awesome to a certain point, but as a man, one of the worst things is having pain for an hour in your nutters that doesn't go away because you got teased and left to fend for yourself.

[COCOCHANEL]

i did a poll on here awhile back and some guys said blueballs isn't painful while others claimed it was

[englisc]

@COCOCHANEL Yeah, it's bullshit.

[phixio]

It's not fun, also depends on how long you've been teased for. Once I couldn't even have sex because it hurt so much after like 2 hours of her casually messing with me lol.

[_spelledout]

I think you need to have this talk with him after 4 months. He's being polite. He wants to ask you to send nudes. And he is. "take it off". But he's not pressuring you. He's a good man. Especially after 4 months. Let him know that if you were into that, you might send a nude, but you're not. If he understands, he'll expect to get none. And will appreciate what you do send all the more. If you don't let him know, adventually, it will lead to an issue. Just be honest with him.

[englisc]

It's a turn on for a while, but past a certain point it just becomes frustrating instead which is when it becomes a turn off.

[Lachito12]

It can be fun at first but it’s so incredibly frustrating after a while. I’d rather just know very little or actually have a phone sex session if that’s what you’re getting at. But teasing with pictures especially in a long distance situation just becomes frustratingly annoying. It feels like you’re poking fun and not really flirting or teasing at a certain point.

[outsidecurve]

You're pushing it. Teasing is only fun if he believes something will eventually happen. If you dangle the carrot for too long, he will seek the carrot elsewhere.

[Nivinxus]

Being a tease is fun every once in a while. But when you do it all the time, well, it either gets boring or annoying.

[sawno]

Extreme turn on, being kept horny and teased relentless is a kink of mine.

[BradA]

There we go. Someone agrees with me.

[harvest]

Teasing is THE BEST part of datin with someone! Hands down :D

[dmgstarfleet]

Exciting as a prelude. If no payoff then gets old fast. Think of another way of saying "Azure Spheres" and you'll get my drift

[_Atreides]

a little teasing whether verbal or pics can be fun and at least you're doing this while dating too.

[crswalkerr]

At the start it can be fun. But turning it into hard-to-get teasing is frustrating and usually doesn't end well.

[soleil2666]

Dating for 4 months and you guys haven't had sex yet - at the age of TWENTY THREE?
Wow, I though 4 month relationship with no sex end at 16...

[vittle1999]

Teasing is fine. It will make him wait to find out what lies beneath.

[Anonymous]

You don't have to send nudes or have sex not to be a tease. As long as you relieve him it's all good. So if you want, just tell him to take it out and you'll take care of him and give him a nice, explosive release.

[UsernameMadness]

Don't send nudes, teasing is better, especially if you didn't do the dirty yet. What's holding him up anyway? Is he gay? Or do you just not find him attractive?

[Nik1hil]

Are you kidding!.. every men on this planet loves a tease,
we want our girl or wife to be a tease

[Anon-ymous1]

It's a huge turn off if there's no payoff. It's a big turn on if there is payoff. Are you going to have sex with him or not?

[Anonymous]

Being a tease is a BIGGGGG turn on for me. I don't even like nudes, it just defeats the surprise even though I know every birthmark on her body.

[jon28805]

Teasing is fun. It just builds the excitement for later.

[Anonymous]

Being a tease is a turn on for a little while but if all you want to do is tease with no intention of having sex then that can make most guys mad.

[BrittBratt2416]

A little bit but not all the time.

[amel23]

If he's boring AF its a turn off

[slatyb]

He's kidding around. He loves it.

[Bandit74]

It can after a certain point.

[kitty71]

At what point a tease can be a turn off for guys?

[Bandit74]

@kitty71
That depends on the guy.

[kitty71]

but give an example when

[Bandit74]

@kitty71
I can't really give an exact timeframe, but I know I would eventually get annoyed if my girlfriend has been consistently teasing me and getting me really turned on without it ever leading to sex. I would be more understanding if the girl was a virgin, but even then it would get old after a while.

[kitty71]

and if the lady is n ot like consistently teasing him but just once in a while will the guy will be bored still'?

[Bandit74]

@kitty71
That is probably fine.

[kitty71]

I want to tease a guy but not so often as Im not comfortable yet to be intimate with him but I dont hiim to loose interest either how can i do it?

[Bandit74]

@kitty71
Are you actually 46?

[apple24]

Brah I don't think she is. Honestly that's my worse nightmare. Getting a guy turn on only to be a total bitch and say no. I actually had that happen with a guy. Only I literally said let's have sex and he never invited me to his place. Lol

[kitty71]

why the question? Well dont laugh but i am a V so what? is there a problem?

[Bandit74]

Well I am a virgin too so I am probably not the best person to get advice from. I was just answering from the standpoint that being tempted with the prospect of getting something you really want and then denied it has the potential of becoming annoying after a certain point regardless of whether or not it is sex we are talking about.

I just thought it was weird that a 40 year old would want advice from a 20 year old. :/

[Bandit74]

@kitty71

[kitty71]

in this century you people have more experience tan I am im sure

[Franitz]

I would have dumped someone like you.

[pizzalovershouse]

if your not seeing them yes

[OfDeath]

yeah it's unnecessary and annoying

[zagor]

Only a turn off if you're doing it to everyone.

[koltepreetam]

its ok till a limits...

[Tyberius]

Yes! I'm gone in quick order

[Sabretooth]

I would recommend against it

[john19922]

Just be honest, talk, be an adult, all that jazz

[Anonymous]

Huge turn off! Guys don’t like “difficult” girls..

[Anonymous]

I personally hate being teased

[GayHowellMeme]

Men don't like it.

[YHL6965]

No, I love it!

[kadj093]

Huge turn on

[Anonymous]

It is a turn on

[Anonymous]

Yeah