That is exactly what is happening to me. I like this guy and I feel he likes me too but I dont want things fast with him, as he may be expecting I want to get to know him, a bit more, and enjoy his company, what is the rush to get laid with guys so fast why can't guys wait like some women wait. Please let us get to know you, enjoy your company when we hang out, everything in due time.
This guy we had alreayd had some physical contact in our 2 dates so far, in both dates we had made out super nicely, and in the last date he kissed my neck and that was such a turn on for me and I told him that.
I told him that I enjoy his kissing and he kissing my neck. In our second date he rubbed my legs as we have our normal conversation and also I let him do taht I like that. After our second date over text, he even told me he masterbated for me cause he remember the way I smell and he remember him rubbing my legs.
Then he asked me if I could send him a picture of my boobies. I of course, did not send him anything, sorry but i was not comfortable doing it. The only photo I did send him, was one with my boobies but with a bra on it and it was not even a full picture of my bra, it was only one boobie with the bra on it. The next day he asked me over text if I could send him a full boobie pic but I let him waiting cause I did not send him anything and so far I haven't sent him anything.
He does want to get naughty with me, and get laid bt Im hesitant to go to that phase but I dont want him to loose interest of me, because I like him and for me it has been so hard for so many years to finally meet someone who really is interest in me and seems he likes me, that I dont want to loose him but I dont want to give in easily either.
You know Im a V and he knows it and he told me on our second date he did not mind, but being a V is what still makes me hesitant to be intimate with him, im a little scare to go to that unexplored territory and unknown territory for me for like my entire life, I dont know how I will behave or react when the moment comes, if i act like a fool or i be acting stupid or what or I dont know if i be even comfortable to get naked in front of him as we had never seen eahc other naked bodies before ever. There are many factors that for me is refraining me to tell him YES soon.
I dont mind the making out, cuddles, and kisses or if I explore his body first, with him but I know he will like to go more than that.
What to do? Any suggestions?
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Lol as a virgin we'll always be called a tease. Guys love it because it's fun and exciting but after a while they get resentful.
So if I were you I wouldn't sex unless you're planning one day in the future to have sex
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I tease my husband all the time with naughty text messages and he loves it.
Yes and no. A: each guy is different. Some guys get off on being teased, some guys hate it. Usually, it's a matter of confidence vs. insecurity.
I'd say teasing does better when there can be no follow through, such as in public. When there's no way to alleviate the tension it creates, guys are more likely to allow that frustration to build into a storm of sexual desire to be taken out whenever they deem possible. Do it like this when you two are out, and the moment you two get privacy, he'll be so pent up, you won't have a moment to prepare yourself.
That said, not allowing him to follow through will sour the tension into actual frustration. If all of that teasing leads to him having to find another outlet, he'll resent the teasing.
Basically, if you want to get some later on, go for it. If not, don't tease the poor guy.
Teasing is one of the best ways to flirt if done right. He is being impatient. I don't blame him, but you will eventually need to give him some release if you plan on keep sending him sexy photos and flirting. Even if you don't want to have PIV sex yet, you could still make out with him, pleasure him with your hand, or give him a BJ (if that is what YOU want to do).
Just bear in mind that teasing with no plans of taking things further is just torturing the poor guy, especially if he really likes you and you guys are an item.
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A little teasing at first is fun, but when that's ALL you're doing it becomes irritating and can feel like the girl is just playing you. I want to know at some point if we're going to start getting intimate.
Oh my God, no! I absolutely love women who tease and frustrate me relentlessly, especially if you're dating a guy whom you're having sex with regularly.
When you tell me in vivid detail about your intimate sexual encounters with him, it just drives me absolutely crazy with jealous excitement!
Teasing is fine, but I'd you're leaving him with Blue Balls for 4 months straight, if so I can see how he might be asking for something more. Teasing is awesome to a certain point, but as a man, one of the worst things is having pain for an hour in your nutters that doesn't go away because you got teased and left to fend for yourself.
I think you need to have this talk with him after 4 months. He's being polite. He wants to ask you to send nudes. And he is. "take it off". But he's not pressuring you. He's a good man. Especially after 4 months. Let him know that if you were into that, you might send a nude, but you're not. If he understands, he'll expect to get none. And will appreciate what you do send all the more. If you don't let him know, adventually, it will lead to an issue. Just be honest with him.
It's a turn on for a while, but past a certain point it just becomes frustrating instead which is when it becomes a turn off.
You're pushing it. Teasing is only fun if he believes something will eventually happen. If you dangle the carrot for too long, he will seek the carrot elsewhere.
Being a tease is fun every once in a while. But when you do it all the time, well, it either gets boring or annoying.
Extreme turn on, being kept horny and teased relentless is a kink of mine.
Teasing is THE BEST part of datin with someone! Hands down :D
Exciting as a prelude. If no payoff then gets old fast. Think of another way of saying "Azure Spheres" and you'll get my drift
At the start it can be fun. But turning it into hard-to-get teasing is frustrating and usually doesn't end well.
a little teasing whether verbal or pics can be fun and at least you're doing this while dating too.
Dating for 4 months and you guys haven't had sex yet - at the age of TWENTY THREE?
Wow, I though 4 month relationship with no sex end at 16...Teasing is fine. It will make him wait to find out what lies beneath.
You don't have to send nudes or have sex not to be a tease. As long as you relieve him it's all good. So if you want, just tell him to take it out and you'll take care of him and give him a nice, explosive release.
Don't send nudes, teasing is better, especially if you didn't do the dirty yet. What's holding him up anyway? Is he gay? Or do you just not find him attractive?
Are you kidding!.. every men on this planet loves a tease,
we want our girl or wife to be a teaseIt's a huge turn off if there's no payoff. It's a big turn on if there is payoff. Are you going to have sex with him or not?
Being a tease is a BIGGGGG turn on for me. I don't even like nudes, it just defeats the surprise even though I know every birthmark on her body.
Teasing is fun. It just builds the excitement for later.
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